Anwar White argues that playing damsel in distress can work but attracts the wrong men. She recommends "queen energy" instead: know what you need, stay interdependent, and let men help because it serves you, not their egos.
Okay. Journey to Blue said, does damsel in distress still work?
If you're cosplaying it.
I think it works, but it works on the wrong kind of guys. I think that there's a balance here. And I was talking about this with some of my clients in that.
It'S about intention. No, I was talking about this because I had a podcast episode that I recorded live in New York, and I was explaining to them that this isn't about stroking a man's ego. If you cosplay your damsel in distress, then you are censoring a man because you're doing it for him.
Instead. The way that I want you to think about this in your queen energy. And a queen actually doesn't do much for herself.
She's very clear about what she wants and how she feels, and then she's up. She is allowing other people to do that work. And that's what I want you to.
Allow these men to do.
Let them do things for you.
And I know that that is harder to do than to say.
But it is a game changer.
This is about interdependence, which is a very important point in concept, in relationships. As. As a woman, I want you to know that you can do all of these things, but I want you to be able to take some of these things off of your plate for your own convenience, for your own peace of mind and stress levels.
Okay? Not because you're trying to.
Stroke his ego, but because it feels good for you.
Okay?
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