Dating Q and A 02-27-24

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Sorry about it. Hello, hello, hello, everyone. I hope everyone is doing well. For those of you that are just hopping on. Welcome, welcome, welcome. So happy to see you. So happy that you're here. Let me just.

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Thank you so much for the compliment on my hoodie adventures with Crystal. I forget where I got this, girl. You know, I used. I used to work in fashion. I used to be, like, labeled up, girl. You know, my ass is always at Marshalls and Ross and Winners. It's the equivalent here in Canada, girl. It's my bomb song now. So I got this Nike sweatshirt from, I think Winners. Yeah.

Okay. IG can hear, hear me. Okay, good. All right, Let me see what the girls are talking about. Hey, Mystique. Hey, thick and sweet. Hey, hat she said. First time I got on your life, girl. Hopefully it's not the last. Hello, Art. Hey, H. Hey, Turner. Hey, Dulcie. Hey, Jordan. Girl. Hey. Eva said hi. How do you get a guy to follow through on asking you for a date? You don't get guys to do anything, right? If he's not doing it by himself, he's out. Ladies, we're not here to manipulate. I just came from New Orleans. We don't need to voodoo these guys into asking you out. Here's the thing. Your future guy, boyfriend, husband, if you choose to get married, you're never going to have to want him to do certain things because he's just going to do them because he's inspired, because he wants to. Yeah. Just FYI, for those of you that don't know, my name is Amber White. I'm a dating coach for black and brown women. And. And I'm here to help you level up. So put your questions, your dating questions about love, dating, relationships, and men or women in the chat, and I'm going to answer them in the order that I see them. I'm glad that many of you are here early and so that I get to answer your questions because at some point, there's probably going to be like a thousand people in here on TikTok, so it's going to be harder to get those questions answered. No shade. Hey, Conscious beautiful. Hey, mk. Hey, Sabrina. Hey, Celeste. Dulcie, thank you so much for the rose Lexus. She said she had a first date last night. It was great. Amazing, girl. I'm so happy to hear that. Hey, Mari. Hey, Michelle. Hey, Asto. Hey, Chloe, Elise. Hey, Danielle, Renee.

Let me see what the gag is, honey. And just FYI, if you're interested in learning a little bit more about what I do, definitely click the link in my bio. I have a link for my podcast called the get your guy coaching podcast. It's amazing if I do say so myself. I have a link for free trainings. I have a link for to book a consultation call if you want to work with me professionally. I think I have a link for my YouTube channel as well as something else. Anyway, check that out. And if there's anything that you want to learn more about, definitely sign up for those things. Yeah.

So let me see what. Let me see what the tea is. What y' all doing over here?

Okay. Hello, hello, hello, hello. Let me see. Marwa said, what can you learn from a bad dating experience? Well, it depends on what the experience was, Right. I actually think that you can learn a lot in each and every experience. And for the women that are saying that dating is a waste of time, it's because you're not gleaning the insights that are necessary for you to level up. So of course it's going to be a waste of time if you're not learning anything. I want you to use every interaction that you have with a guy to learn something. Yeah. And that's what we do in my program, right? We're learning through each and every interaction so that we're leveling up every week so that we're ready for the best relationship of our life. Yeah. Persia Lynn said, how do you bring up religion, girl? By just bringing it up. Now, there used to be some old school dating rules, like, don't talk about religion or politics. No shade, bitch. You're gonna have to talk about it. And I want you to talk about it early. And the reason is, one, it's an election year, so it's going to be on like top of mind for a lot of different people. And two, the research is saying that men are actually becoming more conservative and women are becoming more liberal. And that is a value misalignment. Right? So you're going to want to know about their religion, you're going to want to know about their political leanings, right? So you can figure out if you have the same values or not.

Don't act cute and mute here. Bring it up. Don't be cute about it. Hey, so what would you say? Like, did you grow up religious or spiritual? What did that look like for you?

Right. Politics. So, you know, where do you lean politically? And why?

Straight up. Don't try to be cute about a girl. Don't do that.

Ash, thank you so much for the rose, girl. Sarah said, nigerian men. What do we think? Well, I did a whole video about it, but girl, survey says.

Survey says, don't do.

Is hers that you're Canadian? Well, I'm a dual citizen. I'm American and Canadian. I'm a Canadian American.

