This is a short YouTube conversation (created/uploaded by Anwar White) in which two speakers—one identifying as a dating coach with over 10 years' experience—explain why online dating feels difficult. Key claims presented: only 20% of men are "relationship ready" versus 80% of women, men swipe right on about two-thirds of women, while women swipe right on only ~5% of men. The speakers use these statistics to explain why women often find that the men they like don't reciprocate and to frame advice for improving online-dating outcomes.
Questions this video answers
20% (only 20% of the guys are relationship ready).
80% (80% of the women are relationship ready).
Men swipe right on approximately 2/3 of women; women swipe right on about 5% of men.
Chapters
Hey girl, do you want to know why dating, specifically online dating is so hard? Well, I've been a dating coach for over 10 years and I look at dating and love and relationships both qualitatively and quantitatively.
So I wanted to give you some numbers.
Okay, here's the only 20% of the guys out there are actually relationship ready versus 80% of the women out there. So what does this disparity mean?
This actually means that. Well, let me just say this.
Have you ever thought to yourself, why is it that all of the guys that I like don't like me and all of the guys that I don't like actually like me? Well, those numbers are exactly the reason why.
Okay, so how can we look at this in terms of online dating? Well, guess what? Men are actually swiping right on 2/3 of women when women are actually swiping only 5% right on men. We're super picky.
Super, super picky.
And that's what's making it actually hard. And I know what you're going to say, men are trash. The men around me are not great, all of that. But if men thought in a similar way, only focused on 23 year old IG models, then we would never find love. So you are going to have to widen your net. So what is your next best step to help you get your guy? Well girl, I just want you to swipe on 20% of the guys, not 5% to align with the actual number of men that are ready for a relations. So one out of every five guys. And here's the thing, girl, I'm not telling you that you have to marry the guys that you are swiping right on. All I'm asking you to do is have conversations and see if he is dependable, consistent and emotionally available. That's it. Because here's what dating, specifically online dating is about. It's not about finding the stock that everyone likes, like Amazon. Right? It's actually about finding the undervalued stock stock of a guy. Right. So that you can become rich. Love rich. Follow for more if you want to learn how I get women into relationships every week. Hope this helps.
