Short transcript from a YouTube video where two speakers debate dating strategies. Speaker A advocates refusing men who aren't immediately physically attractive, using blunt sexual language as the criterion. Speaker B (a dating coach for successful women) counsels against leading with hormones and immediate sexual arousal, cites a Match.com study claim (50% of couples met on Match.com were not initially attracted), and recommends dating for long-term compatibility, offering coaching services for women of color.
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You don't find him attractive. Don't give him a chance just because he's nice. Men never give women chances just because they're nice. If they don't think you're cute, they're not even gonna look in your direction. If your coochie is not throbbing when you look at this man, he is not the one.
Hey girl. So you get to date however you want to date. But here is the danger of dating with your coochie throbbing, right? Basically you are leading with your hormones and this is what we did when we were in high school. And, and it's not going to serve you as a grown ass woman. Here's what I want to offer to you. Recently Match.com actually did a research study and 50% of the couples that met on Match.com said that they were not initially attracted to their partners. I want that to seep in for a little bit, right? Because many of us are hoping that our coochies are throbbing immediately and really focused on the spark. And the spark is not going to help you. That's actually going to hurt you. One, because when you are led with hormones, your deductive reasoning skills go out of the window. I want us to do it differently. As a dating coach for smart and successful women, I help my clients date for 30 to 40 years from now, not what's happening right now. Because here's the thing, if you want to date like that, that's fine, it's your prerogative. But please understand that that throbbing coochie of yours that is supposed to be the barometer for whether the guy is good or not, or whether you should lean in and really, really try to figure out or make it work with him. That is hormones. And that is something that is going to fade within 18 months of getting to know a guy. After that, you will have nothing with a guy. Please understand this and realize that this is not the way to do it, at least in my opinion. Let me know in the comments whether you have dated like this or if you're dating in a different way. And if you want to work with me, book a call with me because I have a complete strategy in terms of how to date, especially for women of color, that has been wildly successful.
