Dating Q and A 02-20-24

Sipping champagne.

Hello, hello, hello.

Hello, hello, hello, everyone.

Welcome, welcome, welcome. Hello, hello, hello.

It's good to see everyone. I hope everyone's doing well. Hello, hello, hello, my loves. Hope you all are doing well. What's the tea? What's the Tuesday tea tonight? Honey, give me. I want to hear some mess.

So give me some mess. Honey, where's the mess?

I want to hear some mess. Give me some messy tea about some boys. Girl.

I want to know. I want to know what these boys are doing, honey. And if you've been messy, I want to hear about it tonight. You hear me?

Risa Tisa is all the mess. No, girl, I'm tired of hearing that name. I want to hear about your mess. Okay, okay. I'm getting some mess. I'm getting some mess. Someone said on ig, I have a huge crush on my chiropractor. I know that's right, girl. So what are you gonna do about it? That's the question. What are you gonna do about it? Crack Snapple, you know, Pop, honey, what are you gonna do about it? I want to know the mess. I want to know what. How messy y' all are getting. Honey.

What'S the tea?

Someone said, please read my email. Oh, girl, I don't read emails. Girl, I don't read emails. Unfortunately, I don't read dms. I don't.

Cookie cake said, lmafo. Keep professional. Don't keep it professional for now. Girl, don't come up here talking about you have a crush on your chiropractor and then say, oh, no, I'm not gonna do anything about it. That's not what we do here. That's not what we do here. Yeah. All right. So for those of you that don't know me, my name is Coach Anwar. Anwar White. I am a dating coach for black and brown women. And I am here to, you know, help you level up your love life. So in the chat, you can, you know, we're going to talk about love, relationships, men or women, dating. Put your questions in.

The chat and I will answer them in the order that I see them. Okay?

And if I say something that.

Dulce said, no DMs or emails. And you ain't send Amar no coin. I know the girls just say, oh, can you just. Can you give me some coaching on this? And I'm like, girl, you're not my client. I have so many clients right now. This is why I, like, literally go ahead and, like, do these lives and have the podcast so that I can, you know, help the girls right in the way that is helpful for you. Barbells and Stiletto said, go ahead and book that consultation call. I signed up last Thursday, and I've already had huge change in myself as well as in my love life. Yes, girl, Love that.

Yeah. Okay, let me see what y' all are talking about. All right. I'm getting a lot of haze. No shade, honey. I'm not. I'm not gonna skip the haze, but I'm gonna say one big hey to everyone who said hey. Yeah. Hope y' all are doing well. What's the tea? And if I say anything that you are living for or that you're gagging on, like, tap, double tap, triple tap the screen, honey, we're gonna run the likes up, girl. And that's just what the tea is going to be about. Yeah. Monica said, so nice to see you. Thank you, girl. Thank you. Like I was saying before, I want to know. I want to know mess. I want to know what y' all are getting into, because 2024 is about the plot. You got to do it for the plot, honey. No shade. But some of our love lives are getting real boring, so we gonna have to liven it up, honey. You hear me?

In my element. Blue said, love your dating advice. Thank you, girl. Medusa said, got a first date tomorrow for Boba, but he left me on scene all day today. Girl, let him, let him, let him. He'll come back to you black. And Ty said, yay, Fairy Anwar. I know that's right, girl, but don't call me fairy Anwar again. Feels homophobic to me.

Ellie said, these men are broke. They are, but it's also because we're living in a recession. It's a quiet recession, but it's a recession nonetheless, honey. So the gag is that these guys are not going to be taking you out as much as they used to or were before. Right? So a lot of men. And this is why I'm telling all of my girls that we're going to go outside, because these men will play with you in the apps and want to kick it and hang out on the apps and text for weeks on end and not take you out. So. But we, the ladies in my program, we got a job to do. Yeah. The people's doc said, Christian men trying to hit after the purity conference. I know none of those Christian men are pure. No shade, girl. They're the worst of the words and they. Girl. And the veil is the Bible.

