Dating Q and A 03-09-24

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I'm back. I was on vacation. Oh, my God. User slip said, I've been waiting all day. Slim Shady, girl, this. This is the gag. The gag was. And is that. And thank you all so much for the love, girl. Last Sunday, I was like, girl, I gotta get out of the house, honey. And I said I had to make an executive decision. And I said, I'm taking the family to Cancun. So we did spring break in Mexico, honey, because girls got arrests. I needed some vitamin D and vitamin D, if you know what I mean. So. So.

We went, you know, to Mexico and got some rest. And.

That was really good. Yes, honey, I am refreshed. And yes, someone said you're going viral. Yes, I am viral. This happens. I want to say monthly or. And. Or quarterly. Yeah. So, anyway, I'm happy to be back. I'm just going to be on here for a little bit because I have a consultation in about 40 minutes, but wanted to check in, see how everyone is doing. Let let y' all know I'm back, Back, back, back, back, back again. I'll come back on live Sunday evening, I believe.

Hope everyone's doing well. Hello. Joanne Sophani. Mk, Patrice Destinies Sarkis. Coco Mermaid. Good to see you. Nikki.

Lyanna, Sarah Dazzles, Meletta Marwa. Thank you for saying you miss me. Miss y' all, too. And thank you all so much for the support. I appreciate all of the love. Please keep it coming. I need all the love you can. You can. You can provide, honey, because I gotta tell you, sometimes it's hard out here when you. You're putting yourself out there and you're sharing your tea and. And you know, the bigger you get, the more hate comes your way. So that's really hard, especially for a sensitive cancer like myself. So thank y' all so much. Bria, thank you so much for the. The GG.

Joanne said, I would love to meet you in NYC one day. I'm going to New York April 5th through the 7th, so maybe we'll get a chance to see each other. Slept it so I can.

Slat set. So I got into men outside my race, and it's actually really so much better.

Fun, fun. May the best man win. Yeah, we want. We want to be dating, everybody. Hello, Vera. Good to see you, girl. Janelle said, hey, I'm so happy now. Why are you so happy, girl? Maya said hey, tick tock, cousin. Hey, girl. Coco Murmur said, I miss you. Miss you too. Chasny said, it's always great to catch you live. Thank you, girl. Coco Mar said, you look wonderful. Thank you.

Osefni said, you went viral. I know my last video has like 7.3 or 7.4 million views right now, where I'm talking about the five categories that men, men put you in. Amber Gray said, I want a Mexican man.

Let me see what's going on here. Where am I? Girl, we've been busy in the get yout Guy coaching program. I think there have been like five women that have gotten their guy in the past week, week and a half. So if you don't think it'll happen for you, please understand that it's definitely very possible.

And if you're interested in any of that, definitely click the link in my bio to book a consultation call. I also have other links. I have a podcast.

So definitely check that out. It's called the get yout Guy Coaching podcast. I have free trainings to check out as well, so lots to offer if you're looking and wanting to learn more about kind of my stance, how I think about love, dating, relationships, and men or women, depending on where you go. Yeah. And if there's anything that I say here as I. I'm gonna answer some questions around those subjects that resonates with you. Definitely tap, double tap and triple tap the screen so that we can run these likes up a little bit more. Yeah. Let me see. Find your joy. Sit. Where have you been? I have been on vacay.

Cece said a European man was flirting with me. Should I have waited for him to ask for my number? No, girl, no, girl. These white men are not gonna do it. You gotta let them know. Oh, my God. I've had so much fun on this conversation. We should do it again. Let me give you my number and go from there.

Yeah. Flana said, I did a spur vacation in November to Mexico. Good. Xo Chloe at least said you didn't invite us. Not this time, girl. Maybe next time.

User Slim Shady said, every time Tick Tock sent me a notification, I was running to see if it was you.

Thank you. Blah blah Said, how do black cats find golden retrievers? This is a really great question. And you have to understand that golden retriever guys are really happy. Go lucky. So, unfortunately, girl, all of the places that you hate, which probably means places with people in them, that's where the golden retrievers are going to be. So black cats generally hate places like Sport, like sport bars.

Festivals, concerts, things like that.

Yeah. So think about all of the places that you hate and that's where the golden retrievers are going to be. That's why the golden retrievers annoy you because y' all are so different. Yeah. So.

But girl, they're worth it. They're worth it. Yeah. Hey, Chrissy, girl. Hey, Nelisha. Stephanie said your last video made me send that text. Which text? The breakup one. Because some the intention of me sent like making that video was to let women know that you might be in a category that you don't want to be in. And if you're in a category that's not going to serve you, you need to get out of it. And most of the time getting out of it is breaking up with that guy. Bria, thank you so much for the gg. Mary said, anwar looks good, girl. Don't flirt with me. You know you can't have me. Bria, thank you so much for the rose, girl. Lena said, I'm doing terrible. What happened, girl? What happened?

