Dating Q and A 12-12-23

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So happy that you are here with me and we get to chat and we get to learn about love and dating and relationships. Super excited about that. Yeah. Now, for those of you that don't know me, my name is Anwar White. I am a dating coach for women of color. And, yeah, we get to level up in all things love and dating and relationships. Yeah. With that said, I hope everyone is doing well. It's that yellow chick. Said, hey, amore, I got a boyfriend. Congratulations. I'm so happy that you are getting your guy, honey. I sew that warms my spirit so much, you don't even know. Yeah.

So for those of you that don't know me, I'm Coach Anwar. I help black and brown women get into the best relationship of their lives. I am.

Hold on, let me decline this person.

And I'm here to just answer your questions about love and dating and relationships and.

All of that. So with that said, ask your questions. I want to know what's going on with you. So, Alkaline said, everyone is doing a live. Is this about Ebony's comments? I generally do my lives on Tuesday nights. I don't even know what Ebony has said now.

Yeah. So foreign.

Let's see what y' all are talking about. If you want to learn a little bit more about what I do, you can definitely book a consultation call with me. The link is in my bio if you want to work with me. I also have free trainings. I also have a link to my podcast. I have a new podcast episode coming out tomorrow. It is.

Fire.

Fuego, as my Spanish 101 self would say.

And all of that. So definitely check that out. It's coming up tomorrow morning, and I can't wait for you all to check it out. Okay. I don't know what is happening. I'm gonna have to turn off IG because IG is not giving what it's supposed to give. So with that said, put your questions in the comments. I will answer them when I get to them. Please be patient because we might have up to 800-900-1000 people on this TikTok. Okay? And there's only one of me. Hello, fiery Virgo. Hello, Lou. Hey, little pretty Lulu. Hey, Joanne. Hi, Dawn. Hi. That yellow chick. So happy you got your guy, girl. Super excited for you. Ashley said, your spirit is so soothing. Thank you. Good evening, Jordan. Whitney said, when will I say that next, girl? I don't know. I'm not one of these tarot cards.

About you know, Queen of swords. Yeah. What I know is that when you do the work, you will get closer to your guys. So the question is, are you doing the work?

User589 said, I deleted my dating app today. Good. Let's bring it back in January for the super bowl of dating. Yeah. Chocolate said, your voice is so soothing. Thank you. It's that yellow chick. Said, I've been taking your advice. I love it. I say all the time, my free advice is better than a lot of people's paid shit. So keep on using it. That's why I'm here. Sometimes you might need a little bit of extra help and focus. And if that's the case, definitely join one of my programs. If not, keep on listening to my podcast and keep on coming to these lives. Honey, I'm here to serve. Yeah. Prince. Hello. Hello. Jay or Jai. Brand new mercies. Hi, amore. Hey, girl. Dr. Payne, thank you so much for the rose. Mercedes said, Amore, I love seeing you live. Thank you, girl. Kirsten said, how much are your consultations? So you have to apply for the consultation, and if the application is accepted, the consultation will be free. Yeah. Sharon said, hey, am. I love all you do. Thank you. Trisha said, hi, Amore. Hey, girl. Whitney said, I need motivation to get out there. I know that's right, girl.

I just did a podcast last night on another podcast called Champagne Wives that was really fun. So I'm looking forward to pumping that out in January when it does come out. User785 said, Is the relationship tuned if I earn more than my partner? He's so sweet. Well, it depends how much more, because if he is making anything less than 80% of what you're making, it probably won't work. When I say that, it's because he's going to feel emasculated and then he's going to want to either try to humble you or cheat on you so that he can feel more adequate. This is what I see the majority of the time. I'm not saying all of the time. Right. But the majority of the time, that is what happens. And I'm not here to doom your relationship, but I just. I want to. I want to put you on game. Right. I don't want you six months later being like, I can't believe this mofo cheated on me. That's what they do when they feel like they don't have agency and authority, power. Right. When they feel powerless. And that was my latest video. Oftentimes, they will cheat. If you're bringing your masculine energy When. Whether you're making more. The other ways to figure out if a guy is going to cheat or not is based on what I called his novelty quotient. What does that mean? That means, is there newness in his life? Is he focused on new goals? Right. Or is he staying stagnant? Because when a man is stagnant, he's going to feel really bad about himself, and he will cheat to make himself feel good. Or is he open to new perspectives, new ideas, new opinions? So if you're disagreeing, is he the first one to say you're wrong? Or is he like, okay, let me hear what you got to say, and then I want to share what I got to say. If he. If these guys are saying, oh, you're wrong, immediately, he's not trying to. He's not trying to bring anything new into his life. So he's going to get that inadequate feeling when things continue to be stagnant for him. Yeah.

