Anwar White says pet names early in dating are a red flag for love bombing. They skip the actual process of getting to know someone and create false intimacy, like flattery in a job interview that doesn't match the real role.
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So what do love bombers do that I think that you should be super wary of? I think that if you meet a man and he is starting to give you pet names immediately, it's a red flag. It's part of the love. It's part of the love bombing. And I say that because his attempt when he gives you a pet name he's trying to actually skip the line and get to your heart immediately. Instead of actually trying to get to know you, he's creating this false sense of comfortability so that you already feel like, well he's already given me a pet name. He must love me, right Bro, I can say anything I want in an interview to try to get a job. It doesn't mean that I'm actually skilled to get the job right. And so I want us to be understanding that like pet names immediately is a red flag and I don't want you to think that that's love because that's not.