Dating Q and A 11-28-23

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Hello, hello, hello. Welcome, welcome, welcome.

IG is acting out.

Hello, hello, hello.

I hope everyone's doing well.

I hope you all are doing well. What's going on? What's the tea, ladies?

What's. What's the real tea? What's the. What's the de. Gaga, girl?

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Girl, I don't know what is going on, girl. When I put this phone in my hand.

I don't know what Messi said. I was waiting. Waiting for your live, girl. Why.

Girl? What. What's really going on? Yeah.

What's the tea, girl?

Hello, ladies. For those of you that don't know me, my name is Anwar. White people call me Coach. Coach Anwar. I'm a dating coach for black and brown women, and I help them level up in their love lives. So.

Girl, we're gonna do what we always do. We're gonna spill some tea. Yes, honey. It's all about spilling the tea, girl. And.

Hopefully we can help you level up in your love life. Okay, so what do we do here?

You ask the questions.

I answer the questions.

You level up in dating, love, relationships, and men or women.

We are totally inclusive here, okay, Girl.

I don't know what it is, girl. IG is acting a fool today.

So annoyed.

I'm just gonna have to let IG go, honey. If it's not. If it's not meant to be, it's not meant to be.

So put your questions in the comments. I will answer them in the order that I see them. Please be patient, because after a while, I will run a little bit late. Not because I'm being shady, but because, girl, there's gonna be. There's 300 now. There's probably gonna be like 500, 600 women in here at one time, and one of me. Yeah. So.

If you're not familiar with what I do, definitely click the link in my bio. I have free trainings in there. I have a link to my podcast. I have a new podcast episode coming out tomorrow, and I have a link to book a consultation. Call with me if you want to work with me as your dating coach. Yeah, yeah. Okay, let me see what y' all are talking about now.

Your danosa said hi. I love you. Thank you, girl. Love you, too. Rico Groot said, hello, Guru crime. Nobody's guru, girl. I've been that messy, girl. Just like y'. All. No shade mercy said, hi. I hope the day treated you right today, girl. Yes, girl. Was busy catching up. I was on vacay in Orlando. Honey, honey. I needed some more vitamin D, honey. And So I had to go down to Florida because Canada wasn't giving me what I needed. So I've been playing catch up for the past week or the past day, day and a half. So catching up still. But thank you. Lala said. Me and my medical school student boyfriend broke up and I'm sad. How do I get back out there? Here's what I want to know. I want all y' all to know. Don't date medical students. It will never work out. Medical students. The only thing that will be successful for medical students is when they actually serve Grey's Anatomy tea and they get with other medical students or residents.

They won't have enough time. They need someone to be adaptable to their schedule. They will never. They will. You. You will never be centered. Yeah. So I understand that you're sad. But I'm sharing this information with you so that you understand that it was rigged to begin with, girl. And there's nothing wrong with you.

Okay?

Whatever you do, girl, don't. Don't pull a Felicity, girl. And join medical school just to be with him. Or fly across the country to NYU because you have this thought in your head that you're supposed to be with him. Probably wasn't meant to be, girl. How do you get back out there, girl? By getting on those apps. Having conversations with new people, new guys, having new experiences. Leaning on your friends right now so that they can fill the voids of. Of what he used to hold in your schedule and in your life. That will help you.

Just. You said the tea is cold. No taste, no nothing. Oh, not cold tea, girl. Well, the tea in here is hot.

Yeah. Char. Hey, girl. Shanice. Hey, girl. Jordan. Good evening to you. Hey, Olivia. Hey, Fiery Virgo. Hey, Cleopatra. Casamigo said, am I early today. And you were, girl. And you were. Yeah. Tonka. Chuck. Cash. Hey, girl. Ro. What's the tea, Coach Anwar. Girl. So much tea going on, girl. So much tea. I'm full, sweetie. Full with tea. Yeah. Coach said. Carlos said. Coach take me on as a clan, Carlos. Boy or girl? I only work with biological and trans women, honey. I only work with women.

Kiki. Hi. Interested? Where are you located? None of your business. Get out of my life. Let me live. No, I am. I live in Canada. Steph said saw the notification and brought my ass right on in. I know that's right, girl. You're not playing no games. Jxda. Hey, girl. Lady Amanda. Hey, girl. Nicole said, I absolutely love your content. Thank you. TT Mama said. What advice would you give single moms, girl? Gotta take that mom hat off. Put that woman hat on. Gotta learn how to let these men show up for you. I don't want you to be doing everything. You're. As a single mom, you're used to doing everything and dating. I don't want you to do anything like nothing. It's gonna feel really weird, but you gotta trust me, girl. DCMC said, whoa. Hey, girl. Steph, good to see you.

Mar. Isabel said, dating advice for black neurodivergent girls. It is going to be important for you to like. It depends on how. Well, let me ask you this, and then I'll answer your question.

Your neuro spiciness, how does that present itself? Because everyone. It presents itself differently for different individuals. So I think it's important for me to understand what that looks like for you before I give you any advice. Roasted. Which countries are good for solo traveling and meeting men? Girl.

If I'm you, I'm going to Ireland.

Girl, get yourself an Irish bloke. Honey, I'm going to Ireland.

I'm going to.

If you want to pop off a fleeing. Girl, we go to the Mediterranean. Girl, we go to Greece, we go to Italy, we go to Turkey. If we want potential husbands, we go to Ireland. Dublin. Specifically, northern Dublin. Honey.

If you want a husband, we want to go to Germany and. Or Amsterdam. Also, if you want to get it going, you want to go to Colombia. Cartagena.

Trying to think. Those are kind of my major places where I'm like, girl.

Get your ring, bitch. And I mean that in, like, the gayest way, not in, like a, you know, offensive way.

Samira says your video about being kind instead of nice was very eye opening. Thank you for sharing. You're welcome, girl.

Sasha says, met a guy unhinged. We met up Sunday. It was a little awkward, but we had an okay.

Girl. I don't even know what you were gonna say. Okay.

Hold on one second. I gotta sneeze.