Jemira says, said, I have a date with a Persian guy on Friday. All right. Persian. June. We met on Bumble dinner and then Christmas lights. I know that's right, girl. Whatever his name is, call him his name. And then June. Yeah, that's like a term of endearment, girl. I. I learned it on Shaws of Sunset.

Il said, how do I stop attracting Dusties? Here's the thing. You're going to attract everyone. It's not about who you attract. It's about who you choose. So you've got to have a dating strategy. That's what I. It's like the first thing I teach all of my clients, and then you got to have really strong boundaries. Dating is like poker, and you want to fold these guys as quickly as possible because.

97% of the guys you'll never even have a third date with.

Okay. Lily said, what if he hasn't talked to me in a year, but he texted me on my birthday saying, happy Birthday doesn't mean anything. It doesn't mean anything. Drop it. Don't engage, because your future husband would never do that. Your future husband will never be an ex. Your future husband. You will never not hear from him. You know, when my clients get into relationships, one of the first things that I have to do is actually help them set boundaries around not having their partner always want to be around them and spend time with them.

That's what it looks like.

Ooh. Weemc said, what's the best dating app for interracial dating? Bumble.

Sunshine said, what type of hairstyles do white men prefer? On black women, it doesn't matter what they prefer. We don't perform for men, white, black or anything in between.

The hairstyles that you need to focus on are the hairstyles that you feel most comfortable, most confident, most sexy in, and that's it. And that's on, period. Okay?

Colette said, anwar, you have to wear the fur. You spoiled us the other day, honey. You didn't know that's what I was giving. You didn't really see me in my sweat, my sweatshirts. Because I'm in the home, honey. Because I got to keep warm because of this bad circulation, girl. I get it from my great aunt and my great grandmother. But when I'm out, honey, I let the girls know who's who, who's queen, who's dom, who's the supreme.

So yes, I will do that when I'm out and about and I'm on live girl. Whitney said, how do I know if I'm being too harsh or focused on the wrong things? Girl, you have to give me some examples and I can hopefully let you know or we would have to have a consultation call. Ashley said, how long does it take for a guy to determine if he wants to commit? 2 to 3 months.

JB said, why do 98% of men ask you to send them a pic? Because they want a J O off of it, girl. No shade. And it's a power and it's a control thing. They are testing you. When they ask you for a pic, they want to see will she do things for me. And if she does things for me, that means I can control her and I can manipulate her. Don't ever give a pic. You know who asks for pics?

Prisoners.

So when a guy asks you for a pic, I want you to think of him as a prisoner danger zone and he should stay in solitary confinement without your pick.

Aunt B said, I'm 60, but don't look at. I attract men in the 30s and 40s. What should I keep in mind? Girl, you don't need to keep anything in mind, girl. You better get your Life with these 30 and 40 year olds. You keeping them young, honey. That's what I'm hearing.

I don't want you to overthink this. I want you to engage. I want you to have fun. A lot of these youngins are coming for older women and that is a formula that's working a lot and I've seen that a lot from my clients, girl.

So get it in and tell us about it in the next live girl. Because you know we're nosy. I know I am. I'll speak for myself. Jada said, anwar, why didn't you tell us that the work doubles once we're in a happy, healthy relationship? I tell that to my clients, girl. That's why I have a relationship program, because all of my clients get it. Most of my clients get into great relationships and then that's when the real work starts. Starts. Because you actually give a damn. Like these dating people. Like, you don't really give a damn that much. Like, yes, it'll trigger you and you give a damn because it triggers you. But for relationships, it feels like you might lose something. There's a risk. So, yes, girl. That's why I'm a dating and relationship coach. Yeah. Joyce said, how do you lean into your feminine energy if your mom is in your masculine? Most black mothers are in their masculine energy. So you're going to have to learn how to share your feelings. You're going to need to learn how to ask for help. Pretend you don't have any arms, girl.

How would you live life?

Seriously.

That's how. We need to be in our feminine energy.

Jade said, where is the best place to meet single Caucasian men who like black women? Well, like I said before, online is probably a better bet because.

Non black men will be more apt to engage in conversation with you offline. They're just going to stare because they think that you're just focused on black guys. But you can actually talk to a variety of white men online, create a connection and then start going out with them.

Sharon said, I feel like I'm too ugly to find a man.

No, not possible.

