A short YouTube monologue by dating coach Anwar White offering dating advice for Black women focused on finding complementary partners (yin/yang) rather than clones. White lists several personality/type pairings he’s observed over 14 years as a coach and gives cautions for some pairings (e.g., dating first-responder professions).
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Girl, most people date looking for their clone and you're going to need to date looking for your compliment. That is the thing that's going to bring you the most success. Relationships are about compliments. It's about the yin to the yang. It's about the masculine to the feminine, right. And if we're focused on that, you will have the greatest kind of success rate. So I want to share with you some of the dating compliments that I have seen that have worked really well in the 14 years that I've been a dating coach. Because, you know, I'm always looking out for you as your fairy godbrother. So the, the first compliment that I want to share with you is if you are a type a boss babe, you're going to be looking for like the optimistic golden retriever guy. This is the guy that wants to do whatever you want to get done. Right. This is the engineer. This is like the guy who is like a federal employee or an architect. It's very much black cat, golden retriever vibes. Yeah. Now if you are the nice girl, if you are the church girl, you want to look for the guys that are the tradesmen, the guys that are the plumbers, the H Vac back, the construction guys. These guys are going to be the physical part of the relationship and you will be the heart and the spirit of the relationship. Again, the yin to the yang. Now if you are highly anxious, right, you worry about everything, everything is an issue or a problem and you, you know, make everything a catastrophe. You want to look for someone who is like a quiet, introverted like guy, right? These are the guys that are in tech. These are the guys that even the guys that are like veterinarians or work with animals. And this is because their quiet confidence is going to actually help to calm you. Okay? Now if you are a mama bear, if you're taking care of everybody, if you're getting people medicine and taking care of them when they're sick or they come to you for counsel, you, unfortunately you're going to be more attracted and your compliment is going to be more of the needy guy. This is the musician, the artist, sometimes the entrepreneur and the politician. Yeah. So something to look out for. Now if you are someone who is a bit of a social butterfly but maybe don't have a lot of follow through, your compliment is going to be like the non social gamer guy. Yeah. These are like again, it accountant, this kind of profession. He's not going to be insecure when you are being social and even a bit flirty. Because he doesn't care.
So these are the compliments that I have found that have worked really well. Oh, also, if you are a party girl, you know, that girl who's like the first one on the dance floor, you're probably your compliment is going to be someone who is going to be a bit controlling and overprotective. So kind of the banker, the lawyer, even the consultant. Those are the guys that I see kind of the party girls with. Now, if you are the romantic girl, and I want to put a cautionary tale here, oftentimes the compliment that works are the guys that are more athletic. That's why I like the English teachers, always have a crush on the PE teachers. So athletes, coaches, military.
Police, firefighters, these are dangerous professions to date. But these are the compliments that I see most often for the romantic ladies. So something to think about. Now let me know what kind of girl you are and if you've seen this compliment before and if there are other compliments that you've seen out there as well. I hope this is helpful and fun.
