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Your fucking reminder that a crush is just a lack of information.

This is a hundred percent right. And as a dating coach for women of color, I see this every week. Recently, one of my clients came to me and she's like, I don't want to date anymore. I don't trust myself. The last guy I was with, he showed himself as someone who is toxic in the three to four week mark. So I don't know who I'm choosing. And one of the things that I told her was like, girl, you have to understand that when you're in the courtship, you are only learning 3% each week of this guy. So you only knew about 12% of this guy. Please understand this. And the tricky thing about love and dating is that literally we don't know where their bombs are. And for toxic and narcissistic guys, their bombs are going to be at 50%, 75%, 80%, which makes it tricky because you think, oh, my God, this guy's amazing. And then once you get further down the line, you start to actually see some of their mud, as I call it. What I want to offer to you is we don't know who these people are until we actually are able to get to know them. And they tell. And research says that it takes 50 hours to go from an acquaintance to a casual friend. It takes literally 200 hours to go from a casual friend to someone close. Take your time here. Please realize that this notion of, oh, he's the one, and I know, immediately throw that down the toilet grill because it's not going to serve you here. Take your time. I hope this helps.