Okay. Oh, my gosh. Thank you all for the 7,000 likes. If there's anything that I'm saying that's resonating with you, tap the screen, double tap, triple tab. So that we can continue to get this party started. Yeah. Shelby said, new relationship here. How often should we be seeing each other in person? I would say twice a week. In home date and out out home date. Yeah. Cherise, thank you so much for the three fires, girl. DCMC said if a white man sees a woman he wants in passing, would he say hi and approach? Not necessarily. Not if that woman is a black woman. He'll look at you, he'll stare at.

But, girl, you got to open that space. You got to start conversation. He needs to know that you are open to him. Most non black men just think that you're focused on black men, girl. And if you follow my advice at all, you know that I want y' all to date everybody and I want the best man to win. Honey. Yeah. Princess said I made the live. You sure did, girl. Joy said this guy I met on Match asked me out. I sent him one when I'm free, and he hasn't answered back in two days. Girl, move the hell on, girl. There are millions of men up in here. Why are you talking about. Why are you talking to me about this guy who hasn't reached out to you in two days? Girl. Yeah, we're going to keep. We're going to keep it moving.

Yeah. Okay. Let me thank you all so much for the. Bless you.

Let me find my place. Girl. Trinity said, I would love for you to come on my podcast as a guest. Girl, email me anwargetyourguycoaching.com give me the deet. Squirrel. I gotta listen to the podcast. Like, I need to make sure that it aligns with what I'm saying. Girl. Yeah, because if you saying some crazy mess on your podcast, I can't be putting my brand around that stuff. Honey, I'm up and coming now. More seriously, send me an email. Let's talk about it. Rosa, thank you so much for everything. I got engaged. Congratulations, girl. Congratulations. Well, with a name like Rose, love Grow was bound to happen.

Saeed or Sade said, I scored me as CEO. Very well off, thanks to your advice. You're so welcome. I was thinking about doing a video this week about the difference between rich men and wealthy men. Because a lot of girls are going for the rich guys, but you need to be going for the wealthy man, honey. Yeah.

Joyce said. Okay, I already read that.

Hi. What's the difference between a matchmaker and a dating coach? A matchmaker will bring you the guys. A dating coach will teach you how to date and teach you to not just learn how to date and date with strategy, but meet and understand what you're looking for in a guy and help you heal. Yeah. I will always be a dating coach. I will never be a matchmaker. And if you're a black woman, do not go with a matchmaker. They don't know how to match you unless the matchmaker is a black woman. But very few of them are.

And here's the thing, because there's so much survival and trauma in our lived experience.

The work. If you do deal with a matchmaker, you're gonna I want you to go to therapy or work with a dating coach so that you can heal some of that. So that when you do get into a relationship, you're ready for it and you're not. Your triggers aren't coming up all the time and creating disconnection in your relationships. Yeah. Noni said, I've been ghosted by a resident. Yeah, honey, ghosted for some real patience, girl.

The med students don't play around, honey. They're about those patients, girl.

Sam is rolling said, what do you think of staying with a man as he is about to sign an NFL contract? Girl what did Kanye say? Leave your ass for a white girl. I mean.

I've heard this story before.

You roll in the dice, girl. You roll into dice, honey. Once they get that contract signed and they got so many people in their air telling them X, Y and Z.

It'S gonna I think it's gonna be really difficult. That's what I'm going to say. Not saying it's impossible, I'm just saying I think it's going to be difficult.

Beyond Cow said, I broke up with a guy who didn't have his own place. Am I wrong? Well, if he's living in New York or San Francisco, then I would have given Grace around that, but any other places, he probably should have his own place.

Niecy said, I went out this weekend and tried the non black man tips. Girl. How did it go? Jade said, what about engineering students? Girl get with them, girl. Get with them, girl. Especially because in a few years, girl, everything's going to be AI and you're going to need an engineering man to help you navigate through all that. Girl. Rita said, He's 10 years older than me. Any advice? Well girl how old are you? Because girl 30 vs 20 is different than 40 vs 30.

Brit said, Any advice for dating four with dating with four children? Girl get a babysitter's club. Don't just read the books girl. Get an actual babysitter's club so that they are taken care of. Don't have the older siblings take care of the little siblings.

Get a babysitter girl.

Get a responsible one, at least two or three that you can trust.

Hey Sasha, good to see you girl.

Lex said, how do I feel about musicians? I like their music.

Musicians have an interesting mix of energy where many of them are raised and conditioned with masculine energy. But because of their artistic abilities they will have Feminine, energetic sensibilities. So oftentimes musicians will become narcissistic. I'm not saying all the time, but I'm saying that's just something that you want to look out for. Especially if you're a smart and successful woman. You might attract more musicians because they're very much often in their. Their feminine energy.

Trinity said the podcast is called Dear Midlife. Well, girl, I hope I'm not in my midlife, girl, but sounds like fun. I'll listen to a few episodes and I'll give you an answer.

Bourbon Gal, thank you so much for the heart. Me. Yeah.

Sasha said the ass up and slowly. Girl, the apps are going to be slow for the rest of the year. Don't lean into that. Lean into.

Starting the habits. And I literally just got off a session with my clients and this is what I told them. I'm not going to tell them everything that I told them. I'm not going to tell you everything that I told them because they pay me money and you don't. But what I did tell them is December is when we start the habits that we want for 2024. So that's what I want you to focus on. Go on the apps here or there. But like, like, girl, apps aren't giving anything. It's done for the year. Yeah, many of y' all thought it was done already. It's really done now. Okay, Vegan said. Hey, Omar, your post about this is a six got the people mad. And you know who I'm talking about. Yes, honey. The black men always get mad when I tell when I talk about how they. They're not doing what they need to be doing to satisfy all these amazing black women. So they get to be mad and they get to call me all the names in the book. That's okay because I know that, you know, my North Star is making sure that the women that I work with and for are opening their options and the guy that is going to be best for them, even if it's a non black man. And I'm okay with that. Girl, do you understand? I've been. Girl, I've been talking back and forth with black men all my life. Girl. Do you think I think I'm going to have some trolls like my up Girl, no, girl, they're lame.

