Anwar White explains why she doesn't offer etiquette training. She argues that shapeshifting to perform poise damages Black and Brown women, and that real femininity comes from inner healing, not red lipstick or crossed legs. A woman has to cultivate it herself.
Shiki Nene said, do you assist with etiquette and poise training? Well, I will tell you, with a name like Shiki Nene, that is not etiquette and that is not poise.
But on a more serious level, no.
I don't.
And the reason I don't is because those things are not going to get you into the healthiest, most successful relationship of your life.
You being your full, authentic self is what is going to bring success here. And for many black and brown women who shapeshift, depending on if they're with family, parents, friends, men, work, it is very difficult for someone to do.
But you got to be able to bring your full authentic self so that you can be fully loved.
That's important.
The poise shit, the etiquette shit.
Your cosplaying, femininity.
You don't need to do that. Part of getting into your feminine energy is actually.
Doing deeper work. Work that we do in this program, in my program, this is inner child womb healing, so that the femininity can naturally come from within.
Instead of you thinking that you crossing your leg is going to help you get a man or using a certain fork.
And I'm saying all of this with love because I want you and everyone else to know, especially if you are a woman of color, that your femininity is much deeper than red lipstick.
And a red dress.
It's much deeper than that.
And I want to offer that to you and anyone else that want that needs to or can hear it at this moment.
Someone said a real man will bring that out naturally. No.
It'S not a man's job to make you feel more feminine.
That's your job.
It's your job.
Your job is to come.
Into your dating life leading with your feminine so that you can naturally attract the masculine and detract and repel the feminine. Men or the men that are in their dominant hyper toxic masculinity that want to forcibly submit you into your feminine. Both men are dangerous. And one of the biggest and best strategies in dating is to learn how to do this from the jump from the get go.
It's not a man's job to do that, that's yours.
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Dating Pitfalls of the Smart and Successful Woman - Get Your Guy Podcast S1 E2
