Short YouTube video (Anwar White) giving dating advice: a great first date should be simple—coffee, ice cream, a walk, or a drink—rather than an extravagant dinner. The speaker argues shorter low-pressure dates are better for assessing mutual interest and warns that overly lavish first-date gestures can signal narcissistic or controlling behavior.
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Hey, girl. Do you want to know what a great first date is? Well, I talk to a lot of women on my lives, and one of the things that they tell me is, oh, I really want a nice, extravagant situation. And I want to let you know that we shouldn't be looking for that and we shouldn't be expecting that. A great first date is a coffee, an ice cream, a walk, a drink, right? You don't want to go on dinner dates. You don't know the person. You might feel stuck, and there's an expectation for a longer date. On first dates, our focus is just figuring out, do we want to learn more about this person? And did we have fun? Ultimately, at the end of the day, sometimes women will think that because these shorter dates are not as extravagant that they're considered low effort. You're not entitled to an amazing, extravagant first date. I think it's really important to understand that men are trying to figure out if they want to get to know you or not and want to invest more in you. Here's what I want to offer to you, because this is really important, and I don't think a lot of people understand this. The men that are going to roll out the red carpet for you are probably more so than not going to be the more toxic and narcissistic men that are trying to butter you up so that they can control you in the future. You want someone that is literally just going to figure out if he wants to get to know you or not. Comment below and let me know what you think or if you've experienced this before.
