A woman breaks down why men say they want marriage but don't follow through, and outlines a three-step dating strategy: first conversation, first date, then exclusivity. She argues most men lack the skills or real commitment to back up their words.
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How you know he's intentional about you when this man tells you to your face that he's looking for a wife? Hey, girl. So I wanted to talk about dating intention for a second because this dating coach seems to think that if a man tells you that he is looking for a wife, that he is a man that is dating with intention. And I want to offer to you that men, as you know, will say anything in the present term because they are present term thinkers. It doesn't mean that they have the boyfriend skills and, and actually want marriage or have the intentionality for that. I don't care if he says wife. I don't care if he says life. I don't care if he says knife. Girl, I'm giving Dr. Seuss up in here. I want you to know that just like someone who interviews for a job will say whatever they can say to get a job, these men will do the same thing, but it doesn't necessarily mean that he has the boyfriend skills. And so many of us know that person at the job who literally doesn't know what they're doing but got an amazing job because they were able to interview well. I don't want that for you. So I have a question for you because I don't care if these guys are actually dating with intention. I care if you're dating with intention. So my question for you is, do you have a dating strategy? Do you have a strategy? Do you know how to go from first conversation to first date, first date to exclusivity? Because just getting on the apps is a tactic. It's not a strategy. If not, then maybe we're not dating with intention, girl. And I want to offer to you that when we're not dating with strategy or intention, oftentimes what will happen is we won't feel confident in dating and we will give away and abdicate our power to these men who don't know what to do with it. And that's dangerous. That is going with the flow, right? And so what I want to offer to you is that, girl, we got to get a strategy. If you have no strategy, no shade, put Nostrategy in the comments because I want to let you know that most women don't have strategy and that is one of the way that men try to disempower you in this dating game. And the reason why I say no shade, no shame in not having a strategy is because we're not taught how to date. Most of us. And this is no shade, because I was this girl too. Most of us are still dating with the same intention that we were doing at 12 years old on AOL. Talking about a S L girl. No shade. Shade. But we get to do it differently, with more knowledge. And if you want to learn how to date with intention and with strategy, book a call with me. I hope this helps.