SOPA said what if I'm having a good combo with a guy but I don't find him attractive? Girl, give him a couple of weeks. Girl. If the attraction doesn't grow at that time, girl, let him go.

Bourbon. Girl, thank You. So much for the team bracelet. Hey House head holes. Girl, what is that name about? Hey, Regina's flower. Hey Nakia. Hot Chocolate said, I met this guy four months ago, but we keep arguing. Should I call it a day? Yes.

Christy. Hey girl. Hey Cordy. User911 said, can you do a video.

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Any latest dating stat for Black women in 2023? Has it gotten better? Girl, I have to, girl, I have to go to the stats. Girl, I don't know. I don't know. I hope so. If I'm doing my job, I hope the needle has ticked a little bit. Beanie said, if a guy doesn't respond to your text for more than 24 hours, should you stop texting? No. He's not your boyfriend. He doesn't have to text you every day. Yeah. Please understand that.

Now, if you don't hear from him within three days, girl, I would deprioritize him in the list of your roster. But you should have a roster. The fact that you're talking to me about this question lets me know that you don't have a roster. Girl, I'm not coming for you. I'm just letting you know that I want you to reallocate this energy and focusing on whether he's texting you back or not to getting more men. Yeah. Rudy said. Rudy Huxtable. Love the name. Says I love you. Love you too, girl. Shonda said, finally caught your life. Yeah, girl, where you been at? Jordan said, hello. I love your content. Thank you girl. Tandria, thank you so much for the four roses. User744 says, what if he's a great guy but you're not physically attracted to him? Only been dating a month? Well, it depends, girl. Are you in a committed relationship? Are you casually dating? The question that you need to ask yourself is has the attraction grown or are you still where you were at the very beginning?

If you are where you were at the beginning, you got to let him go.

The other thing you have to ask yourself on a scale from 0 to 10, what number is he?

If you started and he's more than a five and he's grown since you've known him, continue to engage. If you started with him and he was less than a five, it's not going anywhere. You got to cut it off. Princess Xo hey girl. Keisha said, advice for black middle aged single degreed women. I'm getting back on Match after a year break from well, how old are you, girl? I'm not asking because I'm being rude because my mom would taught me better than that. But I'm asking because Match not may not be the app you need to be on. Luna says. Is it a good idea to actually date while healing from heavy trauma? Depends on how heavy the trauma is. The fact that you're asking me this question lets me know that you're probably not ready.

K Mars at opinion on guys who are friendly with exes, you're going to have to like view it for yourself. Your intuition will tell you if it's right or wrong, but you're gonna have to see it with your own eyes and feel it with your own intuition.

BB Eureka said, hey boo, you're the best. Thank you girl. Annetta said, dating for empty nesters girl. Feel that nest with lots of eggs girl with lots of men Honey.

Fresh Lemon said, should I keep dating someone if I found out he only makes 45k? Great guy. He's 32. Depends where you live girl. Because if you live in Arkansas, get it girl. If you live in New York, girl, you bringing in a homeless man. No shade.

Shonda said. So I started talking to my first white man. I need advice girl what do you need advice about? He's not an alien. He's a human just like you and me. What did MLK say? Character not color girl. Talk to him as such.

Cinda Martin said, the talented 10th in your post was that all men or just black men? These were these. That percentage was all men. But what it was put when you put it on top of the percentages of black men, it represents black men that are in the talented 10th. Yeah Lauren said, Amor is so spicy tonight. I'd like to think that I'm spicy every night, but maybe not. Jakia said, I love love your content. Thanks girl. Ashley said, we up late with it. Hey and more hey girl. Troy said, okay you I already answered that.

Sweetest love said, hey y'. All. Hey first live I've been able to catch. Welcome girl.

World says she's in Canada. Yes honey.

Girl said I recently cut off a man because he wanted wanted me to go 5050 and told me I needed to prove my worth.

50? 50 is not 5050 honey. 5050 is 80 20. We are not MLK. We are not separate but equaling. We are not.

Doing that anymore.

Yeah.

Max said you spoke about men in the military, but nobody talks about how hard it is for women in the military.

Being a woman in the military is scary and I would never wish that even on my worst enemy. I think that the percentages are one in Three women get sexually assaulted in the military. Like, I had. I had, like, college friends in the Navy that said, like, they didn't know who was going to get taken in the night. Thank the Lord. She. She was telling me, thank the Lord she was ugly and fat and a lesbian. Her words, not mine. They weren't coming for her.

So. Girl, I heard about it. I would never wish that on any woman.

Girl. Oh, like, I'm getting disgusted even thinking about it.

Nikia said, amore, you and shara7 are getting my life together. Good. I like to hear it. Tiffany said, I so love your content. Mississippi is listening. Girl. As long as Mississippi ain't burning, girl, I'm okay. Honey. You know, my people are in Mississippi and South Haven, honey. Yeah.

So, you know.

That'S on that. Ada or Ada said, should I reach out to him? Was flirty, but we met at his workplace. Biracial. I'm black.

Girl. What is going on here? People are.

A lot of people are just reaching out.

Honey. The gag is.

People, y' all need to stop randomly emailing me or DMing me, thinking that I am going to just coach you. That's why I come on the lives. And if you want personalized coaching, girl, click the link in my bio and book a consultation call. Yeah, like.

We can work professionally and get it done. Honey.

This week, a client in Columbus got her guy, and then one of my clients is moving in with her guy this week as well. Roughly. In my program, roughly two to three women are getting their guy or hitting a milestone in their journey. So that's something that's of interest to you. Definitely. Book a call and let's work together. Let's start now so that when January comes, you ready to rock and roll, honey. You ready for the super bowl of dating, which is the first three weeks of January. Okay. Fresh Lemon said, aren't they mad at people of color over in Ireland? Girl, some of them might be right. There is no utopia. There's not a place where everything is going to be perfect for a black person, unfortunately. But I know that you can probably get a husband in Ireland, girl.

India said, I don't know if I can continue dating my Muslim man. Why? Girl.

What advice for in the bed? I feel insecure at times with the extra pouch. Girl.

No shade, girl. Nobody cares about your extra pouch.

These men care about.