What I know is that there's always a match for you. I think that here's the thing, you can focus on the outside, but what's really happening is that we having an issue on the inside that we've got to deal with. If you think that you're ugly, girl, nobody else, nobody's gonna think you're pretty. You got to think that you're a freaking 12 out of 10. So that you are literally bringing that confidence to all of the interactions. Because here's the thing, when people are, you know, when we're in this dating game, it's not just about looks. It's about personality as well. So, you know, you gotta be rocking out on all fronts, girl.

Okay. Kristen said, how much are your consults? Because I'm broke, but I need help. Like I said before, the consults are free if your application is accepted and we'll see if it's a. If it's a fit, if I feel like you're coachable. If not, we'll go about our separate ways. If so, I'll talk to you about my programs and help you get your guy. Yeah, definitely. If anything that I'm saying is resonating with you all, definitely. Tap, double tap, triple tap the screen. Yeah, let's. Let's.

Let's put in these likes. Honey, the sweetest gym said, people love you, so thank you. I appreciate that. You know, I don't see it. Like, sometimes I'll talk to the girls in the console, and they're like, oh, my God. All of my friends and I talk about you all the time. Like, I talk to 25, 50 women. They all know you. And it's funny because I'm literally just a suburban mother of three doing what I can for God and my country.

Yeah. Literally just, like, minding my business.

But thank you. Marnie said, hey, everyone. Girl, I can't believe Marnie's saying hey to everybody except for me.

Hey, Marnie Manor. Girl.

That looks like a dude. Dude.

Hey, Angela. Hey, Shania. Hey, Val the bombshell. Hey, Manifest Nene. Hey, y'. All. Good to see y'. All. Mandy, thank you so much for the finger heart. Oh, my God, simply L. Thank you so much for that cowboy hat. Hi, Shelly. Hi, Leash. Felicia said IG was freezing, so I came over here. Yeah, something's going on with IG. Honey. Paduma. Hey, girl. Ms. J said, what is a good profile pic, honey? You want to give a lot of this.

That's the money maker, girl. That's the money maker. Yeah, so let's talk about that primary pick. Yeah, girl, you can go straight on. You want to be looking in the camera. Don't give me that, like, oh, let me look the far landscape. No, girl, give them passport with a smile, with inviting eyes. Not come hither eyes. No smizing. Right.

Warm. You want to give warm. And here's the tea, girl. Make that picture a black and white, because that black and white picture gets 107% more likes. You're going to stand out from all of those lame color pictures. Girl, it's kind of the opposite, you know, in, like, the 50s, when the TV became in color, girl. Girl, you got to bring it back, girl. Go black and white. And, you know, just like, all of the new phones are the rage and that all the cool people are having the flip phones now. Same tea, girl.

Brand new mercies. Hi, girl.

Kimone Whitney said, hey, amore. Your lives are the Best. Thank you, girl. I appreciate that. Giovanni said no words. I watch your streams and you're always on point. We need to talk about the scarcity of men. Girl, my podcast episode tomorrow is talking all about that. It's talking all about that. And specifically, I'll give you a little tea, but please understand that girl. And I did all of Girl, she researched. She researched. Honey, I had to give the.

Let me see, honey. Had to give some numbers. Honey.

Can you see crack? Girl, I'm so bad with my angles. See all these numbers, girl. Honey, she had to do the research. She had to do the research.

Yeah.

That episode tomorrow is going to be fire black women. I need you to understand something. There are a hundred black women to every 88 black men.

You're going to have to date outside. There are not enough black men to go around. No shade.

And these top cities. Let me know what city you're in, because guess what? Most of These cities have 20% more black women than black men. Atlanta, 18%. New York, 21%. D.C. 22%. Chicago, 21%. Houston, 14, 15%.

But I go into that much more in the podcast, so definitely check out the podcast. And I'm gonna do a video about this tomorrow as well on TikTok. So it'll be fun. Lana said, should I wait for next year's Super Bowl? Yes, Most definitely. Plenty. Bracelet. You said to date outside your race. What to do if I'm not sexually attracted to white men? Girl, close your eyes.

I think we all have a little bit of a white crush. I want you to figure out what yours is. Yeah. And. And think about and understand why you have a crush on him. What is it about him? Because there. I'll do a video about this. Because there are white men that you should not date, but you haven't. There are a number of them that are doing the damn thing.

Yeah. Estad said. I deleted my dating app a couple of days ago. My goal is to get outside honey on my. In my group session that I did today, that's all that we talked about. How do we meet guys in real life face to face? Yeah. How do we make it happen? So we. I talked about that for an hour. It was so much fun.

My boyfriend will not say I love you in a five month relationship. Usually I love you can come in within six months, plus or minus three. Yeah.