7 NYA thank you so much for the cloud bread. Hello. Kalista Finique Taylor.

Imagine a man lying about having a car his age and having a girlfriend. Girl, I'm glad you know now. I'm glad you didn't have a baby with him or get married to him. Mary, thank you so much for the heart me. Jordan said, so glad to finally see you. Missed you. Thank you, girl. The pop life said. Hey, beautiful. Hey, girl. Hey, Drea. Hey, Portia.

Mercedes, love seeing you on live every time. Thank you, girl. Colleen, thank you so much for the rose. Sweetest Shira, where have you been, girl on vacay girl spring break getting white girl wasted on the beaches of Cancun.

I find your choice that you look sun kissed and what sun kissed and daddy kissed.

Sarah said, is it okay to give up on love? I think you get to do whatever the hell you want because you're grown. I think that you should never give up on yourself. And the work that I do with my clients is really self focused and if the guy comes, great. But I want my ladies to know and this is for you as well. I want you to know you're going to be okay with a man without a man. Like this is about you. This work, this dating work is always about you. It's always going to be about you. And if you make it about you, all this other stuff doesn't matter. Drea said, we love you and your energy. Thank you, girl.

Kayla said, we miss you. Where have you been? I think I found a nerd, but he's a lawyer. Girl, net zero. Girl nerd plus three points. Lawyer minus two points. You still on the positive, Girl plus one point.

Find your joy. Thank you so much for the heart me. Harmony said, I clicked the live so quick. Thank you, girl. Patrice said, how was Mexico? Girl, it was good, girl. It's like the only place that looked exactly like it does on the Internet. Yeah.

It'S crazy.

Okay, let me see what's going on here.

Ty 17, thank you so much for the ten roses, girl. Hey, Natalia. I am.

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Followed you today. Love your videos. Thank you, girl. Ayan said, omg. I was wondering what happened on Tuesday Night Live. Yes, girl.

Love it. I was. I was a big hang, girl. And I tell my clients all the time, you got to rest. You got to do you, girl. And then, you know, I never do it. They say the doctors make make the worst patient, so I try to practice what I preach.

7 Toya said, the five categories. That was a good one. Thank you, girl. I'm getting a little bit of for that, but my intention is pure, and that's all that you can do. All right. Thank you so much. She said, love you. Thank you. Ty17 said, Best dating apps for black women in 2024. I love when you make those videos. I'll do another one, but I just did a video because, girl, the apps are not apping. So right now, and I literally was just in the Washington Post talking about the fact that, girls, you need to get outside, you need to touch grass, you need to touch men. The apps are not apping. So my whole program, we're shifting to offline, and I think that y' all should, too. They'll probably pick back up in the summertime, but right now, the best dating apps for black women are no dating apps for black women. Yeah. Ladybug said, should I let him spin the block after being disrespectful? No, no, no, no, no. Because then your credibility is lost. And now he knows he can do whatever he wants with you and you'll always take him back. You play yourself when you do that. A lot of us take our exes back because we feel like we want to gain control over them, Right? So you taking him back is really you wanting to let him know that you are still in control, but in reality, you're not when you do that. Casey said, hello, Elmer. How are you doing this evening? I'm really well. How are you?

Yoli said, I'm almost ready One more month of self work. I love it girl. I love it.

CP Lux said, hi Anwar. I love all your advice. Thank you girl. Olivia said, it's Saturday hour. What a nice surprise. Thank you. Michonne Mashana, thank you so much for the rose.

I says, any advice for getting back into dating after being single for three years, girl. It's the same advice for everybody else.

Get online and get offline. Talk to people, go outside. Right. App it up when you go someplace. Talk to at least two guys. Yeah. So many of us are going outside and we're keeping it cute and mute. Don't do that girl. And the gag is. And the gag is nobody's going outside.

Everybody's working from home and living from home. So please understand that when you go outside, girl, your quote unquote competition's not going to be there. So the guy's going to be pouncing on you even more so than usual. Yeah. Caressa, thank you so much. She said, hi Fairy Godbrother. Hi TY17 thank you so much for the three roses. Rezi said, I've been having some white boy fun. I know that's right girl. But quiet as it's kept girl White boy winter is almost over so snatch up your white boys as much as possible because girl, the snow has melted which means that the white boys are disappearing before our very eyes.

Yeah. Rezy, thank you so much for the rose.

Yan said, oh wow. You are so handsome in life. Thank you.

La said, hey Fairy godbrother. No notifications for me. Yeah, I was shadow banned for a while. I think it's because I wore a. I don't know. I do a lot of things that are a little bit too close to the sun. I don't know if it was a specific sweatshirt that I wore that was red and black and white and green or if it was me talking about more.