Horn dogs. Sigma said, I want to book a session. Well, girl, if you want to book a Consultation call, go to the link in my bio and book it. But let me tell you, that is for women that want to work professionally with me. I'm not going to kiki with you. My boundaries are very tight when it comes to that. If I talk to everybody, I would have 50 consultations a day. And I love y' all to death, but I don't have the time. I got my clients, I got my family, girl. I got three kids. And I know with this body, you would never think it, honey. She snapped back, but, honey, I got kids, honey. I got half a Brady Bunch up in here. Yeah. So she has things to do. Don't play with me in my time, girl. If you want a kiki, come in here, talk your shit here, girl. Or what we're not gonna do is book a consultation so that you're gonna talk to me and then not even have any interest in working with me. Just using me, girl. Used and abused, honey.

Yeah.

What is going on with my phone? It's freaking out.

Okay, thank you all so much for the 10,000 likes already. Y' all are already doing the damn thing. Honey, TikTok still has me in jail, girl. Even if my last video got, like almost 300,000 views. Please understand that, like, my average is a much more than that. Like, I only have like 500 people here on the live. Usually that's like 1100, 1200. So please understand I'm still in jail, honey. Give us us free.

Hannah. Yeah, Said, love your podcast. Thank you, girl. I appreciate that. Bellatrix, that you still a black creator, girl. Don't make me put on my. Don't.

Put on a different face, girl.

Let me see what you girls are talking about. Healer Said, I'm ready to date women. Forget the men. I've been holding back. No shade, girl. You might have to do it. And you know why? And quiet as it's kept grow. We're all family here. Some of us have had our lezzy moments, honey. We've. We've gone into it, honey, and that's okay. Do what you must. Girls got to eat. Jada. Ken said, what do you think about guys that go out a lot?

What is going on here?

I think that they're promoters and they're promoting themselves.

Men that are ready to marry don't go out a lot. They don't. They're at home working on their side business. They're at home working on the homes that they've just purchased and doing the work by themselves. They don't go out a lot.

That's what I think about it. Little pretty Lulu said I got you guy on bumble decided he no longer wanted to chat or meet because I didn't respond on B day. Okay, that's a little bit of mess. I want real mess girl. Yeah. Nicole said, how can I date as a single mom? My baby always comes first. That's the shade. The shade is you gotta come first. So you need to start doing that and filling into your cup first so that you can give to other people. As someone who is also a parent and who's been there oftentimes as parents, we can lose our entire identity. Right now it sounds like you wearing that mom hat and you got to take that mom hat off and also put that woman hat on on occasion.

Yeah.

Chrissy said, as soon as I started watching to can play that game, you started a lab girl the. The Lord works in mysterious ways. Girl girl she's putting you on game girl and I am too girl girl me and Vivica girl we trying to help you out, sweetie.

Lips lips emoji said we appreciate you. Thank you girl so he said, what are your rates if you book a consultation call? I have all of the like courses and programs and all of like the different there's like different payment plans, different prices. The other thing is like.

When you if you do the consultation call, that's why I say if you're ready. Great. Because after that I like on the call, I give a fast action discount. If you're not able to like purchase the program in those couple of days, the price goes up to the regular price, which is 1 to $3,000 more. So please, if you book a call, be ready. Honey.

Someone'S asking about Ghanaian men.

Girl.

Well, here's what I will say. They are not as bad as the Nigerians. No shade girl.

Purple curl said, what do you think about the league? Girl I think the league those guys aren't really checking for you. It's not a place that I recommend like it. I rated apps last year. I think it was on my no grade list. That's how bad it was, you know. Well, maybe you weren't that girl but for the girls that were real messy first semester, fall semester, freshman year and you were out in the frats and the parties too much and maybe it was that one class that was at 8am that you never got to that you got a lower grade on. And maybe you got a no grade that you had to go pass, no pass, pass, fail on. Yeah girl that's the lead. Girl it's A fail. Yeah.

Meg said, what's your opinion on being friends with an ex?

Well, it depends on why he's an ex. The same reason why he's an ex is probably the same reason why you don't want to be friends with him. You know what I mean, jelly bean?

