Do men need to be straightforward?

Talczyk said. They need to just be straightforward. No, they don't. They get to be whoever they want to be. They don't have to do anything you think that they do because you are used to black and brown men being very assertive and aggressive when it comes to you. So that's your benchmark for how a lot of men should be. But they don't need to necessarily do that. They get to be chill with it. And I actually think it's a. It's a very. It's a more respectful way of courtship because it really does give you the power to set the pace of what is comfortable for you.

Which is true queen stuff. Yeah.

So something to think about, something to consider.

That. Yeah, our job is not to tell or to think that people should be doing anything differently than what they're thinking or doing. People get to do whatever they want. Our job is just to figure out, does it work for me, do I feel good? If it doesn't, we step away. We don't try to change people.