Intimate things in nature. I'm not sure but I think I'm slowly getting out of it.

User2:00 it's been a week. He calls and texts all the time. Went on a first date and he told me he loves me. If that's on the first date, that's a love bomb, girl. Where is he from that one? Girl says 11 years being together. My boyfriend came home one day and was 98% complete opposite man. Well, if you have a boyfriend for 11 years, please understand he's probably not the one.

A man that is serious about you will marry you within two to three years.

Yeah. User 417 what to do when a Guy doesn't tell me how he feels about me. If he doesn't tell you how he feels about you, how are you to know? Right. Well, here's the thing. He needs to know that that's important to you. Men will show their feelings through their actions. Is he texting you? Is he calling you? Is he planning weekly one to two dates a week? Yeah, that's the question that you're gonna have to figure out. Okay. Kai said, how do you stress a man out? As you often say, you do this in a variety of different ways. And when I say this, I don't say this as like being, don't be a bitch, don't nag. You stress a man out by having boundaries. You stress a man out by being vulnerable and him having to hold that space for you. You also stress a man out by giving him problems that he can solve so that he self actualizes. Oftentimes men will say that they want peace. They don't want peace. They actually want to. They want self actualization, which means that they become the man that they've always envisioned themselves to be. And so if a guy is saying, I want peace, it means that there's a war inside of him.

Men want to feel like they are the best versions of themselves. And one of the ways that you can do that is to allow men to do things for you and to show up as the hero that they want to be. Right. A man wants to solve problems. Problems are stressful. Right. When I say give him problems, it means, hey, can you help me solve this? Hey, can you do this for me? Hey, can you take my car to the dealership? Hey, can you do this? Things that he can solve? That's how he has to do things for you, to bond with you and to actually fall in love with you.

Hi, audrey. She said, hi, fairy godbrother. Hi.

Bougie. Sedena said, that video snapped me right out of it. Good. I think that's good. Caressa said, need to hire. Yeah. Go to the link in my bio, click to book a consultation call, and we'll see if it's a good fit or not. Like I said, I loved your last video about the five woman types. Thank you, I appreciate that.

Yeah. A lot of people did not like the fact that I said that specific groups such as bigger women, darker skinned women, and trans women need to be careful not to be put into the, you know, basically the good time category, because some men will do that to you. They didn't. A lot of women didn't like that my intention of saying that is because there are some men that will just put you in that category and I want to make sure that if you are in that category that you don't stay in that category because that category is not going to serve you. And unfortunately that is a reality for some of these guys out here. So you know, you do what you can to try to look out for your girls but sometimes people are offended by the things that I say. So not my intention but I want to make sure that you don't get caught up caught up in these games. Honey. Yeah.

Bethany said, please help. I've been watching your videos all night. 2:30 in the morning UK so stressed what to do how Fairy Godbrother Bethany girl you need to go to bed. You need to get some sleep girl and we can talk about in the morning. Yeah. What are you stressed about exactly? You can put it in the chat and I will read it out and hopefully help.

January Said, not on Live on a Saturday. Happy I didn't miss it.

Good. Caressa said, thumb to wrist is too real.

That's how for the ladies that don't don't know that tea. That's how you know what the what the gag is. Yeah. What the gog is if you know what I mean. A real one said I love you. Thank you girl. I appreciate that. Serkan Said, do your videos advice also apply to gay relationships? 100% my I think of relationships not based on gender but based on like masculine and feminine energy. I am in a same sex loving relationship and don't let the voice, don't let the mannerisms fool you. I am in my masculine energy in the relationship. So this is about energy. So if you find yourself more in the feminine energy then my advice is going to be really helpful for you. A real one. Thank you so much for sending a rose.

Like I said, what would be the men's version? I'm going to do a video about that probably next week about the different categories that women put men in. But you know we have bad boy friend zone, dream guy.

All of those things.

Topless Government said I love your content dating advice. I love your name. That's funny. Mimi said, hey sis. Hey girl. Simply LG said thank you so much for the disco love. Gina Snow said hey fairy, fairy godbrother. Hey girl.

Natalia said, just watch your viral video. How do I become a dream girl? This isn't about becoming a dream girl. Like there aren't things that you need to do. You just need to be yourself. Right. But you want to make sure that you avoid the relationships that are not where you are the dream girl. Right. This isn't about more different things that you have to do. And maybe I should have clarified that in the. In the video. This is about understanding that if you are not getting dream girl treatment, then you gotta be out.

You hear me?

And some of the girls think that, oh, my God, like, this guy's doing everything, but I'm still out of his league. They think that they. They've gotten it. But when you're out of his league, at some point, he will try to bring you back into his league. It's like, you know, if you're in the NBA and he's in the G league, he's going to want to bring.