Short YouTube advice from dating coach Anwar White (13 years experience) arguing that women should avoid "ambitious" men because they often prioritize career/ego over relationship needs and lack support for a partner's success. He contrasts ambition (externally motivated, time-consuming, competitive) with a growth mindset (intrinsically motivated, responsive to feedback, supportive of a partner's wins), and offers two quick vetting checks: how a man responds to criticism/boundaries and how he reacts to your successes. Ends with a CTA to comment or book a vetting call.
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I just wanna be y'. All.
Hey, girl. So as a dating coach for 13 years, one of the major questions that I ask many of my clients or potential clients is, what are you looking for? And the majority of the time, the first thing that they say is an ambitious man.
And I want to let you know.
Girl, you don't want an ambitious man.
Trust me. And the reason I say this is because two things. One, an ambitious man is going to.
Be working all the time and he's not going to have time for you.
And two, the priority of how he thinks about his life is different than.
Maybe how you think about your life being an ambitious woman. If you are an ambitious woman, he.
Will make his ambitions number one, he.
Will make himself number two, and he will make you or his mama number three or bronze medalist. And I don't think that you should be a bronze medalist in your own relationship. Girl, that doesn't make any sense to me. Now, I want you to be looking for a man that has a growth mindset. And the difference between being ambitious and having a growth mindset is that being ambitious is all about the external motivation. And having a growth mindset is more about the internal or the intrinsic motivation that's happening inside.
And the best way to figure out.
If a guy has a growth mindset is two things. One, how he responds to criticism, right?
AKA your boundaries or feedback. And two, how he reacts to your successes. An ambitious man is not going to.
Be happy for you because it's going to take away from his shine. A man with growth mindset is going to be inspired by that and support you. Huge differences between ambitious men and men with growth mindsets.
Stop going for the ambitious men.
And if you've dated them before, let me know your experiences in the comments. And if you want more help with.