Okay. Let me see what the girls are talking about. Chicago. Yes. 21%. Houston, 15%. Dallas, another 15%. Miami. Miami actually had the same amount of black women to black men. But girl the black men are poor in Miami.

Yeah.

Seattle actually has a really good gender ratio. I think it's pretty on par.

Los Angeles 9%, 9%. Roughly 10% more black women to black men. But the thing about Los Angeles is that the black guy is like the Latina girls and the light skinned girls. So they're not checking for black women in the way that they need to. Yeah.

Miss Teach said Podcast name the podcast is called get your guy coaching.

Yeah. Or you can just search my name Anwar White and you'll find it anywhere you listen to podcasts. Yeah.

Aquarius said guy canceled second date even though he was super interested. Please help. Help with what?

What do you need help with? Question when there is a meeting that is cancelled on your calendar.

Do you trip or do you say okay, I'll do something else?

Girl it's a meeting that got canceled. What are you going to do at that time now? Do something fun.

Mellie said what's a good opening line? So those are things that I talk about in my program. Yeah. So definitely, if you're interested in working with me professionally in the new year and you want to get your guy by, let's say, next summer, you definitely want to join my program.

Ari said oh my God. Not the straight hat. Amy thank you. Girl Should I wait for the 2026 Olympics for international.

Girl Never that.

Girl. You should be traveling quarterly for the the ID Girl. We got to keep it real cute. Let's call it the id.

Shanice said her white crush is Jason Momoa. Girl he's half white, half Samoan. Girl he's brown girl But I'll accept it.

Jaz said, do you have any advice for dating in college as a black girl?

Yeah. I'm gonna do a video about this, but I think it's important for you to date on campus and off campus. I also think it's important for you to study abroad. I want you to study abroad either in Latin America or in Europe, Asia if you must grow. And I want you to have five boyfriends in those countries so you'll get fluent in the language. You'll learn how to date and be the prize.

Girl. A lot of the girls are focused on certain frats and some athletes don't focus on them. Girl.

Girl. Hang out with some guys in the engineering department and computer science department. Girl because the gag is that they're freaky deeks and they will help you explore your own sexuality. And a lot of the black girls haven't necessarily done that as much as they need to. And that's no shade.

Yeah. And girl, they're packing, so they might be hitting the walls. Girl. Some of these football athletes, girl, they're not doing nothing. So anyway, enough about that, girl.

I don't get freaky till after midnight, Girl, Talk to me in 45 minutes.

User911 said young Leonardo and Sean from Boy Meets World. Girl, can you get an adult, please? Because it's starting to get pervy. Yeah.

Macmusil said you should collab with matchmaker Devin Simone. She was on mtv, Real World and the Challenge. Okay.

Mine'S was Chad Michael Murray. I know that's right, Goldie. Girl, it's giving that one Alicia Keys video. Girl.

The BM family says, what about Nigerian men? Ladies, what do we say about the Let Nigerian men grow. Put your experiences in the comments. I'm not going to speak on it until the girls talk about it. Yeah.

Venetia said, listen, the white chocolate is hidden these days, girl. Stay away from white chocolate, girl.

Stay away, girl.

Somebody said Henry Cavill and John Stamos. Here's a gag with me, honey. My.

I think about my attraction in a very different way. And I think about it in the terms of Saved by the Bill. When I was a kid, I was all about A.C. slater. And then I had a severe nerd phase. And I saw that one picture of Screech when he was packing. So I was crushing on Screech for a while. You know how sometimes you always crush on that nerd? And then after that, when I was in my dad phase, it was Mr. Belding. And now I'm. I'm with Zach. Honey, Zach is always with the black woman on tv. Girl. He's always married to some black woman. Girl. So Zack attack, girl. Zack attack now. Yeah, there's always a white crush. Honey.

Sierra said, can you start a series on how to get your guy? Yeah, girl. It's called my program. Join it.

Yeah, use your 91 1. Can you have a swimsuit pic on your dating profile? No, girl. No girl. Unless you want to attract the sharks. Jaws tea.

Up to you, girl. But that scares me.

Austin said, do you do lesbian dating? Personally, I don't do lesbian dating, but I do help my lesbian sisters get their girl.

Someone said her white boy crushes Chris Pine. See, this is the thing. Y' all have white boy crushes. So when I hear you say, I'm not attracted to white men, girl, I don't believe it.

Tammy said, my white crush is that guy on TikTok who chops wood. Girl. Keep it in your pants.

Let's see what's going on. AJ Said, I love nerds, but I feel like I'm not their type. Girl, nerds like everybody. They just want somebody to love them.

