Dating Q and A 01-12-24

Jesus, this is bright.

Hello, hello, hello. Coming on late, honey. On the late freight. Thank you.

On the late freight.

I have a message from one of my clients. Hello, hello, hello, honey.

Hello, hello, hello, Everyone. Can't believe that y' all are up so late.

What is going on, honey?

What's really. The tea girl had to listen to one of my clients.

Why am I up? I'm up because I am gonna be on the plane tomorrow. So I feel like I'm kind of like, you know, it's like there's no school tomorrow, so I feel like I can kind of do my thing tonight, honey.

You know what I mean? And I'm still up because I was packing, and then I had a. A group session tonight. It was a really good, powerful one. So it was amazing.

But we're just gonna kiki. You know, Kiki on the. Kiki.

Some of you who don't know me, my name is Mini. Call me Coach Anwar. I'm a dating coach for black and brown women, helping them get their guy, honey. So if that's something that you want to do, we should have a conversation. Just yesterday, one of my clients in New York was. Was letting me know that she got her guy, which is so exciting.

And she was letting me know that this guy is doing things that my husband never even did. So it's very possible out there, ladies. So if you're feeling like, oh, my gosh, I can't do it, don't do that, girl. You're already given that defeatist attitude, girl. Nothing good can come of that.

So I'm on here, just chilling, about to go to tomorrow. I have to go to Vegas and help a friend out. So I'm. I'm be, you know, up, and then I'm leaving early tomorrow morning. You know, sometimes when you have to. You're traveling, you're like, I'll sleep on the plane. That's what I'm gonna do.

Hey, Nastasia. Hello.

Some of these names I can't read, girl. No shade. Hello, Pat Rice. Thank you so much for the Five Roses. Hey, Patrice. Hey, Vanessa. Hey, Sarah. Hey, B. Lola. Hey, Louisa. Hey, Pat Rice. Hey, Sugar on the flow Josh said, hello, I'm from United States, girl, not with that grammar.

Chronicles of crazy and we're the icon not girl, I'm regular degular just like you, honey. Uchimar. Hello, girl. Hey, Chrissy. Chocolate goddess said, I love, love, love your podcast. Thank you so much. Let me know if there are any things that you want to hear on the podcast. I have literally I have about seven guests. I have it all the way up until, you know, may. But if there are things that you want me to talk about on the podcast, I'll do it, honey. I'll do it. Also, I am looking for women to read certain chapters of the book that I'm writing so I can get more feedback and make sure that it's the best book possible. So if you are open to helping me make the best dating book for black women, definitely send me an email@Anwar getyourguycoaching.com My email is in my bio. I'm looking for like five women.

And.

I am hoping that we can. I've never asked black women for free labor, so hopefully we can make an exchange with dating coaching. That's something that people are interested in as well.

Hi Gigi Latrice Said hello, my favorite dating coach on Tick Tock. Hey girl, good to see you. Thank you for that. Bonnie Said, I love your podcast and videos so much. You're so insightful. Thank you.

KK said, it's early in Cali. I know that's right. Cali girl. Sharonda said she couldn't sleep girl take an Ambien girl no shade.

Girl. I know nothing about the medications girl don't listen to me girl. I'm not a doctor. Bonoir Chris Tack t said. Hi Amy. Let me ask my question first. Emotionally unstable men, meet them where they are. No or no? No. Girl.

Girl.

You gotta.

This question is like disturbing me a little bit. Why would we meet some what if you have a toddler who's throwing a tantrum? Do you think that they can be saved at all?

No, they got to do what they got to do. Get their together and then you can engage with them. Yeah. So no we don't meet. When you say meet them it means lower yourself, never that we don't match energies in love. We stay where we're at and if they meet us, great. If they can't.

We let them go. Yeah CeeLo said, do you take queer clients if they're women? I work with women.