Less than five, less than my hand, three to four things on your body. The pouch is not one of them.

Yeah, and y' all probably doing it in the dark anyway. You're not even looking at it, girl. Girl, I need you to be focused on your pleasure, girl, not your pouch. Pleasure over pouch. Yeah.

Casamiko said, you radiate so much empathetic energy. This is your field for sure. Thank you, girl. I appreciate that.

Cleopatra said I need a trip to Ireland. I know that's right, girl. Stina said, I'm taking notes. I know that's right. The Kia said she's already booked her trip to Ireland. Yes, honey, get yourself a. Get yourself a ginger, honey. Ginger's look, checking for you. And Ireland has a ton of money because I say. And we're happy to see you. Happy to see you, too, girl.

Noni said, what about Scotland? Yes, girl. Scotland is it, girl. Ireland over Scotland. But Scotland's still serving and giving. Yeah. Janae said, if you weren't a dating coach, what would you be? Well, I will tell you what I was before dating coach, and I was in the fashion. Fashion arena. I used to work for Versace and Tom Ford, honey. Getting the fashion girls together. Yeah.

Brittany says, white guy comes back in to say, have a great night, but says nothing to you. Next time. What to think. Don't think of anything, girl. Say something to him. Here's the thing about some of these white guys. You are going to have to.

Let them know. Oh, I'd love to continue this conversation. Right. Well, I'd love to talk another time. That's how you have to end it. At which point, like, 75% of the time, he'll take your number, girl. I let the girls know in a recent video, like you, these white boys are going to stare at you. So you have to just. You have to have the ovaries to be able to say.

I don't really know you, but I've seen that you've been staring at me. Are you flirting with me or should I be scared?

And guess what? 90% of the time they're going to say, maybe I'm flirting with you, girl.

Palm of your hand.

Another one. Catch them all, girl. Catch all those non black men, honey. And catch the black ones, too, girl.

Mar. Isabelle said, I've learned so much from you. Thank you, girl.

Jordan said, love this. My pen and paper. Like.

Cherise said, irishmen are kind, girl. A lot of parallels between the Irish and. And the blacks.

The solutionista said, ready for my white boy winter. Who is. Who has a white boy on the roster? Because that's. This winter is white boy winter. And if you all are not having at least one white boy on your roster. What are you doing? Why are you talking to me? You should be on the apps talking to a white boy. Bring them in. Honey, honey, we gotta mix it up. Honey. I want, I want your roster looking like Skittles bag girl. All over the place like the Olympics, girl.

Yeah, Bourbon girl. Thank you so much for the marvelous confetti.

Marwa said, is it bad to be obsessed with a guy in a relationship? No, but I actually don't think that you're obsessed with him. I think you're obsessed with. With potentially the power that you will feel when you are able to take him away from his relationship.

Cherise, thank you so much for the three fires. Cordy said, are you originally from Canada? No girl. You can't tell by my valley girl accent. I'm from Southern California.

Yeah girl.

Olivia B. Thank you so much for the hand hearts. Interested? How about Canada? I couldn't get anyone almost 7 years.

Girl. Were you putting yourself out there? What's the tea?

Capri. How soon should I be moving in with my boyfriend? I'm not sure. It depends on how long have you been together in the relationship? Juliet said, I just joined Facebook dating, girl. Deleted immediately. Nothing good can come of it, girl.

Kai said, good evening. I hope you're feeling well. I'm feeling good, girl. I just came back from vacation. If you all were with me in the last live that I did a week ago, I was telling you about my citizenship Canadian citizenship interview. That went well. So I'm happy about that.

Yeah. Rita said, should I even try to date in your 60s? Oh my God, yes. Girl.

Girl, they get it in, honey. They get it in.

Honey. Somebody said Facebook dating equals white refrigerator. And I couldn't agree more.

E3W said Anwar, my 31 year old daughter found that her recent date is married has been for two months. Shaking my head. Girl, you gotta, you gotta do a background check on these fools.

Either on the on the first phone date or the first physical date. We gotta know what's going on. Robbie said, hi. What about the Slovakian men?

I think Croatian and Serbian over anything if you're in that region girl. Yeah, slow box girl can take him or leave them girl. The Croatians, the Serbians girl you might around and get caught girl. They will chase you down the street in the good way girl. They want to know what your name is. Who are you? Oh girl, not this heck girl. I feel like I'm in junior high again. Trying to, trying to, trying to fit in with the straits.

Oh my God. Okay. Emmanuel said, don't get any responses on bumble and it brings down my confidence and makes me feel hopeless.

How old are you and where are you located? That will help me.

Eden say one chased me down today to give me his card and ask me to lunch. Golf claps.

Miss Skin Deep said, what are your thoughts on Asian men and black women? I think that.

Well, I always. I've always had a thing for Korean men. I hope my Korean crush from my grad school days isn't watching. Girl. But it's interesting.

East Asian men will not approach you.

Hold on one second. One of my clients is reaching out.

They're not gonna approach you, so you're gonna have to do some of the heavy lifting.

You'll know an Asian man is interested because he'll continue to hang around.

He'll hang around you.

You won't be able to get rid of him.

Yeah, that's when you know. But he won't say, oh, I like you.

He might say, oh, I'm gonna get a coffee. Do you want one? And you're like, oh, that's nice of him. Just like, no, girl.

He likes you. Justice at the ovaries. Yes, girl, the ovaries. Girl, balls are sensitive. You ovaries are strong.

Amaya said, should we pay for dates during the early dating stages? Honey, you all should stop using words I don't even understand. I don't understand this word. The P A Y word. Never heard of it. I think it should be. It should have been on one of my spelling tests when I was growing up, but it wasn't. So I guess I'll have to look it up another time. Maybe in an encyclopedia.

Don't know what that is.

Kylie Paver said, I'm tired of Day Dae. No comment. Girl, you don't have to be with Dae Dae. You don't have to talk to Dae. Dae.

You can get a bebe.

Olivia said, as a black woman in Cali, Latino men approach me the most. And I'm not complaining. I know that's right. Guapa.

