A multi-speaker YouTube discussion (by/posted by Anwar White) about household chores as a major factor in relationship success and divorce among working mothers. The speakers cite a Pew Research finding that equal sharing of household chores ranks among the top three contributors to a successful marriage, and they give concrete dating/courtship advice: observe a partner's home, cooking/cleaning habits, helpfulness at events, insist on a traditional courtship (partner initiates and displays chivalry), and live together for at least six months before marriage to test household labor sharing.
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You want to know the major theme that I'm seeing in the divorce industry? As a divorce lawyer, as I do consults these days? I am seeing working moms doing it all. And I'm seeing the husbands step back and say, hannah, I got to do a thing.
And they're also bringing home more money as they're working in their very difficult jobs. You don't have to get in that situation. And there are so many women, especially between the ages of 35 and 45, that are getting a divorce because of what this gu just said.
I want us to do it differently.
Because I want you to be successful in love. It's interesting because Pew Research center actually.
Did a study, and the equal share of household chores was a top three.
Reason in terms of what would make a successful marriage.
And it came in before shared religious beliefs. It came in before wanting children, adequate income, and aligned political beliefs. So this is very important, and many.
Women don't actually know this.
So I want to talk to you.
About what we're looking for while we're dating so that you don't have to be in a situation where you're married and this guy's not doing anything.
Okay, so let's talk about the courtship. And it has to be a courtship. There is no talking stage. Courtship means you are being courted. So what does this look like? This looks like he initiates everything. And he is very chivalrous. Chivalry is a choreography. Opening your door, sliding your seat behind you. These are all chores. Okay? Secondly, while dating, girl, you want to.
Look at his house.
Is it filthy and disgusting, or is it together? Also, is he eating out or ordering in all the time, or does he cook for himself? Right. The other thing, how does he treat.
Your home when he's in it?
Right. Is he helping with dishes or is.
He leaving things a mess? That's the second thing that I want you to check out for when you're dating.
And the third thing is, when you go to events, especially family events, is.
He helping out when he can, or is he waiting for everybody else, especially the host, to do something very important?
And then finally, when you all are.
Thinking about engagement and marriage, well, first.
Of all, please move in with him.
Before y' all get married.
And you want to live with him for at least six months to see if he's able to sustain a healthy level of household chores.
If he's not. We gotta let him go because I don't want you to be burnt out. Y' all are working way too much. Anyway.
So one, in the comments, let me know, did you know this very important.
Fact about household chores?
And two, how do you evaluate household.
Chores and the potential of a man when it comes to marriage? I hope this helps.