CIS transfer queer women, honey. Keisha said hey more hey girl. Ms. Baby said you said something about light skinned men and mentioned Jesse Williams. Has he had a scandal? Yeah girl, Google it. It's not a scandal. He's just shady and one of my best friends knows his ex wife personally and I have the deets on that and it's not cute and it's mess.

And I think he was looking for his Coretta Scott King.

No shade. Shade. Yeah.

The Real Vivian Said, I smile every time I see you live. Thank you, girl Shy said, I love listening to you talk. I love your humor. Thank you, girl. Gutter humor. Girl Troll up humor.

Jim Marie, thank you so much for the five flowers. Let's use. Thank you so much for the love you Medea said. Advice for a 21 year old. Get that degree, honey. Get that degree.

That's it. First and foremost.

Every time. Here's the thing, the boys at 21 are wildly unserious. So I don't want you to take your dating life super seriously. Have fun, learn about yourself, learn about men, but don't take it seriously. It's not like it's the 1940s where you get to marry somebody when you're 18 or 20 or 21. Don't do that. Denise said, are you packing winter or beach clothes? I am packing cash clothes because I'm going to be helping my friends. So I, I, it's, it's not going to be a cute stitch. Chronicles of Crazy Said, what's in your cup, girl? Wouldn't you like to know? Unfortunately, it is not anything with alcohol in it. I wish it was, girl. Then I would be really messy. But, you know, I try to keep it cute and professional most of the time. This BB said, also, I really enjoyed your Patreon with Julie. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Yeah, I actually went on live while I was doing that because.

Yeah, I always try to, you know, have my, have my ladies see what I do when I'm not on live.

Yesterday, I was chatting with a dating app that wanted, wanted me to partner with them. Today I was doing certain interviews. It's.

You know, it's busy out there.

All right, so for those of you that don't know, I'm in here because I'm here to answer your questions about dating, love, relationships and men or women or anything in between. So put your questions in the chat and I will answer them in the, in the order that I see them. Yeah. And thank you all so much for the almost 8,000likes. If you feel like I'm saying something that resonates with you, tap the screen, double tap, triple tap, and we'll go, we'll keep on going until, girl, I pass out. Oh, I already got some emails from book readers. Yes, honey. Yes, honey. I got about 10 of y' all already. I love that. I love that. I feel so supported. Thank you for that. I think it's really gonna help me, like, hit it, honey, hit it. Yeah, so I love the fact that y' all have emailed me already.

Miss Said. Hi, Amber. Do you believe in getting a pie for potential serious partners? What is a P.I. oh, private investigator. I think that you can do a lot of that on your own.

With a variety of different websites. Yeah. But, yeah, I think a PI Is very, very intense. Sequoia said, fairy godfather, not father, girl. I'm fair. Fairy godbrother. A little bit younger than the father. I like to think so.

Like I said, not with that grammar. Oh, no, you need to be stopped, girl.

You know what? The thing is, I'm the kind of girl who doesn't. I don't let men get away with anything. They have to go. They have to come a correct.

This is a pass or fail class, and most people will. Will fail. I'm that professor. Yeah, especially if they're men. So I'm very hard on men, and I think you should, too.

Nice. A podcast. LinkedIn bio. Yeah, girl. The podcast is called the getyourguy coaching podcast. It is like a top 30, top 50 relationship podcast.

In the U.S.

Got it. So if you want to be part of my pre reading club, because I want to get some, you know, I'm a researcher at heart. I want to get some feedback so I can make it the best possible. So I'm looking for people to read, like, a chapter, a couple of chapters or so, or if you want to read, you know, every week, read a chapter for, you know, 12 weeks or something like that.

That might be really cute, too. Someone said a book club or reading club. Okay, that might be interesting. Someone said, I'm in my reading bag right now. I know that's right. Thank you. New Year's resolution.

Moxie said, how to be more outside. Okay, this is what I want you to do, girl. Okay, I want you to put your shoes on. I want you to put a jacket on. I want you to unlock your door. I want you to open that door. I want you to step outside. That's how I want you to be more outside.

