Short YouTube monologue (Anwar White) advising women to avoid a ‘safety net’ dating pattern—settling for men who are not qualified emotionally, financially, or socially—driven by a ‘love scarcity mindset.’ The speaker urges viewers to hold out for higher-quality partners (“nines or tens”), warns that investing in unready men leads to being played, and promotes paid offerings (coaching calls and a dating strategy starter course). Ends with a prompt asking viewers to share experiences in the comments.
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I know he looks like he wants to bite me, but I'm just saying that he's thirsty. Hey, girl, I'm so sorry to freak you out. So if you've dropped your phone, if you have a heart attack, please pick up the phone and please catch your breath because I want to talk about this really dangerous dating pattern that I call safety net. And it plagues so many women who don't know how to date. What happens is you will engage with guys that you know are not qualified to be with you. They are either ugly to you, too nerdy, too uneducated, too unsuccessful, but you would rather have something, even if it's not fully serving you, than nothing. This is what I call love scarcity mindset. But I want us to do it differently. I only want you to hold out for the nines or the tens and not the five, six or sevens because those people won't serve you. Not only will you create a love upper limit, but you play yourself, girl. The thing is that we think, oh my God, like they're going to be sprung on me forever. Just like that video. When you feed him, when you give him life, when you give him confidence, he will snap back at you because he's going to think that he is too big for his britches. And that shit hurts more than if you were to engage with someone who was ready and quote unquote on your level, than to get played by someone who you knew was never there. Yeah, if you want to learn how to date. Because here's the thing, the confusion is how do I date someone I want to really date, but also give people chances that I wouldn't normally give? There's a balance here and there's a strategy that's involved with dating successfully. And if you want to learn how to do that, you can definitely book a call with me and I can teach you how to do that, or you can check out my dating strategy starter course. That also is really helpful too. Ladies, have you given those busters, those dusty and thirsty turtles, complete chances and they have completely snapped on you? If so, let me know in the comments.
