Dating Q and A 06-25-24

Hello, hello, hello, ladies. Welcome, welcome, welcome. Good to see you all. I'm so glad that you're here. Did you miss me? Hello. Hey, Booze. Hey, ladies. Good to see y'. All. What's tea? What's going on? What's the. What's the Gaga, girl. What are we doing tonight?

What has been going on? I haven't been on for, like a week or so. What's the tea, y'? All? I had to come on tonight because I'm going on vacation tomorrow, so I had to talk to my ladies. All my ladies. My ladies in the building.

Yes.

Hello, hello, hello. So for those that don't know me.

My name is Coach Anwar and I am a dating coach for black and brown women. And I. I help women date with strategy so that they can heal their hearts and get into the best relationship of their lives.

That's just what I do, and I'm going to continue to do it. Bowset, where you off to? Taking my family to Berlin and to Rome. Then we will be back in about 10 days. Yeah. So for the girls that are new here.

Here'S what we do. I am going to answer your questions.

As they pertain to love, dating, relationships. Men or woman? Girl, no shade. Girl. We're all inclusive here and.

Help you level up in dating. Yeah, that's what we're gonna do. And we might, you know, Kiki, we might.

You know, talk about these men, honey, because, you know, they're easy to be talked about. But with that said.

If there's anything that you want to learn more about me, you can definitely click the link in my bio. I have links for my podcast. I have links for my free trainings. I have links for.

To book a consultation call.

If you want to work with me professionally. Okay. Because, girl, after this month, the prices are going up.

Today's price is not yesterday's price.

Okay.

So with that said, let me see what y' all are talking about, because I already see that y' all are gonna be acting out tonight. I can. I can feel it, honey. And by the way, if there's anything that I say that resonates with you, please, please click, like, tap the screen, double tap, triple tap, and let's get these likes up, honey. All right?

TT said help on maintaining combos after an initial match on apps. It's not our job to maintain combos. That's his job.

He can't make it happen. He's out. Where's your T shirt from, girl? You know, I got it on the Internet where I get most of these things.

90S R B all the way, honey.

Someone said, why are old men so mean? Girl, because they're all alone. They got nobody to love on them. You know the specific demographic that is.

Like the loneliest? The like retirement homes and senior citizen homes. Old black men. Nobody comes to visit them. They have no visitors. They have no family. They don't have anyone.

So if you are 50, 60 plus, make sure that you are highlighting and seeing how healthy these men are. And if they are actually nice.

Good people because a lot of them are men. And sir, mean and surly. And I don't want any of you to be caretakers.

Chloe said, the Internet is not an answer for where you got something. Why not? Girl, it's a place. Okay. Celestial said, in Rome. I need to go to wine bar D Penitentiary. Okay, got it. Christina said, what if he uses crass language during initial stages of dialogue? I'm tempted to block him, but I'm not sure how to proceed. Just let him know how that makes you feel.

I have to be honest with you. I feel a little uncomfortable when you're using that kind of language. And see what he does.

Yeah.

Okay. Someone said they've missed me. I've missed y' all too. Yes, I am live. I know. It's so surprising.

Someone said, go audition for Survivor. Girl, no shade. But I would audition for Survivor if I needed to lose £20 and I was out of options. No shade because, girl, the way that they are dropping that weight up in there, girl.

CDC said, I love you. Thank you so much, girl. I appreciate that. Hey, Renee. Hey, Yvette. Hey, Sarai. Good to see y'. All.

Alejandra said, I'm so happy I turned on my notifications. I know that's right, girl.

Do I live in la? No, I'm from la, as you can tell by my valley girl accent. But I live in Canada with my husband and our three kids.

Okay, let me see what's going on here on Tickety talkity.

Okay, let me see what you're talking about, ladies. Adas Leo said, you're amazing. Thank you. Thank you. Let me see where the questions are.

Michelle, thank you so much for the rose. Let's get to cook and set skin on two taps. Thank you, girl.

Ms. Naya said, I missed you. Missed you too, girl. Glamorous glee. How do you get out of the friend zone? You don't. If a man has put you in as a friend zone, he's probably never going to get you out of it.