Bria said, thank you so much for the rose girl.

Mix. Ma said, you're my jam. Thank you, girl. Jay said, my boyfriend ghosted me for three days, and I decided to ghost him for two days, and he called me, but I didn't pick up. All right, girl, it sounds like we're playing games now, girl. Should I roll the dice next? Should I ghost for one day to keep with the pattern, girl?

Jim Marie said, Amore is out here saving lives one woman at a time. Yes, honey. Serving Superman Clark Kent up in Here. Tinder said, love your perspectives. Thank you. Big Mama said, love watching you. Even though I have been married for 22 years, you're always spot on. Thank you.

Esther said, hi from the Bay Area. Why did you take down today's video? Here's the thing I always want. I'm going to do a new video today. And the thing about the algorithm is that sometimes if you do video after video, they won't be fully seen. The algorithm is doing something really weird. So I will post that video another time. I'm trying to space out my videos a bit more. Last year I was doing them every day, but now I'm going to do them like every other day.

So.

Jojo said, I was texting a man. He said.

He'S on Bumble to spice up his weekday routine. I just can't.

And Nikki said, what's your opinion on Venezuelan men? I don't know many of them, honey, so I can't really have a true opinion on it. It sounds like you talking to one right now, honey. Is he in Venezuela right now? Because it's pretty dangerous over there. Girl.

Moxie said, how to stop being a homebody. Oh, girl, you keep on asking this question. Girl.

Oxtruok said, met a great guy at work. He seems quite established. No kids. I'm 30, he's 44. Is that too old? Help. I think that I always say in terms of age ranges plus 10 years, minus 5 years, it's a good age range to date in. Yeah. So.

He'S at a different chapter of his life than you may be.

The other thing is I'm not the hugest fan of like dating people that you work with because unfortunately it will negatively affect the woman if things go awry or stray than it will the man. That can be really dangerous.

The candle lady said, hey Omar, I love your content. Thank you. Millie said, what do you think about dating someone that speaks a different language? Are you Talking about like 90 Day Fiance different language? Are you talking about broken English?

That's what I want to know.

Fifi said, do you think it's better to talk on the phone for a little bit first or just go on the date? I think, I think the more opportunities that you can get to know someone before going out on the date, the better. Yeah. Sprinkle Sprinkle said, am I overthinking or do white men communicate differently through text as opposed to black men?

I don't know if you're overthinking per se. I'd be curious to understand what your Experience has been.

Nia Bobby said, Hispanic, Latino men, they've been catching my eye lately.

All right, girl, try it out. But here's. Here's the gag, girl. Many of them, culturally speaking, many of them do cheat, girl. So they might be catching your eye, but guess who. Whose other eye they're catching? Another five or six women. No shade, so be careful. Akira said, fairy God Gunkle. Girl, I don't. I don't know what. Why everyone is thinking that I'm gay.

Girl. I'm straight. Honey, I'm straight. I'm straight. I'm straight.

Okay. Grizzle said, you're looking good tonight. And we're giving so much face with the bone structure. I thank my mother. Honey, mother.

Jelly beans, thank you so much for the five Roses.

Lady Roa said, why do the majority of the men I attract. Why are they married or in relationships? Is it me? It might be you. If you are.

If you're scantily clad or if you wear a lot of makeup that. For a lot of men, that'll attract men that are kind of like at a lower frequency, the men that can't control themselves physically. Right. And when a guy sees a woman with a lot of makeup, he knows that she's very insecure and that she doesn't think that she's beautiful and that he can kind of do whatever he wants with her. Yeah. So.

This is not me judging. I. I think it's important to understand. Do I got a lot of makeup on? Do I look clownish? No shade. Can you see a more of my skin than. Than my clothes? If that's the case, a lot of married guys will try to hook you in.

