Anwar White argues Black women should adopt what he calls "white woman audacity"—prioritizing their own convenience and feelings first. He suggests using phrases like "I would prefer if" and "that makes me uncomfortable" to set boundaries, which he says will repel emotionally unavailable men and attract partners who actually show up.
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Girl, Black women need to start dating like white women. Well, not exactly. I want black women to start dating with white women's audacity, which, if you've lived this experience in this world, you know exactly what I'm talking about. White women navigate this world differently. They will not walk out of the way when they see you walking down the street. They will ask other people to push elevator buttons. They will ask other people to do a lot of things for them. Black women aren't raised this way. And the reason why white women do this is because they're raised in a certain way where they could say no to their parents. They could share their feelings. Right? They had certain boundaries. Many of us did not have that. And so it's hard for us to navigate the world in such a way. But I want you to know today, I want you to have white woman audacity. I want you to date, and I want you to live with that audacity because I know you will get much more out of life and your love life more when you do so. So what does that mean? It means black women, I want you to make sure that everything is based on your convenience. You have to be number one. You have to be first. Not your parents, not your siblings, not your friends, not your job. You. You have to be first. Because if you are first, you will get what you want. So I'm going to give you some language because here's the thing. The reason why white women have that audacity is because they center their feelings. And because we weren't ra center our feelings, they weren't welcomed or celebrated when we were growing up. We don't do that. But I'm going to give you some language when things happen that you can use to censor your feelings. So instead of saying, you won't disrespect me or you won't, you know you're crazy, I want you to say, I would prefer if. Or that makes me uncomfortable, or that hurts my feelings, or that makes me sad and disappointed. Use one of those, girl, and you will repel the men that one, are not emotionally available and two, will want to center your feelings. You'll actually attract those guys that want to hold space for you, and that are the givers and the providers and their true masculine energy. Let me know are you ready for your white woman audacity era? If so, put a WWA in the comments and I look forward to hearing about them.