Savvy said, love from Toronto. I'm taking notes. Good girl. Coach Keane said, pokemon in this hoe. I know that's right. Girl. Girl, she said, not Pokemon Go. She said, Pokemon Ho. And I know that's right. And that spoke to my spirit.

Chicago Hinge is not giving. Jen said, no, girl. If you're a black girl, don't be on hinge.

Girl. You'll feel like it's junior high all over again, girl. And not in the good way. Junior high, like early grades, like sixth grade and the eighth graders are bullying you, girl.

Oh. I said, what do you mean? If the feet.

Are towards you and are in your videos, if someone's feet are pointing towards you, it means that they're really interested in you. It's. It's body language 101. Yeah. So like, this is how I knew, like any of these guys that were pretending to be straight were into me, they'd be mean mugging me, right? Or like they'd be talking to somebody, but then their feet would be pointing towards me and I'd be like, dude, I have you. That means, girl, you're the center of his world.

Yeah, that's what that means.

Raven said, where are the white men in Los Angeles, girl? Girl, you're gonna have to go to the Valley. Girl.

You'Re gonna have to go to the Valley or you're gonna have to start dating some of those guys that live south of the 10.

Barb said, what if his dating history is all non black women? You get to have a conversation with him about that. Yeah, it really depends.

I would. I'm interested in guys that date all kinds of women because it shows their tolerance and open mindedness. But other people have different opinions on that.

Sending Don's Love said, what do the white boys talk about, girl? I don't know. I think that they talk about.

Baseball, hockey. I think that they talk about crypto. I think that they talk about Metaverse.

Some of them will talk about.

Like video games.

That's what I think, girl. But it doesn't matter what they talk about when you're talking to guys and this is such a great, like question. That wasn't a question.

Talk about what you want to talk about. They're going to have to rock with that. Your job is not to rock with what they want to talk about. Yeah, you come first, they come second. And I know it sounds really weird, especially if you're someone of color who has been raised to always think about the community and other people based on how your mothers and your grandmothers have live their lives and modeled it for you. But please listen to me when I tell you you're number one, they're number two. And a guy that is in his true masculine energy and that is self actualized will gladly take on that role.

His job is to serve you.

Yeah.

Let me see what you all are talking about.

And you said, I don't have a roster at all. Get one. Girl, talk to these men. Honey. Krista said, I'm working on my roster, but it's not looking too Good girl. Go hard in the paint. Girl.

I don't know what this symbol looks like or means. A white boy that acts white or the one that costs place never cosplay Girl this isn't Comic con.

Girl. Just a white guy that acts regular. Regular deular Girl he's not trying to do too much.

Yes honey, that's right. Purple back Said looking like it's a small world. I know that's right girl.

Money sign Said are Arab men red flags? Red flag cuz I got a crush on this one.

I don't think so. But girl like in every group there's always going to be some bad apples girl.

The Arab men have a little bit of black in them girls. So being with one kind of feels like being home.

So.

But I digress.

Let's see what's going on. Honey, what are y' all talking about?

T era Said I have been slipping. Bubble have been buzzing for me but I'm so far in survival mode that I keep.

Girl, I don't even know what you're finishing up to say. Jazz I said I almost had one today. Unfortunately my ovaries weren't big enough. Grow them honey.

Kyla Said, I love your videos. Thank you girl.

Kadre say I'm wearing as an la girl. Yes I was honey. I live in hollywood. Oh my God girl, la is a mess girl.

Lauren Said, you are always spicy and I appreciate it. I know that's right girl. Adora Said, Canada is famous for interracials. Not interracials girl. Well as someone that's in an interracial relationship myself in Canada girl I guess you're not lying.

Queen G said, what apps outside of Hinge do you recommend? Bumble, OkCupid and Match.

Ta said, the men be fine on Facebook, babe. Girl, the men on Facebook are scammers. Their pictures are not real. They are prisoners. That is AI Girl.

Let me scroll while I'm scrolling honey. Let me know if you want to work with me. Book consultation call. The link is in my bio. Enjoying life? Girl, I'm trying to tell you exactly what the white boys are talking about and you're telling me stop it. And you're laughing.

Girl, I live in white Canada. Girl, I'm trying to tell you what these guys are talking about. Yes, honey. Danny Terry got it right. They're talking about their dogs too. And they're talking about. Yes, they're talking about certain movies, not cinema movies. There's a difference. They're talking about fast and furious 24 honey.

And I'm talking by Talking about, like, water for chocolate. There's difference.

Some of them will be talking about finances and stocks.

Oh. Somebody said the girls that want a tall, nerdy guy need to hang out at the Lego stores. I know. That's right. I take my kids to Lego store every two weeks, girl. And I almost get divorced.

Girl. I gotta. Girl, I gotta keep my eyes on those big Lego puzzles, girl. Or they might. Might take me away. Honestly.

User 530. Are you supposed to ask if they've dated a white black woman before? Yes. Yes. That's. That's important.

But a cup. Said, your confidence makes you seem more trustworthy. Thank you, girl. Well, it's real because I do the work and I get women into great relationships. So I have a lot to be confident about. And because I've been doing this work for so long, this is why I'm able to answer your questions like that.

Let me see what y' all are talking about.

Space cadet Said, I just love your content. Thank you, girl. I'm. I'm seeing a lot of people that are like, I'm tempted. I'm scared. I don't want to do it. Girl, give it a try. It's 2023, Hunty. Y' all acting like it's 1950. Don't do that, girl. Our foremothers and forefathers did not do what they needed to do. They did it so that we could have opportunity and options. Honey, take them.

Honey. My God, my clients are going ham. Honey.

I love it.

Let me see. Is it so hard trying to date in a city where it's small? Everyone knows everyone. Well, what. What city is it? Honey, One of the things that is really helpful is you want to be hip hopping. You want to go and put your. Your app in every two weeks. You want to put it in a different city. So let's say you're in Houston, because I know the Houston girls are struggling mightily. Girl, two weeks you want to be in Houston. Two weeks you want to be in Austin. Two weeks you want to be in San Antonio and continue to do that triangle of love. Honey.

I'm putting you all up on game running. Don't. Don't say I never put you on game, honey.