Because they think that they'll be able to do whatever they want with you. That 10 to 10%, 20% of the things that his wife won't do in the bedroom, he's going to try those things with you. Yeah. So something to think about. Am I saying change yourself? No, but I do think it's important to understand how some of these shady married guys think.

And how what they're attracted to.

Zayn says, so I've been blocked. So I just blocked a guy I was dating for three months. Narcissist that would gaslight then disappear. Good for you, girl. Congrats. Keith said, don't let up on these men. We're real strict over here now. That's right, honey. You got to be that strict teacher girl.

Cece said, hi, amore. Hey, girl.

She is Austin. What about a man who's 36 and never had a relationship. There are a lot of people that are like that. So the question is why? Why, why, why, why, why? You got to get clear about what that is. The godmother of real estate said, I enjoy. I really enjoy your videos. Thank you, fairy godbrother. You're welcome, girl.

Jatir character. Thank you so much for this Six Roses. Alian said, I have a question. I haven't seen guys that are my type on my apps. What do I do? Well, what's your type, girl? By the way, ladies, your type isn't your type. Just FYI, Camel Lip said, doing that Olympic dating in 2024. I know that's right, girl. 2024 is an Olympic year and you should be Olympic dating.

Gigi said, and why? I really like the way you talk. It's so soothing. Thank you.

Thank you so much.

Mac Muse says it's Amor Anwar time. Thank you, girl. Harmony said, it's minus 8 degrees in Minnesota. Riri Bow said, no, not put on a coat. Yes, girl.

Maxi said, okay, I will do.

Okay. That's the thing. That's why I love coming on here. Because y' all know that it's all family and it's all love here and that nobody's really coming for you. And we want everybody to succeed up in here. Red said, you set? The league was good, but I. I'd be finding them on there. Wasn't good, but I'd be finding them on there. Okay, girl.

Okay. Sure, girl. Sure.

I want everyone to succeed. I just know that the people in the league, they.

They're not bringing home a lot of black girls. So I went to school with those people my entire life.

So that's why.

Jess said, does his job matter? It does because men will self actualize through their career. I'm a PhD and he works at Applebee's.

Girl. Get that lunch special, honey. But he will. He will probably take from you and not give as much.

I always say that if you're making significantly more than a man, it will never work. Unless you want to be in your masculine energy for the entire relationship. That shit is getting really old and women are getting tired and exhausted and they don't want to do that. I don't think you do either.

Yeah. So something to think about.

Books on nails. Going on a date with an engineer tomorrow, thanks to you. You're welcome, girl. You're welcome, honey. I know that's right. Better get into some of that love physics, honey.

Yeah.

Raw euphoria. Anwar, how do I become interesting and make him fall in love, you can't make anyone fall in love with. But what you can do, the way that you can be interesting, is to fall in love with yourself and do things that are interesting. Many of you, no shade, work and then are home and don't really have well rounded lives. And so when you're having conversation with guys, you don't really know what to talk about. Many of you all are like, he's boring. But no shade. You might be boring too, because we don't our lives, we're not doing anything except for working and we're home watching Netflix or Hulu. So I'm saying all of that because I want you all to get out one to two times a week, talk to people. And this isn't just like, I'm not talking to you. This is like a social phenomenon that is happening. Whereas women, even before the pandemic, had 15 friends and now they only have on average five guys had six or seven friends and now guys only have one friend.

Get some friends, honey. Meet some new people.

Yeah.

Pamper palace. Hey, girl. Angie said, can you speak on white Norwegian men? I don't know many of them, girl. Anybody know anything about. I don't, I really don't go north of Germany, honey.

I mean, I'm in Canada, but in Europe, I don't really go north of Germany that much.

Queen speaking said, I love your advice. Thank you, girl, I appreciate that.

Cece said, why are males fishing in the chat? It's anwar time. Well, girl, let them fish, honey. Let them fish. But here's the thing. I don't want you to think that they're fishing, girl, because you're the fisherman. You're the fisher woman. Girl, you gotta pluck these men out of the sea just like the fisher people do, girl. The fish people.