Mari said, are you originally from Canada? No, I'm originally from Los Angeles. If you can't hear this valley girl voice and accent, girl, I don't know what to tell you. Jess, at what days do your podcasts air? Well, I have over a hundred episodes that you can catch up and listen to. They're all amazing. And I put out a podcast every two weeks. Yeah, I do that because it's sustainable for me and because, yeah, it's too much to do it every week. I don't. I don't. I don't want to feel that pressure. Yeah.

Odessa said, I see all your videos. It's my first time on your life. Welcome, girl. Sylvia. Hey, girl. Healed and whole. Good to see you. Bree said, hey, fairy God brother. Hey, girl. Hey. I finally have a gold, silver, and bronze medalist. Lol. Not easy, honey. Your podium is full. We love that for you. Now we got to see who's going to win your Olympic race of love.

Fei. Fei said, I like black men, but I control things. I like to make the first move. Is that wrong?

I think. Well, it depends on how you make the first move, right? If you walking up to them with a pimp walk, and you're talking about, hey, baby, right? And you, you know, making the first move in the way that men will, then I'm gonna say, no, ma'. Am. No, ma'. Am. Pam.

Yeah.

That'S not gonna work.

That's not gonna work. And when you think about it, right.

Let'S pretend like dating is like the National Geographic Channel, right? And men are hunting you because that's what they do. No shade. If you. When you make the first move, it's the equivalent of you walking up to a lion and then this playing dead right in front of them. Do you know what the lion is going to do?

He's gonna walk away. He's gonna walk away because there's no chase.

He doesn't feel good about. Just Eating. He want, he needs, he needs the chase and no shade, girl, most of these men, like, they're gonna have to pursue you to fall in love with you. I just did a video about the three stages of men and how they fall in love with women. They have to be able to pursue you. Yeah. So something to think about now in my program, I'm letting my clients know exactly how to navigate that. So if you, if you're interested in learning how to navigate this offline dating thing and meeting guys in real life, definitely book a consultation call. And thank you all so much for the almost 8,000 likes. If there's anything that I'm saying that is resonating with you, tap, double tap, triple tap the screen so that we can, you know, rack these likes up. Honey, at the end of the day. Yeah. Because I'm going to be on here for, I don't know, like an hour or two and we're going to do the work. I'm gonna answer questions. Yeah.

Good, good, good, good, good. Eloquence said. Hey, fairy godbrother. Hey girl. Hey.

User230. What do you think about a guy being rude on a dating app? I don't think about it. I just move on and block. I don't have time for rude. Got people and you shouldn't either. Don't give him grace. Don't. Don't give him a chance. Right. Here's the thing. When you're meeting a guy and dating, he is showing up as the best version of himself at the very beginning. So if the best version of himself is rude, it can only go downhill from there. It's like a roller coaster, right? Like you're literally getting to the top and like physics says that you have to go down from there. That's kind of how relationships are. No shade. So girl, you. He's out immediately. Yeah. Lane says, hi love. Hi girl. Unknown Baddy said, how do you bring up religion? Okay, I answer that question already. Eloquent13 thank you so much for the Four Roses Girl. NAS said also can confirm that some biracial men are dangerous. You are right. I know I'm right. And I got a lot of for that. The girls thought and the boys thought, especially the light skinned girls and boys thought, my God, you're colorist, you're racist, you're breaking down the community. Girl, I get that every week. But I say these things because historically that's how it's been and I think it's important for women of color to understand and be truthful about the experiences that they are having. Right. A lot of people are not talking about this. That oftentimes biracial men, light skinned men, men with light eyes, can be very dangerous because of their privileged upbringing. I always say that these men have the entitlement of a white man, but the trauma of a black man. Girl. That combination, dangerous, narcissistic. I always say, put those guys in the same categories that you would put a policeman, fireman, military pilot, surgeon, danger, surge, stranger, stranger danger. Right. And the gag is. And I want to speak specifically to the dark, dark, darker skinned women. These biracial men will go for you because they will feel like they are elevated versus you. Yeah. And sometimes you'll be like, oh my God. Like as a darker skinned woman, I can't believe I got this pretty light skinned guy. No, girl. Because he wants to be put on a pistol and he thinks that you will do it.

Don't do it.

I mean, do it at your own peril, girl. Right. Just be very cautious. Right. I mean, you see it with Simone Biles, girl. I think you saw it with Kiki.

Dangerous. Dangerous. Wasn't that a Michael Jackson song? That's what I want you to think about when these light skinned men are coming up.

Okay. Aver said a guy said he's interested in me over a text and then went cold for two days afterward. Oh, girl. Apparently he wasn't that interested. No shade. Girl B said, anwar, I need your help. Girl. Put a question in here like everybody else.