Yeah, girl, here's the thing. If in your mind, you don't feel like you're everybody's type, you. You're not dating in the way that you need to.

Yeah.

Angelica said is expecting texting throughout the day. Okay. I was left und delivered for hours.

Here's the thing. Is he your boyfriend?

If he's your boyfriend, then there'll be expectations in terms of communication. If he's not your boyfriend, no expectations. That time that you're waiting on him, you should be talking to two other guys.

That's your work.

Inez says, what do you think of finance men? I think that.

Here's the thing. I went to business school with a lot of these finance guys in New York, so I have a. I had a front row seat to who they are and what they. How they navigate.

Bit of a generalization, but I want to keep it real with you. They have a lot of money, they spend a lot of money. A lot of them are on drugs, and a lot of them are not as intelligent as you think that they are. Literally all they have to do is put numbers in an Excel sheet. They don't have to use their brain.

And they work a lot. So if you're someone who needs attention, and most black girls do, they will not be the one for you.

She's so intuitive. Said, are nerdy black guys a good catch? Some of the best, girl. Some of the best. Those guys that you think are those corny black boys make the best husbands.

Leela said, do you think you can build chemistry? Met a nice guy, but sp spark isn't there. Wait two or three weeks. If there's no increase in the spark, let it go.

Hey, Caitlyn girl.

So I'm seeing a lot of no, hell no run when it comes to the Nigerian men, Honey.

Amosa, do you have a podcast? Yes, it's called the get your guy coaching podcast. So I've done a survey, and it looks like a hundred percent of the women on here are saying no to Nigerian men.

Case closed. Oh, I saw one. They are good. 99% of women are saying no to Nigerian men.

Let me see what y' all are talking about. Library Mouse Said, always a Zack Morris girl here.

Sai said, did you all know Zach is part Asian in real life? He is, honey.

Oh, my God. Zach dated Lark Lisa for years. Sure. Did.

And I love that for him and for Lisa.

One of the things that I really hated about Saved by the Bell was that they never allowed Lisa to have, like, a legitimate love interest on the show. Literally. They had Screech following her around, but he was so wildly unserious. And then they literally had like, one episode of her and Zach, like, being together, and then the next episode, they just pretended like that never happened. And I hate that for you all, because representation in media matters, and when you don't see that you can be have love as a black girl or you can date outside of your race, you're gonna think that that's not available to you. So I always get really pissed off when I think about Lisa Turtle because she's fabulous, smart, wealthy, fashion sense on 10, all of it, she was total package.

And then, like, you know, the other girls were messy, no shade, but they got guys that. It makes sense to me.

You see what's going on over here?

Lavishly Manny said traveling to Amsterdam. Want to date. Thanks so much for that cowboy hat, girl. Okay, you can. The funny thing, when I was in Amsterdam, I didn't see a lot of interracial couples, but I know that Rotterdam, which is a little bit away. Girl, they will marry you there. Yeah, Poison Ivy said, why do I feel like I have to lose weight before I can date? Because you're not accepting yourself, Poison Ivy. You need to understand that.

Your guy is going to love you through thick and thin. And here's the thing. You think that, oh, my God, if I lose weight, everything is going to be amazing or much better. It's not.

It's not the weight that might be holding you back, girl. It's your mindset and it's your thought about yourself and your self concept. Right? I watch 600 pound live all. All the time, girl. All of them have men.

It's not about the weight, my love. Yeah.

And that's on, period.

Dana said your advice is great. How did you learn all this? I've been a dating coach for 13 years, and I've helped thousands of women get their guy. And I read a shit ton.

What am I reading now?

I'm reading don't believe everything you think. I'm also reading how to be the love you seek. And then I'm also reading men chase women choose. So I'm always reading two or three books at a time. I'm not just.

I'm always leveling up my. My craft because, you know, I think I do love dating and relationship, both qualitatively. And quantitatively. That's why I come with numbers, honey, because I can't just give you some bullshit, right? Trying to be viral, trying to be cute. Some of these dating coaches, they'll. They'll be yelling at you, right? They have some sort of shtick.

Girl, I just want you to have the information.

Jessica says I worked in finance. That is so true. Don't I know it, girl.

Shani said, what about entrepreneurs? Entrepreneurs are going to put their business first, themselves second, and then you third. The entrepreneurs are going to be like babies. So it's kind of like dating a single, a single parent. And if you have attachment issues or attention issues and you need attention, there are going to be moments where your entrepreneur person is going to be really focused on the business, depending on where they are in the business. But most entrepreneurs, even if the businesses are established and in their teenage years, are still going to put that business, number one, themselves, number two, and then either you or their mom. And number three.