Forget what the rom coms Tell you forget what the Lifetime movies, the Hallmark movies teach you.

Men put people in categories, and it's very hard to get out of a category that has already been designated to you.

Yeah.

You. You either going to be considered a desperate girl. You're either going to be considered a good time girl, you're either going to be considered a good enough girl. Hopefully you'll be considered a dream girl. Or you might be considered an out of his league girl.

Yeah.

Feet can never be seen as more.

Yeah. So if that's your case.

I would just drop it, girl, because.

What do you need with male friends?

What do you need? What do you need with male friends? Okay. HO12 said advice for dating out of PWI, please. Well, first of all, change your name from HO12 girl, because the PWIs will use that.

Yeah.

Date everybody at a PWI. The thing about a PWI is that.

The PWIs are not predominantly white. They're actually predominantly Asian. No shade. So dates. I'm Asian, Indian and East Asian and dates in white and dates in black. A lot of the girls, they want to just date. And PWI means predominantly white institution. So like a college. Like, so if I went to Harvard. Right. But what I'm saying is that, like, girl, 30% of the people are Asian girl. So what's the tea?

So date everybody. A lot of the girls want to date the people that are just in the black clubs. Don't do that. Also, don't date any athletes.

Okay, good. Mimi, thank you so much for the heart. Me's Ms. Nia. Thank you so much for the heart. Me.

Sierra said, Meet guys in a museum. Yeah, but they should be like bigger events, girl. If it's just like an event where the regulars go to, then, girl, you dealing with 80% gay girl.

Shyleen said, where to move if you're a single black woman. I would move to the DMV area, girl. Not dc, but like Maryland, Northern Virginia. That's what I would do. If I wanted to get married in the next year and a half, that's what I would do. I would also probably. Secondly, I moved to, like, North Carolina or New York City.

Michelle, thank you so much for the rose.

Vanessa said, do you think attraction can grow? He's super thoughtful, kind, and generous. I don't feel a spark, ladies. You're not supposed to feel a spark.

The spark, girl. You want the slow burn. You want the slow burn. Spark. That's chemicals.

That's.

Those are hormones. That's anxiety. That's fear talking to you. Don't trust the spark. The spark will get your deductive and critical reasoning skills in the toilet, girl.

Yeah.

The reason why people are so into this spark is because it's all about physical connection. And the slow burn is about more intellectual and emotional connections, which actually are more important for a long term relationship.

Like, guess what, 30, 40 years from now, it's probably not going to be about the physical.

But you want to make sure that you're dating for a longer term relationship. A lot of people are just about how he's fine.

Girl. Those chemicals that you're feeling about how fine he is, they will fade within 18 months.

What then?

You know what I mean.

Yeah. Liera said, the spark could be fight or flight or both at the same time, girl.

Maja said, let me get my wine for this tea. Yes, honey, some people said that I give so much tea, girl, they call it tequila. I'm the new tila tequila girl.

So the question that you need to ask yourself, Vanessa, is on a scale from 0 to 10, how would you rate attractiveness level? If it's lower than a five, nothing can come of it. If it's a five or more and you've been literally like, if it's been growing.

Keep on going. Like if you start at a five and now it's like at a six, keep on going. Cuz who knows? Four to six months from now, girl, he might be giving 8.59. And if it's that because you feel emotionally safe, grow everything.

Plus you got the intellectual and emotional at a 10. That's golden.

Yeah.

Nick, thank you so much for the rose.

Someone said I'm dating a rapper and don't want to be treated like a groupie. How do I stand out from the rest?

I don't know.

I don't know. Nick, thank you so much for the rose. Georgia Webb, thank you so much for the 30 roses. I appreciate it.

Osha said. Hey, fairy godbrother, I deleted my dating apps a couple months ago. Do you recommend any? Here's what I. Here's what I. Here's what I know.

Because I don't know anything about rappers except for the ones that used to like to invite funboys to their parties in the late 90s and early 2000s. Clock that T.

Whatever dating app that you are on as a black woman. Make sure that you don't identify yourself as a black woman. Put your race as white or Asian or no race and your experience in the apps will be significantly different.