Chris Stack said Nigerian men were big mad. I know, girl. And you know what? They get to be big man because I don't really care about them. And I know that what I said was correct because all the Nigerian women were like, yes, they co signed. Girl. Girl. With all the CO signs that I got, girl. Girl, I got into college, I got my loans from college. I got a loan for a new home. That's how many CO signs I got. Yeah, I've been doing this work for 14 years.

I've seen it all. And the people were like, don't speak on Nigerians. You're not Nigerian. Girl, 23. And me said, I'm 25% Nigerian. So now what?

Dulcie said, Portia getting a divorce. I know, girl. Cuz guess what? That man was scamming. He was getting jailed and he was in deportation mode because of his scamming.

Let me see.

Lauren said, hey, hey, hey, girl.

Skincare wellness fixer uppers. Why do I get with them?

Here's what I know. I know that when you Grow up. And you have been parentified like you've been a parent as a child or you've had to take care of your parents. That your definition of love is to save no shade, but you save a hoes. Right? You. You trying to be that savior because that's how you gain value and attention and validation without realizing that you don't have to do anything to be loved. So please understand that this is an inner child wound that you are going to have to heal. The other thing that I want to offer to you is that you're probably in your masculine energy. Thank you for these, girl.

And so you're gonna have to learn how to be in your feminine energy. These are all things that my clients learn in my program. So definitely, if you're ready and willing and you want to be accountable and you want to get your guy in 2024.

Book a call, get into one of these programs, honey. I got about eight women that are about to get in an exclusive relationship in the next three weeks, girl. And I want you to be one of them. Right. And be ready for the best relationship of your life. The this past weekend, I was in New Orleans for a client's wedding, which was amazing.

And it was beautiful to see.

That it's possible how happy she was and that, you know, the work works. Ultimately. Yeah, it's possible. I know that everyone's like, oh, my God, it's impossible these days. It's harder. And it's going to continue to get harder and harder as the years go by. So this is why, like, you want to really lean into this now because. And I. I don't want to be like a doomsday girl, but it is getting harder.

Courtney says, is it a red flag for a guy to tell you his serious life experiences trauma on the first date? I think that, well, one of the things that you're going to know about me, if you haven't already, I don't talk in terms of red flags because red flags are about what you are observing outwardly. And I want all the ladies on here.

To realize that it's about what you're feeling inside. If it doesn't feel good for you, then you just need to step away and you have to honor your feelings.

Yeah. So that's that on that. Hey, Lisa.

Deja. Thank you so much for the compliment. Chris Stack said, Second time, no notification. Yeah, girl. I feel like TikTok has still kind of shadow banned me a little bit. I don't know why, girl. Because all I'm doing is Just spreading. Spreading the word. The word of dating.

Right. Just spilling tea, girl. So they can get mad at that if they want. Sometimes, you know, I say things that can be considered controversial. But here's the thing. I'm not saying anything that people have not already thought and know to be true. In fact, the thing about it, especially in communities of color, is that oftentimes we just won't say the thing out loud. So I try to say the thing out loud to validate what you're thinking so that you don't think that you're crazy. Because a lot of these guys, especially guys of color, they'll try to gaslight you or. Right, they'll sell. They'll say things like, nigerian men are the best.

No, they're not.

Black men don't cheat. Yes, they do. And they actually have the highest rate of cheating. Right? So, like, I'm not subscribing to the bullshit and I don't want you to either. Christian Williams said, Do you have the scoop on the Luxie dating app? Yeah, I thought that it was promising. That's why I waited a couple of weeks. It's not good. If you have seen some of my recent videos, you'll know that I am leaning away from the apps in the first half of 2024. There is no app that is great. So all of my clients are moving on and we are literally talking about how to meet guys in real life, how to flirt. I just got off of a group call where I was helping my clients learn what their flirt style is and how to flirt and where to flirt. Right. So that they know how to get their entire life. Yeah. Thank you all so much for the almost 24,000 likes. I appreciate you all so much.