Angie said, how do I become the mean girl? You don't need to be a mean girl.

Men don't like mean girls. Men don't like bitches. But they do appreciate women that have boundaries. So don't be mean. Be boundaried.

Nikoi said, I love your advice. Thank you, girl. She said, hope you're having a good week. I'm having a great week. It is my last week and then I'm off for the rest of the year. Sam said, what about black women dating professional athletes? I wouldn't do it. I wouldn't tell my best friend to do it. I wouldn't tell my worst enemy to do it. Same with entrepreneurs. You have to understand that athletes have been pretty raised in the prize their entire lives. So if you want everything on their schedule, and you all know that athletes have at least four to six women on the side. Professional athletes do in every region of the country. They have somebody. I don't care. The only person that I know that hasn't had anybody.

LeBron James.

Everyone else.

They got, they got, they got a longer roster. They are loyal to themselves. And most of them aren't even loyal to their own agents. Girl. So how are they going to be loyal to you?

Not even loyal to their own teams.

Someone said, steph Curry, girl.

The craze and I, when I lived in the Bay Area, we went to the same.

Child doctor.

Let me see where I'm at while I'm finding my place, girl.

If you're interested in booking a consultation, call with me, definitely go to the Link in my bio. Yeah.

Let me see what's going Chile said, I'm trying to find the nerds on Reddit. Anybody got tips? Girl, get on Twitch. Girl, don't go on Reddit.

Discord before Reddit. Girl.

Let me see what else. Xoxo, thank you so much for the 32 roses. Girl. I appreciate that.

Suzuki said, what about dating the gym coach? Only if he's not hooking up with the English teacher girl because the English teachers are thirsty. No shade. Usually the dating coach always get the the gym coach always gets the English teacher's girl and the science teachers are often lesbians. No shade.

Don Collins, thank you so much for the rose. Pam Cakes, thank you so much for the two roses.

Lana said, I think there's a lag when he sees our questions. Yeah, at least five to ten minutes because there's 925 of you and one of me.

Xoxo, thank you so much for the 19 roses.

Sakura said, what does it mean when a guy says he's not interested in you because he doesn't know you?

I don't know. It feels like game to me. I don't like it. Like guys that are genuine, like, don't say that. He doesn't say he's a guy who's interested in you would never say, oh, I'm not interested in you. It's almost like a. A little bit of a backhanded, like nag. Yeah. And we don't deal with guys that neck. Those are insecure guys. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Thank you so much for the ten finger hearts.

And black Blackford said, and I love you. Thank you, girl.

He said, and that man's going to be skinny too. The guy on 600 pound life, 100%. But that's why I tell all the plus size girls. Tall, skinny gamers, that's your lane, girl.

If you don't know, now you know. And they're usually packing anyway, girl.

Xoxo, thank you so much for the 25 roses.

Asia said, the men I'm attracted to aren't attracted to me. I'm literally going to do a video about this tomorrow and my podcast episode is all about this tomorrow, tomorrow that's coming out. So definitely check it out. I think Fati said, if you are to do it, do it for you. 100%.

Lillian said, Amore's got the knowledge. Thank you, girl.

Char said, what's your strategy to read more?

It's the first thing I do when I. It's the first thing I do anything. If I need to. If there are things that I want to do, they're the first things that I do.

So I'm.

I'm learning Japanese right now, so the first thing I do read this book is called how to Be the Love youe Seek. Nicole Lapura, great author, great therapist. Like, live for her Twitter, so check her out.

It's the first thing I do.

1, 2, 3. What's your number one sign you see when you know your client found the one.

When he calls her every night or every evening after work because she is the first person he wants to talk to about his day? That's when I know. Oh, he.

He sprung. He sprung. Yeah.

Yeah.

People are saying they won't go. They want a book list. Girl, I got 500 books. What do you want me to do? It's giving Reading Rainbow. If you want me to do a booklet, scroll.

Yeah, hold on one second. My clients are telling me about their dates.

So we generally talk about their. Their d.

Give me one second.

Got to make a little note here.

Okay.

Let me see what else is going on. Ladies, thoughts on bell hooks. Icon, Icon. Where's my bell hooks? I literally have a bell hooks section in my library.

Dear black woman.

This is your bible. All about love.

Yeah.

Please understand.

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Lo said. Have you written a book? I'm writing a book right now, so that's exciting.

Is that one extra or what is we doing?

Let me see what else is going on.

What's your opinion on dating cops, ladies? Let's talk about what it looks like to date cops. It's a big.

No. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.

Cisco said that. Thong. The thong. Thong, thong. I say that. No, no, no, no, no to cops.

Hold on one second.

So I want you to be on. Coming to the Tuesday and Thursday sessions. I also want us to be doing that one on one every week. And then you. You should be on the apps for 10 minutes in the morning, 10 minutes in the evening, as well as going through the online program. Try to do around 30 minutes a week.

Okay. So I. My clients and I. My VIP clients, they get to text me and message me whenever they need me. Yeah. And we get to communicate that way. So it's like having me in your pocket anytime you need me while you are dating. Yeah. So that's kind of what it looks like to be supported, fully supported in your dating journey.

Bridge said some dating coaches be single and given advice.

Many of them. Many of them.

Thanks so much for the Ten Roses. Troy said. What made you become a dating Coach. I literally have been a dating coach, girls, since elementary school. Helping the boys talk to the girls and the girls talk to the boys. Girl, I was double dutching.

And then I was balling it up, honey. Crossing them over. So I was always navigating between both groups. Yeah. And.

I am always one to bring people together. That's what it's about more than anything else.

So I literally helping boys talk to girls and girls talk to boys. That's what I do. At the end of the day.

Animal Prince said, should I ignore the fact that he stares at other women when out, especially white women? No, that's a cheater.

That's a cheater. And he has no respect for you.

No, don't ignore it. But also, what are you gonna do? Say, stop doing that. You're begging for him to be a good guy. If he's not your boyfriend, drop him. Find another guy. Who's not gonna do that.

Regina said, you know, I love that you said that. Don't be mean. Be boundary. 100%. PRCO said, we have to start believing men when they say, like, I'm not ready for a relationship. When he says that, let him go immediately. Lauren said, I was quoting you to my friend at lunch today and we're telling her about the super bowl of dating.

Yay.

Oh, girl, lost my place.

Kayla said, is it safe to be on the apps after January 1st? Hundred percent. One hundred percent. That's when I want you to be on the apps. Yeah.

To divine heart. He said, I'm reading all about love now. Good Bible.

Justice said, it's not an easy read, but it's worth it. Sure is.

Jamaican passion. Flowers said, your advice has been great for many. Thank you. I appreciate you saying that.

AB says, does anyone know if he only takes clients for certain areas? I live in New Orleans, girl. I work with women all around the world. I just brought on a client. She lives in London, but I have clients in Asia. Girl, New Orleans is not some weird far off planet or, you know, girl, I take clients in from everywhere and I actually, in February, I'm going to go to a wedding of my clients in New Orleans because she got her guy and she's marrying her guy from the program in New Orleans. So it's possible.

Yeah.

Let me see what else is going on here. Okay. Survey says no to cops.

100% of people are saying no to cops. T. Diamond said loved you on the black girls heel podcast. Thank you. I appreciate that. Morgan said just ordered all about love. Thanks for the recommendation. Anytime.

Some people are starting to call out some of the. Some of the dating coaches that are, I think, single but still giving advice. Finding Mr. Height. Cough, cough. Someone said, never heard of him or her. Whatever. And Blackboard said, I just love that Amor's approach isn't abrasive and it isn't about playing games. My job as a dating coach is to make sure that you are.

Becoming the woman that is ready for the best relationship of your life. That's it. It's really even not about these guys, because these guys will come and go.

So I'm happy that you get that. Juliss said, to get your guys sign up for a consultation. The link is in his bio. Please, girl, please. As my VP of marketing said. Yeah, justice said, anwar, you're living in your purpose, helping black women. We love you. Thank you so much. Sending all the love to you. All.

Green tea. Goody said, ah, you were that one boy who could double Dutch.

So here's the gag. It would take me a day to relearn how to double Dutch. But then after that day, yeah, I got it. I got into it. Pavia said, do your clients have to do dating apps? They do. They do not, because I want them to find their guy. But there are things that you're going to have to learn. Right? Right. And the dating app is good to practice those things. So many of us did not grow up with boundaries, so we get to practice setting boundaries while engaging in the apps. A lot of us are not vulnerable. We're not talking about our feelings. So we get to practice those things while in the app, and I help my clients do that. Okay. And thank you all so much for the 50,000 likes. If there's anything that has resonated with you, definitely tap, double tap, triple tap the screen. Okay.

Jules said, hinge has been so disgusting. And listening to you putting it on pause. Girl, hinge is unhinged. Hinge is not it for this year or next year. Please believe.

Suk's PV said, what if he's too submissive? Girl, if he's submissive, you got to be his dom to his sub. Girl, get into a bdsm. Honey.