Let me see what Jan Said. You play too much. I really don't. I am dead serious.

Amanda Said, I've seen a lot of Arab men with black women. You. The Arab Middle Eastern men have the highest response rate to black women on dating apps.

Higher than black men.

Squidward, Stromix.

Girl, what is this name Elaborate on biracial men, please. What do you want me to say about it? Girl, you probably saw the video where I talked about them, girl, and they came for me again, girl, they always coming for me.

B. I think the misunderstanding was, I'm saying because someone is light skinned, it means that they're a narcissist. What I'm saying is because of how they are treated, their lived experience, it is hard to not be a narcissist. There is a level of entitlement that happens and privilege.

But also as a person of color, trauma and that mix creates narcissism.

And of course, not everybody, but a good number of them.

What type of look do wealthy men look for? Well, it's not about what wealthy men look for, but I do think it's important that it's not a look, it's an energy, it's refinement.

Right. That talk, it's not just about the way you dress, it's the way you talk. It's the subjects that you talk about. It's the etiquette. Right. Can you talk with a variety of different people? Are you well spoken? Are you? Interesting, right?

Very, very important. Because here's the difference. Rich men want to talk a lot because they think they know everything. Wealthy men listen a lot because they're learning a lot to know everything. So when you're dealing with a wealthy man or you want wealthy men, one of the better things that you can do is talk a lot. But you have to have something to talk about and you have to be intelligent about it. Because a wealthy man is attracted to a woman that he can learn from. Because there are going to be many instances where wealthy men will come home and they will talk to you about what's happened at work and want to get your perspective. Not necessarily that they're going to take it all the time, but they're going to use that perspective into their decision making process.

Yeah. So you need to ask, you need to learn how to ask great questions.

You have to have a stance on everything.

And be able to back it up.

What am I saying? I'm basically saying that.

You need to be that girl that.

Raised her hand in class and was student body president and was on all of the committees.

That's what they're looking for.

So.

Let me see. Tay said, what about dating Nigerian men?

Ladies, please share your experiences of Nigerian men in the comments so that Tay can understand what that experience looks like. It feels bad to talk about my African brethren, so I'll let y' all do It.

Queen G said, thank you for your insights. You're so welcome, girl.

Money said, come back to SoCal. Girl. If the prices were half as half they are now. Girl, I would.

December said, my deal breaker is uncircumcised men. How do I get over that? Grow?

Go to Europe. Exposure therapy.

Admiral said, anwar, you'd love to know. My sister works for Bumble, so she lets me know about all these events. I love it.

Kendall said, please help with flirting tips. What do you need help with exactly? I think that people think that flirting means that you have to be sexual. You don't have to be sexual. And you don't need to, like, be touching guys or be goo goo gaga eyed with them. Like, you can be an intellectual flirt where you poke holes in their arguments, or you can be an emotional flirt where you are complimenting him and showing gratitude. Right. There's a variety of different ways that you can flirt. It doesn't have to just be physical. Chris said, what about coffee meets bagel? It's like.

It's like second tier for me. It's just not giving this year.

Let me see what y' all are talking about.

Okay.

Yes. Nicole said, it's the way you act. Act, act. Exactly.

Soul said, hello, I'm a black girl. In high school, all the white and black guys say they don't like black girls. Well, number one girl, go to bed. You got school in the morning. You should not be on this live, honey. Number two girl, fuck those guys. Girl, you need to be ruling the school. Yeah, and who cares if they're saying they don't like black girls? Here's what I know those guys actually do. But because peer influence controls them, they would never step outside of their peer group. Those guys are checking for black girls. Just like when many of you were younger, you felt the same way they were checking for you. They just didn't have the ovaries to make it happen with you. Unfortunately.

Cap said, wealthy men also try to take time and develop friendships first. Yeah. So wealthy men own their time because their money is working for them. So they don't need to spend time making money. Rich men are literally taking so much time, like, because. And they're always in a rush because they're always thinking, I gotta make money, I gotta make money. I gotta make money. Because they're spending their money. Yeah. So wealthy men take their time on everything. They don't drive fast because they don't need to.

They own their time.

Rich men.

They'Ll do things very fast because time is Money for them. It's not the same for wealthy men.

December May said, Shara says don't talk too much. Yeah, because Shara is trying to get you with rich men.

I'm talking about wealthy men. There's a difference.

Triple cupcake said, I am in medical school and dating men is hell. How do I deal with them undermining my intelligence?

It's funny because I have a number of doctors in my program and they are sensitive to this. So I think it's part of the schooling, girl. Like I was saying earlier, you're gonna have to get with somebody, a med school girl.

Get with the one that doesn't think that they're hot shit, girl.

Humble and smart. Get with that guy, girl. Y' all could be doing the same, same rounds together, girl. Grey's Anatomy. Pardon? See.

Austin, the Aussie. How can one improve speaking skills, especially when you're super shy? Start by. Start by engaging with women first.

Yeah. So that you can learn how to make connections with women.

Because oftentimes that's much easier than doing it with men. Sometimes people have like a. A resistance to it because they will often pedestalize men. And you don't need to do that, girl. All of these men are like little boys.

I wish I wasn't like.

Being funny. It's so true. Men are very sensitive. But for some reason, I think a lot of women think that. Oh, my God. They are these creatures that I don't get. I don't understand them. If you think about them as little boys, girl, you'll be able to rock them out. I always say, you know that, you know, teenage cousin that you like are like, oh, my God, boy, you're so lame. But you're my cousin, so I love you. That's how I need you to think about these men.

Are said. Omg, I'm so glad you're alive. I'm tipsy and ready to talk shit. I know that's right. I know that's right. Let's talk our then, girl.

Oh, my God. Everybody's saying run with the Nigerian men, honey. Everyone's saying hell no and run, honey. They said don't.

Don't do it, honey.

Girl, they. They're saying waste. They're saying no. They're saying no and again. No. Never again. Absolutely not. Don't do it. Super no. No, girls.

Some girls said, just take the money, girl.

Yeah.

What did this girl say? Ms. Sonia Fit. I'm Nigerian. Please be gentle, girl. In this group and this and in this room, we keep it real. We keep it real. Because.