Rana Views says, can you tell us how to make a man who wants a long term relationship pay me a monthly salary? No, I can't. I'm the wrong girl for that. You probably should go with Shira 7 with that. My job is not to get and get ladies into transactional relationships. My. I'm more of a romantic and love relationship dating coach. Okay. Erica west said, is it on Apple podcasts? Yes, it is called the get your guy coaching podcast. So definitely check that out. Chandra said, what are your thoughts on dating men in government? Love that. Love, stability, love loyalty. Because those p. Those people that work for the government, they're going to work for the government forever and they're going to get a cute little pension, girl. They'll be set for life. Sophia and I said, hey girl. Hey girl. To You, Celeste says, does living with a boyfriend work against me if I want to get married? Not necessarily, but I guess the question that I have for you is, have you had discussions about engagement in marriage? I just talked with a client not too long ago. They have been living together for almost six months now, and they've had numerous conversations about getting engaged, and they decided that they'll probably get engaged this summer. I think it's important to have those conversations so that you're not living in sin. No, I'm just kidding that you're not just, like, cohabitators. Yeah.

Kyrie said. Coach. Hey, girl. Good to see you on here, girl. You're rocking out the program. So, so happy that you're in the program, girl. There's already tremendous growth and progress for you, and I look forward to what, you know, the transformations that you're going to have over the next six months. Rev said he made no moves on the first day, but we cuddled. Not heard from him two days for the first time in two weeks. Okay, let's focus on other people, right? These guys get to run their race when it comes to courting you. Dana Dane, thank you so much for the rose. Jazzy said. What do you think about French guys? I'm in Paris for a few days. They're fun, they're great. I think you should have a couple of rendezvous.

They're sensitive and they're emotional. But if you're just there for a few days, girl, don't take it seriously, girl. Be on your vacay vibes and have fun and tell us a story later this week, girl. We want to hear it.

DNA, Woman rising. Should we kiss on the first date? Everyone needs to have their own levels of intimacy per date. You should know what you want want on date 1, day 2. Date 3, date 4, date 5, date 6, date 7, date 8. If you had not already established that, then that's the work that you're going to have to do on your own. I can't tell you should you kiss on the first date or not? First of all, you have agency over your own body. So for me, a man, to tell you what you should or should not do with your body is redonkulous, right? Also, like, girl, I'm. When I was single, girl, I was kissing people and I wasn't even on dates. Like, I would just go to the club and kiss six guys, like, like, so. But that was my tea, because I'm a kissing hoe. You might not be a kissing hoe.

Right? You might be Real cute and mute with your kissing girl. And that's. That's fine, right? Everyone's going to have their own level and that's okay, too. Ladybug said, girl, what's the real tea on South Asian men? The real tea is that they are below average when it comes to packing. And a lot of their families will not accept you. No shade. Except for the Filipinos, because the Filipinos are the blacks of the Asians.

Yeah. Maya Haynes said, how do you suggest navigating cultural differences when dating outside of your race?

Well, it depends, like, what specific cultural differences are. Are you referring to.

Aliyah Said, can you please make a video about making the first move?

Maybe I'm really focusing all of that information for everything that's inside of my program because that's the difference between meeting great guys or not. Yeah. So that's something that I'm actually just focusing on my program. But, you know, I make no promises. Maybe in a month or two I might do that.

Mc Ball said, I have a question about how to start dating as someone who has never dated before.

Okay. You got to just put yourself out there, make a profile online and TT1G talk to one guy every time, every day. If you literally do that for three months, you're between online and offline, you will talk to about 100 guys. And within 100 guys, there will probably be three viable candidates.

Yeah. And you might be able to find your guy, but it requires consistency and discipline.

Bear Emoji said, is a man with a body count of 20 a red flag? The gag is, I think that the average body count for adult women is five, and for men it's like seven or eight. Here's what the research says. The research says that if a guy has a high body count, and this is one of the reasons why a lot of men don't want women with high body counts. It's not a purity. It's not purity. Bullshit. It's because people with high body counts are less satisfied in their marriages or relationships, will cheat more.

And so guys don't like that because they want to feel like they can control you. And guys know that if they are like, an early number in your body count, they will have more influence over you. Right. Just like, you know, like, the guy that, like, took your V card, like, probably has a big influence on, like, you sexually and how you think about relationships. And men know this. Yeah. So that's another reason why.

User438 why did the live video get taken down? It was hilarious. I don't know.

I'll put it back up. Tick Tock's crazy.

They said, the mean girl concept. Why? What do you mean by that? Autumn said, I'm scared to go to the gym, but I have a feeling my future man is there. Why are you scared? Girl? Girl, it's a two for one. You get in great shape and you find your man. Girl, I'm all about deals these days, especially in this economy, and you should too. No shade. Nigel said, what if a guy asks you on a date and cancels the same day? He gave reasoning. As long as he canceled on the same day. That's great.

