Anwar White argues Black women should skip "alpha" guys for "Alphabet" men who combine masculine traits like providing and planning with feminine ones like emotional availability and asking consent. He contrasts specific behaviors: who initiates calls, listens during disagreements, helps with household tasks, and organizes trips.
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Girl, stop dating alpha guys. And the reason I say that is because it actually isn't going to be a good match for you where you are right now and in the year 2024 and beyond. A lot of women are in their masculine energy because you need to be to thrive in this new capitalistic world. A lot of women in their masculine energy are searching for these men because they think that these alpha, hyper masculine guys are going to help them get into their feminine energy. That's not their job. That's your job. You have to create soft life for yourself and be in your feminine energy to evaluate whether these guys have true masculine energy or not. Yeah. So I want to offer that because I think a lot of people get mixed up around that. Instead of going for the hyper masculine alpha guys, I want you to go for what I call the Alphabet guys. And no, not gay guys, girl. Because sometimes people call gay people Alphabet people. I don't know why they do that. As your fairy godbrother, I want you to go for guys that have both energies that are action oriented in their masculine energy, but also have the emotional availability in their feminine energy. I call them Alphabet guys and I want you to go for them. Now, how do you evaluate whether a guy is an Alphabet guy versus an alpha guy? When you are dating an alpha guy, he'll just call you. An Alphabet guy will ask consent to call you first. Right. If you're setting up a date, an alpha guy will just tell you location, place, time. Right. Which sounds good and sounds fun and all of that. An Alphabet guy will ask you what would please you the most, where do you want to go? Right. And that's what you tell him. And then he does it.
When you are having a discussion, an argument, a disagreement with an alpha guy, he'll try to shut you down immediately. An Alphabet guy will seek to understand and listen before talking. Yeah. Even on vacation, you know, the guy that is rambunctious and louder and charismatic, that's probably the alpha guy. The Alphabet guy is probably the chill guy who organized the whole trip and who organized a dinner that they're all at or an event that they're all at. A lot of people call them the airport dads. That's the Alphabet guy. One of the things that I've noticed when growing up is many times when I grew up, especially in black households, the men would just sit and watch TV and football and the women would cook all day. Those are alpha guys. Alphabet guys are providers. They are giving the money and then they're not just sitting down while women are cooking, they're also out on the grill cooking or doing other things as well. This is the difference between alpha and Alphabet. And what I've learned is Alphabet guys make the best husbands. Alpha guys are fun and take care of some things, but oftentimes they're working a lot so they don't actually have quality time and they're emotionally unavailable. There is a huge trend going around with trad wives. Most of those trad wives are getting divorced because they're actually living single mother lives and it isn't fun for them. Now, if you want to learn how to balance your energies to attract Alphabet guys, definitely book a call with me. I hope this helps.