When we're gentle, we're not telling the full truth.

Yeah.

You're our sister. We love you. But our brothers might need to level up a little bit more. Yeah. And not try to gaslight and or love bomb the ladies in here.

Oh, my God. Y' all will not stop talking about how to not deal with the Nigerians. Kiss. The Creole queen said, girl, are you trying to get messed up.

Girl, not love sui, girl.

Dej said, what about military men? Girl, y' all asking about the most dangerous men in love tonight. Honey, I feel like we're talking about.

Documentaries about serial killers, girl.

No, to the military, man. I mean, if you want to go to war, girl, go ahead. Yeah.

That's all I got to say about it.

Jan said, when do you think it's appropriate and okay to go to a man's house? Probably after physical date five or six. But he's. He needs to pay for everything.

Sid said I need to find better wealthy men because the last three talked about feet and their bowels. The one thing that you got to realize about wealthy men is that sometimes they might have interesting. Interesting kinks because they probably have had lots of sex, and so vanilla sex is boring to them, girl. So.

Just FYI. FYI.

Tay said, thanks, ladies. I'mma fall back on that one. Smart girl. Smart girl.

Okay, let me see where I'm at, honey.

Okay.

Mike said, would you recommend women to approach men? Why or why not?

I think that I'm not someone that says approach men, but I am saying that I want you to start conversations with men that are around you. I don't want you to walk across a room and talk to a guy. But if you're at a bar and you have someone that's sitting next co, strike up a conversation with them. At least start it. Let them drive it. Yeah.

Kofi G said, I just saw your clip on mixed men with white mom's help. Sounds like it. Sounds like you are in danger, girl.

Um, girl, how can I help you?

Girl, you in it. The only way is to get out. If it's not serving you and it's not healthy, it might be. Vasi said, what's your sign?

Cancer Girl, I'm sensitive about my shit.

Nelly said, I want to invite my BFF to this live. She needs to hear all of this. And does.

T Said, what's a good pickup line for someone shy.

Girl? When they say something to you, say, I'm. Tell them. Tell them you're a shy girl. Cuz guess what? When you tell them that you're shy. It's. It's a challenge for them and they're going to want to try to get you out of your shell.

Right? So whatever they say something to you, just let them know. Like, even if they say, hey, how you doing? Oh, I'm doing well. You know, I don't really talk to strangers a lot. I'm shy.

Go like, you know, smile at the end so they know that you're, like, still open. You're just a little shy.

Naturally. 100 said, I work in social work and I seem to keep attracting men that depend on me. How do I change it?

This is about changing you.

When you are in a nurturing career. And I would say two thirds of my clients are nurses, teachers, doctors, social workers, therapists, flight attendants, hairdressers, HR dei.

You will. Because in your work you are centering people all day, every day. That will translate into your romantic relationships.

So you will attract those types of people that need to be the center and want to take and not give. So your job is learning how to sit comfortably in your feminine energy. And if you need help with that, you can definitely book a consultation call and I can help you do that.

But like, boundaries, boundaries, boundaries, boundaries. You're doing too much.

You're socially working 24 7.

Yeah.

Coco Laurel. Laurel said, thank you for your service. Seriously.

You're welcome. Sometimes they'd be going like that real hard, girl. That's why I was doing that.

Danny Terry said, this is a brave space. It sure is, girl. Rashonda said, yes, we need all the realness. This is where we tell the tea, honey. This is why I call it Tuesday tea. Because we're going to tell the tea. We're going to talk about the things that maybe we're a little bit too shy to talk about or we feel like are a bit risque. We're not. I'm. We're not here in a judgmental way. We're here to relay information and for knowledge transfer.

Yeah.

Lex said, and why I need you, girl. Go to the link in my bio and book a consultation call so that I can. We can start working together and get you your guy.

Yeah.

Ty said, you give good tips. Thanks. You're welcome, girl.

Shea said, why do situationships come back, girl? Because they want to control you.

Because they liked having sex with you and they miss that. And they, they miss the emotional support. They don't miss you. They miss what you give to them, but they don't miss you.

Yeah.

RP said, completely off topic, but your voice is so soothing. Thank you girl, but you can't have me. I'm married.

Oh my gosh. Everybody's saying no to military men, honey. They will serve this country but they will not serve you.

Yeah. Cece said, what about military and Haitian double homicide, girl.

Double homicide.

And see what's going on here.

Justice said, the strength of black women is insane and is amazing. The most amazing creatures on this earth.

Bibi said, hi Amar. Hey girl.

Stacey Kimberly said, I'm in Ireland and a lot of the Nigerian men here aren't checking for black women. Girl, when you go to Ireland, girl, you're not going for the Nigerian men. If you want Nigerian men, you go to Nigeria or Houston.

Honey, when you go to Ireland, honey, you looking for.

Meghan Merkel's man, honey, that's what you're looking for.

User 916 should you let a dude in your home? Not before two months.

We are talking about a lot of Irishman tonight, honey.

Misha said, do you have a second page here on TikTok? Why? Girl, do you think I'm going to get cancelled?

Do you think I'm gonna get kicked off a TikTok? I am making one, yes, just in case because I know a lot of these guys are trying to report me, honey, and get me kicked off because I'm spilling, talking a lot of shit and they don't really love it, honey.

See what y' all are talking about?

Why do men ask for body count? I answered his question so I don't seem like I'm dodging this question. Don't answer the question. They don't give a shit about body count, girl. They don't. The guys that ask you about body count want to sleep with you anyway.

The girls who have a high body count sleep with a lot of guys and get with a lot of guys and get the guys not just get with them. They don't care about it. They care about how you answer it.

Don't be fooled. It's a test. Don't. Don't play the game. Don't even enter the classroom. Don't answer his question. You're playing into his game and he already has you. He already has control over you. Just let him know I don't feel comfortable with questions like that. Keeps you in your Michelle Obama bag, girl.

Margaret said, what does it mean when a guy is always looking at you? It means he likes you or he wants to kill you, girl. One or the other.