Butterfly said, hi, Anwar. A month has been too long. I'll be reaching out for the gyr. So for my clients that get into relationships, I also have a private program called gyr or get yout Ring that helps them go from relationship to engagement move in marriage. Right. That's why my client in New Orleans who got married, she was in the get your ring program.

Jack said, hi and we're just getting back from a date. It went well. I stopped admitting and things are good. I love that for you. Congrats.

Sia. Lola Marie said, where have you been, girl? Here. I've been here. I've just been shadow banned a little bit from Tick Tock, but that happens. I'm not tripping about it. Tick Tock's not my be all end. All right. I'm right now I'm really hyper focused on my clients and making sure that they get their guys. Yeah. Audrey said, how's dating in New York for black women? I would say if I were a black woman right now, I would want. I would want to be in New York first and foremost. It's big, lots of numbers and it's so international. Right. Snatch me up some French and Italian man, girl, be done with it. But that's me. So I think the top dating cities right now are the DMV area. Not DC proper, but DMV and then New York because of the numbers. I think the worst cities are Atlanta, Houston, Louisiana, Miami and Phoenix. Like if I'm there, girl. Strugglebest.com.

Why.

Gender ratio? Black gender ratio is not there. There's like 25% more black women than black men in those places. So it affects your dating life significantly. Yeah.

Siona said, I say yeah after things so much now and I think of you. Oh my gosh.

Oh my gosh. Yeah.

DD said, yes, I've missed you so much. Well, honey, if you see my videos, please, like comment share them. So that I can get out of this damn shadow band. Girl. See me said my boyfriend keeps talking about his ex. Anytime we're having a conversation, good as you should let him know that it makes you feel uncomfortable. Right. And see what he does.

Etuna Maggie, thank you so much for the two roses.

So now Said am I so tired of getting to meet people? Then take a break girl. Take a break. I think people feel like that if you have to force yourself to do something, you're not going to get great results.

Don't force a girl. Tata Said boyfriend says he's trying to get his life together. Says buying groceries plus dinner is enough. Well, if it's not enough for you, then let him go girl. Like I don't. We're not playing struggle Bus. This, this feels very much like college dating and many of us are grown. Yeah. Etuna Maggie, thank you so much for the rose girl Tara said spent the last five days in New York and the apps were apping. This Cali girl needs to move. Yeah girl New York is much better than Kelly girl, Louisiana. Like I said, like Florida, Texas, Cali, Atlanta. In my program, those girls, it's gonna take them a year to get their guy whereas the other ladies, it'll take them six to nine months on average. Nisi thank you so much for the rose. Girl K said thoughts on the 90 day roll? I don't like like specific time.

Like a broad stroke in terms of time because.

Dynamics are different. I always think about it in terms of number of dates and time spent together. Because here's the thing, if I'm going out with you three times a week, does the 90 day roll really mean something versus if I'm going out with you one time a week. That's why I don't like to put like a broad brushstroke on it.

Doctor woman said, is it real live or old? This is live. But there's like you know, 850 of you all and one of me, so I'm like probably five to ten minutes behind.

Marla said, freaking love you. Thank you girl.

Be said yes, the light skins, they love dark skins. They do girl.

Sydney, thank you so much for the disco love.

Adri said, what does it mean when my sneaky link likes to sleep over? Nothing. Nothing. It just means he's lazy and he doesn't want to leave in the middle of the night.

Rev said, Chicago is not good. It's not that it's not good, it's just different and it's very segregated. But what I know is that Dating everyone in Chicago will be helpful. Instead of just dating black men, girl, you gotta date, you know, in all, all areas.

Clara said that my Bay Area is awful for black women. Yeah, honey, but you can't just date in Oakland and or in like San Francisco, girl. You're gonna have to do South Bay, girl. You might have to go down to Fremont, honey. You might have to go all the way up to Solano Antioch.

Daniela said, our apps still worth it right now. I told my clients take a week off of those apps, honey.

Thoughts on Dallas? Dallas is not as bad as Houston, but close to it. Girl.

B smile said I'm in Miami and it's her. Miami's tough. It's tough because it's like the Latin LA girl. The girls are snatched there. So it's all about who you know. It's about body and face. It's very, very physically focused. So it's hard to meet guys that are deeply into like you as a person. They're very much into the look similar to la.

And the other thing is like if you're a black woman in Miami or la, they're looking for the Latina girls and the lighter skinned girls.