Girl, you're the chooser. Don't ever forget that. Yeah. Sasha said, oh, hi. How much did I miss? Not much, girl. We just kiking.

Not much.

Latrice said, not a lunch special. I'm weak. I mean, what else can the man at Applebee's give you? No shade.

You can get time and attention and validation and all that from anybody else.

Color me Court said, can you elaborate on your type? Isn't really your type. I did a video about this that went pretty viral. But ultimately what I noticed as a dating coach for 14 years is that women are looking for their dream guy and their dream guy has, you know, I think about, I think most of us evaluate men based on their, like their nice guy quotient and Their bad boy quotient. And the dream guy is like, hi, bad boy. Hi, nice guy. Right. That oftentimes. And maybe that's not your tea, but what I've seen is that's the tea for a lot of women. And so that's why I say that type is probably not your type of.

That'S the dream guy, then the husband material. And this is what I help my clients get to, I think is mid bad boy has that masculine energy, can take control, is confident, a bit smooth, but not overly smooth. Hi, nice guy. That's what I think your husband is. And so often it takes time to recalibrate what we're looking for. As someone who gets people into relationship. Two to three women into relationships every week. I ask them each and every time, is this guy your type? And maybe it's just relative to my program, who knows? But 90, 95% of the time they say, no, it isn't. But I'm the happiest I've ever been.

Yeah.

So that's why I say that.

Jim Reese said, I'm in my soft era from now on. I know that's right. Sandra says. Thoughts on Italian men. I lived in Italy for about a year and a half, proposed to two times.

Packing, sensitive, emotional, spoiled, hot.

Some girl asked me, how's your love life? Girl, I'm married.

It's great.

It's amazing. I'm the happiest I've ever been. The reason I say that, too, is because going back to the question about your type isn't your type, girl, I got my MBA from an Ivy League institution, and my type was the guys that look like Jesse Williams but Ivy League educated and six one and over. And I am with someone who is not Ivy League educated, who is five, eight, white and round. And I didn't know that that was going to be my T. But I'm the happiest I've ever been.

And if this man leaves me, girl, I won't know what to do with myself.

Yeah. Nikki, thank you so much for the rose. Charmaine, thank you so much for the rose. My hundredth episode on my podcast is.

The next podcast. So what should I talk about on that hundredth episode? Ladies, do you talk to me? I want to crowdsource this.

Augusta said, I lost a bunch of weight. Now men from the past keep trying to talk to me. What do I do? Pay him no mind.

Pay him absolutely no mind. Because literally, girl, no shade. But they weren't. They're not husband material.

They weren't in it for the thick and the thin. Honey.

Pay him does. Honey pay him does.

See? Grizzle said, found a keeper. So I'm re watching all your old content. Anything to keep in mind at the beginning.

Observe. Don't do anything, just observe. Savvy said am Are you losing weight?

Really?

My weight fluctuates during the winter time because sometimes I'll eat like a hog and sometimes, like I just won't be hungry. But I also think like, you have to understand, like, seasonally speaking, the last two weeks of December and the first two weeks of January are my busy, my busy season. This is where I, I bring in a ton of clients. So I've also been really stressed and I've been working so much. So that might also be it.

Tana Said, Amar, please help. As a healer, how do I get away from men that want to leech emotionally?

You have to literally, like, stop doing that.

Like if you're a healer, if you use your hand, do this, girl. Everything that you would do professionally or with your family and friends, don't do it with the men that you're meeting. This is what I tell therapists, doctors, nurses, all of that. Because.

When you are healing, you're taking care, you're caregiving, you're, you're protecting, you're in your masculine. So you are attracting more dominant, feminine, energetic men.

Yeah. That's why.

JLA Said, why are your services so pricey? Cuz girl, I'm the best.