Franchesca said, have you helped plus size women find love every week? Every Week, girl. Every week. I would say about 20% of my clients are plus size or curvier.

Yeah.

P says, I love your videos. Thank you girl.

I said, would you date a guy who is polyamorous when you're monogamous? No girl. Cuz that's against your values and it's giving scarcity love mindset girl.

Don't do it.

Yeah.

Brit said, advice on trying to talk to a white Christian man.

Girl, I don't know what to tell you girl. I don't know about them. I tried. I try to stay away from them, girl.

Nicole said, hey, and why I'm glad to see so many women catching on to your page. Your reach is growing. I know right?

Yeah. Thank you. I appreciate all of the support and all of the following. It is so much fun to be chatting with you all and to be engaging in this work and you know, a lot of people are leveling up which is so amazing.

Jasmine said, how do you feel about singles meetups? I think they're great practice but I don't think that you should expect to find your person there. Practice like, you know, talking about yourself, especially for the shy girls that we're talking earlier. Practice making connections, learning how to be vulnerable. December said, I'm going to book book a consultation. Good girl. I like that. Love to chat with you about your love life. See if it's a fit. If it is, we'll help you get your guy.

Coffee. G said, I'm going to the link. I'm gonna get this help. I know that's right girl.

Fozzie said, what do you think about celibacy? Should I tell them what do I think about celibacy? Well that's not my ministry, but love that for you. Should I tell them? Yeah you should because they, they need to know that to make an informed decision about whether they want to invest in you or not. And unfortunately 80 to 90% of the guys will not want to invest in that. I'm keeping it real. Right, but they need to know that the last thing that you want to do is wait too long thinking like oh I just want him to get to know me and once he knows me he's going to love me and he's not going to care. Care. He still might care. Yeah.

Tell him soon. Tell him soon.

Jesse said, I got a boyfriend using your tips. Hahaha. Now I am trying to go to the next step. Love that for you. Keep on, keep on rocking it out, girl.

Butterfly said, I'm curious, what are your views on women Revealing what their career is. Time frame for revealing. As soon as possible. As soon as possible. The fact that women are trying to, like, hide their careers from men lets me know that they're playing small. Girl, we have one life to live. Why are we playing small here? A lot of these guys. If you have a bombass career and these guys can't take it, girl, they're not your guy. Stop trying to make some guy your guy when he's not your guy. Don't. Sometimes women ask me, oh, should I put that I'm a doctor, I'm a lawyer on my. My profile. Yeah. Yes. Let the profile filter in and filter out certain men. Yeah.

Girl, I don't know what these sounds are, girl. I don't know if my computer, my iPad.

Hi. The Kathleen.

Stacy Kimberly said, Indian men. What's the package? Light. Always been skeptical. Indian men are a little bit smaller than average to average. How do I know? Because I. I've done the research. I'm a researcher at Heart.

Comadre Said black women deserve the world. Your Latina sisters love you. I know that's right.

Said Atlanta is full of the Nigerians too, girl. Girl, they're everywhere. Girl. We can't get rid of them.

It.

Let me see what y' all talking about now.

Y' all are funny. Y' all really have me gagging, girl.

Jaxby said I tag him every time someone says what he says. I love it.

Grateful Heart said, I look forward to seeing you. Thank you. Ms. Wilson. Said, I just found your pitch tonight and have been deep diving. I love all your advice. Thank you so much. Brown in foxy. How are you getting your teeth that way? A great dentist, girl. A great one. Who put these very white veneers in my mouth to cover my yellow pieces of corn that were current that were formerly in there.

Mosam Said, were you named after Anwar Sadat of Egypt? I was. Who temporarily brought peace to the Middle East?

Minutes Said he said he'd call me tonight, but he didn't. What do I do? You move on.

All things natural. Herb. How do I book someone? I'm an indie. What do you mean, book someone?

Do you mean, like, how do you work with me?

Cap said, where are you based in Canada? Girl, I'm just giving you the country because you keep on asking me this question. I think you're trying to kill me.

Let me see what's going on here.

Summer said, what's wrong with Christian white men?

You're not going to get me canceled, girl. Not going to get these white Christian men Trying to hang me like it was 1939 up in here. Sweetie girl, you know who were white Christian men?

The kkk.

Yeah. Muslim said the light skinned men video went viral. I know the last like five to six videos that I've had have like gone. Really have been huge. I think I've had like multi millions of video views in the last week, which has been crazy.

And with that comes also a quite bit of hateration.

Comes with the territory, I guess. Honey. Tania said, what happens when a guy goes out of his way to get your phone number just to not call you grow was just a challenge. He wanted to see if he can do it.

Guys that try to pick you up in the wild are doing it for the challenge, for the ego. They're not. They're not real, they're not serious. For the most part. You need to be meeting men in more curated spaces where there is some sort of either visible or invisible velvet rope that not a lot of people are going to get into. Yeah, don't. Don't engage with men at a gas station or at a mall. Yeah. Or up and down the street.

Cultured men. Men that are ready for marriage would never do that.

Healing. Black girl said, just tapping in and I'm already triggered. Oh, girl, triggered about what? Most of them said we need a dark skinned men video. Girl, I can't. Girl, they were calling me light skinned. When I go through the dark skin video, then they're gonna start calling me dark skinned girl. Like then you know, I don't know if I can do it. Girl.

Girl, they get you coming and going.

Grateful heart said, how did you know so much about relationships? Spot on.

Because I've been doing this work for 13 years and I've gotten thousands of women into amazing relationships every week. It's at least two or three women that are getting into great relationships the best of their lives. That's why.

Faith said, this man asked me for $20. We only been talking for about two weeks. He said he needs his phone bill paid. Never loan money to a man.

Even when you're with him.

Because ultimately he will resent you for it.

He will never. He won't feel satisfied with his accomplishments knowing that you had to help him do it. He won't feel like a man. Just let him know. I'm so sorry. I don't have that money for you. Do you have any anywhere else that you can get it?

Brenda said, tell us about the research. What do you want to know, Perv? Brenda Graw.

Let me see what y' all talking about.

Grateful heart said what about Asian men? Package.

It's a personal item, girl. Small.