If he's too submissive, then he's got to go, girl. It's not going to work.

Gigi, thank you so much for the rose.

See what else y' all talking about? Julia said, White boy Winter.

I know that's right. Are we White boy Wintering?

Are we doing that? Who's white boy Wintering? Give me a hashtag. Wbw if you're white Boy wintering. Honey.

Rosie said, do you only see black women as clients? Black and brown. Black and brown.

I work with everybody but the program and the work is really centered on the black and brown experience.

Bubbles, thank you so much for the two roses.

Julia said, congratulations. Thank you. K said, your voice is so calm. I would listen to your audiobook. Oh, girl, I don't know if I could do one, but I know the girls love to listen to an audiobook. Honey.

Maya said, congratulations to your client. Thank you. Thank you so much. I generally try to go to at least one wedding a quarter. Yeah.

One, two, three says, how long does it take on average for them to get their guy? It really depends. It's market specific. So if you're in the south or In California, generally, nine to 12 months. If you're in the Midwest and DMV area, six to nine months. If you're in, like, the Northeast, so New York.

Boston, that area, three to six months.

See? What else? What else? You're asking what else is going on here?

Broncher said, I work with veterans. God bless them, but no to them as well, girl, Just because they're a veteran, that doesn't mean that the. The PTSD is out of them, girl. No, Shade. Yeah, the PTSD and the mentality and the trauma.

Sometimes the veterans are even worse, girl.

Lala Cole said, how can I book with you? Go to the link in my bio and you can book a consultation call there. Okay. And Blackford said, oh, I'm excited to work with you. Great. Girl, come with it because we're. We're gearing up for 2024, honey. And if your New Year's resolution is to get your guide this next year, you better join now, girl, so we can maximize the super bowl of dating in those first two to three weeks.

Shade, thank you so much for the five roses.

Arma said, can you get somebody back? What do you mean by that? Because guess what? If it's your guy, you'll never need to get him back because he'll always be there. Shade, thank you so much for the fire.

Ana says, how do we make him obsessed like he was in the beginning? Are you in a exclusive, committed relationship with this guy or not? Because that answer will change my answer. Yeah. Ali Nell said, you spoke on Match. So far, so good for me. Awesome. Love to hear it, honey. Love to hear it.

Oh, my God. I'm seeing a lot of hashtag WBWS up in here, and it makes me so happy. It makes me so happy, honey. I know. That's right? I know that's right girl. I am getting my life by seeing all of these W's and these B's and these W's.

Carla said let it snow. I know that's wrong girl.

I know that's right. At the same time Victoria said decline oh all right girl. I know that's right honey.

Nah. Nadia dang business said I'm a plus sized Mexican woman. What app should I use in January of course where are you located girl? And then I can give you some answers.

I'm just trying to go through all of these different comments honey.

Jules said I'm in Boston area. Ain't no way.

My clients have to date everybody.

In Boston There are only 76,000 black men so you're gonna have to date everybody if you want to get your guest Vanessa said, why so long in the south? The men are not self actualized there. Many of them are poor and uneducated so they don't have money to settle down and so it makes it harder for them to want. If they can't provide for a family they're not going to get coupled with you and want to marry you or have the money to even have a wedding, let alone provide a home and a safe space for you. Just financially and also things take a little bit longer in the south. Everything is half the speed as New York.

Yeah Olga thank you so much for the rose.

User. Slim Shady said I need to book one asap. My golden birthday is next Friday and I'm fearing irrational girl not irrational girl. Monica said you saved my dating game. Adoria Amwar thank you girl sucks. What do you think about rotational dating? I always feel guilty. Don't feel guilty girl. I call it Olympic dating. You want a gold medalist, a silver medalist and a bronze medalist and if you don't have everyone at the podium girl, you're not you don't stop. Don't stop till you get enough.

Yeah.

Jen said, how do we get to work with you? Go to the link in my bio and book a consultation call and and I'll see if it's a good fit and if you're coachable. If so we'll talk about what program is the best fit for you. No pressure but if you want to book, book now because I think I only have like one or two more slots this week. Open.

Root card Girl said what's wbw? It's White Boy Winter. It means you need to have at least one white boy on your roster this winter.

You know, to match the snow.

GG kisses says Anwar, what race is your honey?

His race? I'll tell you his color. Milk.

Oh, lord, give me the strength. White. White. White. White. White.

That's.

Chase said. Amar, you said to stop swiping until January. And I'm bored. Girl, this is when you go outside and you talk to people and you really lean into the offline. Dating. Yeah. Also be with your friends and family.