A short dating-advice video (YouTube) by Anwar White advising people—particularly women—to communicate needs and desires clearly to partners. Uses a dialogue example about choosing food ("I don't know" vs explicit request) to illustrate that vague signals force partners to guess; recommends direct statements of wants and moving on if a partner consistently fails to respond.
Babe, are you hungry?
I'm not, but she is. And if I don't eat, she won't eat. So let me just do it. Yeah. What do you want to eat?
I don't know.
I don't know means she doesn't want to decide and wants me to come up with an idea. How about pizza?
How about McDonald's?
This means she wants it. Hundred percent. Okay, McDonald's it is.
Okay, let's do it.
Okay, let's do it means she wants me to do it, girl.
Or you can simply say, hey, I'm feeling like McDonald's. Can you go and get some for me? And let it be that. And let men show up for you. Men should not have to learn a whole new language just to communicate with you. Your job is to communicate your needs and your desires clearly so that they can just show up for you and make it happen. If they don't know what you want, they won't be able to make it happen. So please realize that it is up to you to actually let them know. That's the roadmap. That's what they're looking for. That's what they want. And for so many of us who have not had so many of our needs fulfilled, it can feel really triggering and bring a lot of anxiety because we don't necessarily think that our needs are going to be fulfilled. If they aren't, nine times out of ten, that guy's probably not for you. So just share your needs, let him know what you want, and if he can't do it for you, go on to the next. Simple as that. I hope that helps. And if you need help dating, like this book a call.