Yeah, I'm. That's, that's the tea. I don't know. So it makes it harder.

LVDRT said, I'm still stuck on the five. I might be a hoe. No hoe here, girl. Get your life, have fun. I'm just saying that's the average.

Kendall said, what about Boston girl? Boston is one of the most racist cities in America. So all of my clients in Boston that have gotten their guy, it's always been with a non black guy, either Indian or white. So please understand that I think that the black men in Boston have a on average a negative.

Like a, you know.

Net worth.

V Darling said people in LA are obsessed with whiteness. And not just whiteness, girl. Hollywood whiteness. Which is like a different kind. No shade.

Aur said after second date I asked for help to pay my rent and he vanished. Later ladies, you don't have.

A lot of ladies out here are expecting men to pay for things for them. He's not your boyfriend. That is out of bounds. Like a guy does not have to pay an Uber to come and get you or to take you back home. And most guys will not do that. You get to want what you want, but I'm letting you know.

They have if you want that from your boyfriend. Makes sense, right? But even like in my program I would not. It's not his responsibility to pay your rent. And I think it's like out of the question and outlandish. If somebody on a second date asked you to pay their rent, what would you say?

Because that's how they're thinking about it. However you're feeling is exactly how they're feeling. H, thank you so much for the five roses.

Michelle said, started dating this Nigerian guy. He doesn't ask questions about me. Is that normal or. He's not the one. He's not the one.

Do you have any clients that don't want kids? Yeah, tons of them. Oh my gosh. What is this? Honey, thank you so much for the blooming stuff.

Dating has been a struggle. These men want kids.

These men don't know what they want. I would just talk to everyone and see like, you know, what connection that they have. Because here's the thing, if he's your guy, he's gonna want whatever you want.

That's why, like when, when people are like on the apps and it's like, oh my God, I don't like pets or I don't want kids. Girl, if you're with him for six months and he wants to marry you, girl, he's gonna want whatever you want.

Yeah. Taru said, I freaking love your podcast. Thank you, girl. Thank you so much.

K1 said, Add Milwaukee to the shuffle bus. Just like Boston. Milwaukee is like one of the most racist places in the US So it's going to be very difficult to date because of that.

Samara said, lord knows I appreciate your lives after a long 16 hour workday. Girl, you're working too much. Girl, you need to, you need to delegate.

Please delegate.

Tara said, this Cali girl needs to move to in New York asap. The Bay Area dating is trash. Sana said, Anwar, are any of your clients military women? I do have some. I would say maybe 5% are military women.

Yeah, there's work to be undone there. Yeah. And I say that with love and respect. Thank you for this. Butterflies. The swan hunting.

Chocolate QT said, guys from New York approach you if they're interested. That was my experience. And one of my friends, 100%.

Ellie said, can you speak more on dating for pretty women? Yeah, there is, you know, usually there's this thing called pretty privilege. And I think that that is true for most areas of one's life. But when you're super pretty like me.

It can work against you in dating. Because here's the thing, guys that are, if you're, let's say, a 9 or a 10, the 9 or a tens guys will date women that are like notches below. Let's say a guy's a 9, he will date a 5 to a 10. And he will go for the girls that are, let's say, at a different level than you because they're easier to get and they'll put out easier. Right. And then you'll be freaking out because you're like, why is he going for her and not me? Because he gets to do whatever he wants with her and he can't do whatever he wants with you. And then the other thing is that most of the guys that are not on your level will not approach you because they're intimidated by you and they know that you're expensive and they don't probably don't have the, the income financially, intellectually, emotionally or physically. Yeah. And the gag is that the guys that do approach you are actually not on your level. Like those are the two, the three, the fours that don't have anything to lose will approach you and you'll be like, why are these guys approaching me? Like I'm so outside of their league. Right. It's because they have nothing to lose and they, they're going for the home run girl.

So that's part of it. The other part is it's hard because oftentimes too women are jealous of you. So they will try to block you or they will.

You know, they'll be shady toward you and having that energy around like, like at a club, at a bar. It's tough because then now you feel like everybody's against you.

I was on a podcast recently and a woman didn't like what I said. And then they had another podcast episode about my podcast episode because it went viral and they were saying, oh my God, I think his clients aren't that attractive. Quite girl. Half of my clients are drop dead model gorgeous because of what I just said. And it's harder to date as a pretty woman, like a gorgeous drop dead pretty woman.

Because no one will really approach you. And then you're thinking.

Am I desirable?