Because the work is life changing and transformational. And after you finish my program, you'll be a new woman and you'll probably have your guy. Because it's life changing. That's why. And to be honest with you, I actually lowered the price like a couple of months ago to bring more women into the fold. But like, to be honest with you, for my VIP, I could easily charge 10k and like not bat an eye. That's just take a look at the stuff that I give you for free, girl, please understand. It's a sliver of what I give in my program. Why before I got on here, I was chatting with one of my clients at midnight. That's how much support my clients are getting to level up in this area of their life. So many girls are like, oh, I wish I had you in my pocket. No, my VIP clients, they have me in my. In their pocket. Yeah.

So I get it. I get it. It's another reason why I created the get your guy club program. And it's another reason why I created courses that are at a lower Price point. And that's why I'm also creating this book so that depending on what your budget is, you can still get the support if you need it.

Nicole Lynn said, should I be concerned with a flamboyant man?

As a flamboyant man myself, yes. Yes, girl. Don't trust them.

No, seriously, if he's straight and flamboyant, girl, that's giving. Narcissism. That's giving. I need attention. You know those guys that, like, act a fool at weddings and have to do a performance? That's a flamboyant man who wants the attention. And if you are going to be with a guy, he should be wanting to center you, and it shouldn't be the other way around. So, in a serious answer, yes. Patrice, thank you so much for the rose.

Macmusie said, we don't have a third place outside of home and work. Actually, I think that the new third place is the Internet and social media. You do have a third place, but you need a third place that's outside.

Yeah.

Laura said, I live in Toronto. I match with a guy in Michigan. Should I give it a shot? Hell, yes, girl.

Shaylyn said, I'm in Arizona. Should I set my location in another state on the apps? If so, which one I think that you should give? Everyone should have a very wide radius. I would say, like, a third of my clients are getting with guys that are one, two, three hours away. Yeah.

Lulu said, besties and ladies, how do you respond when he asks what you like to eat? Want to remain in my femininity. When a guy says, hey, what do you want to go and eat? Give him two options. I love Italian and I love sushi.

And then based on the things that he knows that you like, he'll choose the one that he also likes the most, too. Then we both have maximized our pleasure here. No problem. I'll take you to get some Italian. Great. That's how you respond in the most feminine way.

Kayla said, how to respond to a guy who says, what would it take for this guy to get you to go on a date?

Well, it depends how fine he is. If he's fine, you just say, he just needs to ask if he's mid. Then you say, oh, he's got to work.

And if he's oogle, then you say, oh, I'm not dating right now. I'm working on myself.

Hannah said, I love you. Thank you so much, girl. Lindsay said, what about those German men? Vena schnitzel.

Yeah. Bitter. Yeah.

Best of Brittany said and where I met an Italian unhinged. We're already on a second date, girl. He's gonna wine and dine and charm you, girl. He's gonna be romantico. Have fun, girl. Have fun.

Oh my God, thank you so much for this hat that I used to wear in junior high, girl, when I thought I was thugging, honey.

Stassi said how to date a God led man.

The interesting thing is that a lot of women think, oh my God, if I just go to church, I'll meet a. I'll meet a guy. Those guys are not the tea. No shade. You want to. You want to volunteer.

Men that are about it bout it aren't just going to the, you know, Bible study on Wednesdays and church services on Sunday. They're really, you know, backing it up with action.

So you want to see somebody volunteering, big brothers, big sisters, you know, food bank, that kind of tea, girl. Yeah, that's what I tell all my Christian girls, girl. Don't go to church, girl.

No shade.

And those guys, those church boys not experienced, acting so shy.

Don't do that, girl. A little bit socially inept. No shade. They read in the Bible all day every day. Don't know how to talk to people.

Lizbeth said, you flamboyant never.

Yes, girl. Yes, girl. That's funny.

Okay, let me see what what y' all are talking about. Okay. Sue Halley says podcast idea your followers followers submit voice memo questions and you play and answer them in real time. I love that. I really love that.

Do. Do y' all want to do that? I could also really just use one of these lives.