You hear me?

Sepia said rappers are all out now. Some Are some still are not.

Yeah. For the IG girls, don't put your questions in the question box. Just put them in the actual chat.

JB XOXO said, is that algorithm to. Yes, girl, it is.

That's what you got to do is you said thoughts on Air Force guys.

I'm just like.

I'm.

I'm not a fan of my military men. Angie said, what are my thoughts on Run Club Trend? Run club is fine.

Someone caught my tea, girl.

Strip has strip said shout out to Busta Rhymes and the Fun Boys.

There are other. There are other people that love Funboys too.

Oh my God, girl, I can't believe you caught that tea. That's funny. Yeah, honey, apparently a lot of people know the tea.

Enchantress. Thank you so much for the disco love.

I'm just, I'm not a fan of military men.

Like the navy guy is gay. Like all of them. Just gay, gay, gay, gay, gay, gay, gay.

I will say that the marines, they will D you down.

But most of them got that ptsd.

I know a few of them. Okay, we're going to talk later, girl, see if you got some stories. Honey, Alyssa said, I tried your gift giving idea on the third date and it went very well. It always does. Mama didn't raise no fool. Fool.

It's the small things, honey. That's part of the strategy that I give my clients. That's why last week I had three clients. I got into relationships. LA, DC, NY. I had two of my clients that were got into a relationship on my program get to the I love you stage. And then I had one engagement for one of my clients that are in Northern California. It's possible, it's possible to get your guy, honey. Book a call with me if you're interested in doing the work and tranches. Thank you so much for the let him cook.

Tia Da said, how do I stop being hung up over this man when he blocked me? The gag is that you're even more into him that he blocked you. A lot of us have like a rejection kink because it follows a pattern where we felt rejected from our parents and so it becomes like part of our bonding pattern.

So please understand that part of this work is like delving into the inner child wounds to and like the dating patterns to break those patterns.

Now you're into. Now I really have to prove myself to let him know that I'm like much like worthier than a block. I'll show him how amazing I am.

Girl, he's not it. T. Kelly Said, how can I book a session with you? Go to the link in my bio and then click the link and then the first button should be book a consult with coach Anwar. Shanisha Said, I love you. Thank you, girl. Cali holiday. Any update on a dating show? Yes, girl. Well, I had three. I had three meetings last week. I just had a meeting today with another potential producer.

I think it's probably going to happen. I just have to we get in the pitch deck together. Honey. The funny thing is that everyone that I've talked to, they have no doubts that it'll get picked up. It just needs. We just need to get it situated, so we'll see how it goes. I mean, I, you know, whatever comes, comes, whatever's for me is for me. So I'm not like in a rush, but here's the gag, girl, these lives are my show.

So welcome to my show.

Zia said, you are handsome, girl. Keep it in your pants, like, stop flirting with me. I'm married with children, like in a rush, but here's the gag, girl, these lives are my show.

So welcome to my show.

Zia said, you are handsome, girl. Keep it in your pants. Like, stop flirting with me. I'm married with children. Even if I did cheat with you, girl, I'd be cheating on my husband and my kids.

Don'T do it.

I'm gonna sic my husband. Even if I did cheat with you, girl, I'd be cheating on my husband, even on you.

Oh my gosh, girl, get it together.

And my kids.

Don'T do it.

I'm gonna sic my husband on you.

Oh my gosh, girl, get it together.

Oh. Someone said, busta and biggie. I I don't know about that. Biggie T. That's all I will say.

User 438 said, Can a black girl get a K pop?

Oop. Someone said, Busta and biggie. I I don't know about that. Biggie T. That's all I will say.

User438 said, Can a black girl get a k pop, boy? Yes, but the question is, do you want one?

Do you want one?

You might have seen my boy. Yes, but the question is, do you want one?

Do you want one?

You might have seen my most recent video.

Squid game, t. Girl, what's your take on native men?

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Squid game, t. Girl, what's your take on native men?

I blame the colonizers.

Y' all gonna.

I blame the colonizers.

Y' all gonna get me.