Okay. Mikhail said, my man has two kids. My parents may not like that. What should I do? I'm 28. He's 32. Well, I don't care what your parents think. And the fact that you're saying that lets me know that we might be dating for other people and not ourselves. Is he a good father? That's the question. 32 with two kids. It's not crazy. Now, if you tell me he's 32 with two kids and three babies, mamas, then that's crazy, girl.

You know what I mean? Like, come on, now. I don't care about your parents. I care about what you think and how he treats you. Yeah.

What is really going on here, Girl?

Why is everyone asking me about Risa? Tessa Ressa. Tessa? Girl, I'm not. I don't care about that. I'm not interested.

And that's no shade. It's just like, she's had an experience that many people have had. Right? I literally go through that each and every day. I feel bad for her, I'm sorry for her. I hope she's learned from that experience. But, girl, no, shade. I want you to focus on yourself.

You listen to her. Her love life. Girl, get your own love life.

Yeah. Luna. Sky said, hi, from Oxnard. Hey, girl. You know I'm from Oxnard, too, girl. Ventura county represents Southern Cal. So that's. That's the takeaway. That's what I think about that viral thing. Get your own love life. So you're not so invested in that one.

Cammie said, am I happily married to a white man living a soft life? Yes. Do I still watch your videos? Yes. I know that's right, girl. I know that's right, girl.

Kappa said, what differences do you see in young people in their late 20s and early 30s dating? The differences between late 20s and early 30s? Well, here's the thing. Men will have their second puberty between the ages of 30 and 33. This is where they have a little bit of a biological clock. This is where they will gain another 10 to 15 pounds. This is where their testosterone will start to decrease a little bit. And the thing is, when testosterone decreases a little bit, this is where men are going to be more apt to fall in love. So this is Why? I don't really have clients that are younger than 26 because the men are going to be wildly unserious. It's like educated guys are not going to be ready to settle down until the age of 32. And that's been backed by research. Now, if he's uneducated, he'll be ready to marry by 26. Yeah. So that's why, like, that's why I work with who I work with. So late, late 20s. I think we're still in, like, training day. As Denzel Washington would say, early 30s. That's when we start to get serious.

Max said, thoughts on the Match Match group lawsuit? I think that I'm glad that it's coming about. I think that they've overstepped, especially with hinge. I think hinge has been very unethical. And from what I hear, they are rolling that back. Yeah. So I'm happy about that.

Okay. Annette said, I have a crush on my professor. Okay. This is some mess that I want to hear. I want to hear about this kind of mess. Did anyone ever have a crush on their professor? And if so, did you do anything about it to get that? A no. Shade. No. Just kidding. Just kidding. Just kidding. Just kidding. Just kidding. Just kidding. Just kidding. Just kidding. Okay.

Adora Dairy said, I need a plot. Girl, you gotta make your own plot. Literally. Tonight I was talking and teaching my clients how to get into their main character energy so that you get a plot.

Yeah.

Hannah. Yes. Said I'm the wrong girl to tell to do it for the plot. Why, girl? Why, girl? We want to know. Kat 24k, said Amore. Are coffee dates okay? They're great. They're great. I love them. You better get into them, honey. Especially if you want someone that's a little bit more solid, meaning.

More stable. A lot of the wealthier and rich guys will.

Do a copy date first because they're not going to really lean in and, like, invest in you until they know that there's going to be a great return. So you want to lean into the coffee dates.

Okay. Cookie said, Bessie, what's the tea? On approaching my chiropractor. I'm begging, girl. So you're gonna have to do okay. When he's working on you, don't give. Don't do anything while the work is happening. Your tea is before or afterward. But also, you gotta check this. Yeah. Sometimes because he's working, it'll be like this. But you gotta check to see if there's a. Do you see? There's like a little white ring because I keep my rings on because I'm faithful. Right. You'll generally see this with the married guy. Sometimes the girls are like, oh, he doesn't have a ring on. But girl, does he have the ring tan? Does he have the ring tan? I have a little bit of a ring tan.