Too. But yes, I think that hearing people's voices might be really cute.

Let me see if anybody has other ideas. I really like that idea. I want to say you are just phenomenal. Thank you. And yes, you gave me something so valuable with that feedback. Awesome.

People are gagging on. Not mid.

Ladies. We're all family here. Let's keep it real. Y' all treat hot men, mid men and ugly men very differently. Many of you all will let these hot men get away with murder. Remember that hot guy who like got a modeling contract just based on his mug shot? Like people thought he was fine. They were. They didn't care what he committed, honey. People will let these hot guys get away with murder. And these ugly guys, girl, can't catch a break. Be the nicest, funniest whatever in the world. Just shaded for no reason.

Yeah.

Okay. Hi. What do you think of men that didn't grow up with their mothers because they passed away. I think that the abandonment wound is going to be very, very strong also. Many men will try to find that void in you.

So they'll lean into people that will have a more emotional kind of presence.

Meaning like, you know, like when you fall and your mother like comforts you. That kind of presence.

King to Said, I love your content, but does it work with women too? I get this question all the time. The way that I think about dating is through energy, masculine and feminine energy. And even in same sex relationships and dating, it's all about energies. I know it's really shocking but like in my relationship, I am the masculine energy. Don't let the mannerisms and the very high pitched voice fool you. Yeah. So yes. But you just have to figure out what energy you're giving in your same sex dating life.

So adorable. Said thoughts on Asian men.

If you look at, if you look at Asian men, they're making the most money in the U.S.

Many of them are service minded, don't complain a lot.

But.

One of the things that I think is important, especially if you're a black woman, is that.

They'Re even worse than the white guys. Meaning like the white guys, at least you can like have a conversation with them. The Asian guys.

They'Ll be looking at you when you're looking away.

Meaning like you won't even be able to catch if they're liking you or not. You'll be, look, you'll be over here and he'll be looking at you and then when you turn your face, oh sorry. When you turn your face, he'll go like this. You literally have to.

You know when those kids are really bad and then the, the rich parents, like how Paris Hilton's mom did it to her. Like they'll have to like grab you in the middle of the night and take you off. That's what you have to do with some of these Asian men grow and that's too much work. You, it is very difficult to be in your feminine energy with amasian man.

During the courtship process for sure.

Renee said, not thugging in junior high, girl. I didn't know what I was doing, girl.

A121r long reply is always a red flag. Do you mean like on the apps or via text? Scroll?

God lost my place.

Chan said, I don't trust hot man. I don't either. Girl. In my experience, hot men think that they're a prize and like I'm not confident enough to be with a hot man. If they get any attention everywhere we go, girl. Girl, I'll be paranoid. Also, many of them are not good in bed. No shade. Many of them just kind of stand there and look at themselves in the mirror. Think you're supposed to do all the work. Girl, I need. I need a partnership. I need. I need us kayaking together, honey.

You know? Yes, honey. Jeremy Meeks was his name. Prison Bay.

And Nikki said opinions on Christian men. I think I gave my opinion on them already. I don't want to. I don't want to talk about them too much, girl, because they'll get me.

We re both said, I love a midman. Honey, the midman are where it's at, girl. Cuz here's the thing. They got something to prove, so they'll always work hard for you.

Yeah.

Rin said, but I love the uglies. You don't want the ugly Ugly. That's. I think some. Some women do wrong dating math. Honey. You think that. Oh, my God. If he's oogly oogly, he's gonna try extra hard. No, he's. When the guys are oogly oogly, they've lost hope. They already know it's never gonna happen for them, so they don't even try that hard. Girl. You think, oh, this is gonna be an easy one, right? He'll just adore me because he's so ugly. That doesn't happen, girl.

The mid is where you want to be.

Mid, hot. Emotional quotient. 10.

You want like a 6 or a 7. Physical, intellectual. You want an 8 or a 9. Emotional, you want a 9 or a 10. That.