Anwar White explains why men's midlife crises often hit around 35, especially for men of color, since they tend to die around 70. He says they get depressed, act out for months, then settle down. His advice: give stable 32-33 year-old men a shot, and age gaps matter less once you're both retired.
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Dee Dee said, what's the tea with men with their midlife? You mean their crisis, girl. Well, the gag is before.
Well, first of all, you have to understand that a midlife for a man is 35 years old because men are dying at 70.
Especially if they're men of color, girl. So please understand that, like, midlife is 30, 35. 35 to 45, girl. Yeah, girl. What happens is they realize I haven't done with my life and I have no legacy. And.
So there's huge disappointment and depression. And so for like six months, they're gonna act a fool to, you know, pretend like they're living and then they're gonna get back to business. A lot of these guys are, like, not as serious as you may think.
So, like, that's why, like, girl, if you're in your older 30s, sometimes you might have to give these 32, 33 year olds a chance. Honey, don't act brand new. You hear me? If he's coming. Correct. Girl, don't. Sometimes these girls are like, oh, my God, he's like a little boy. Like, it's like a little brother. No, girl, that man is 32, 33. And if he's stable and if he's doing everything that he needs to do, that's the only thing that matters. Because, girl, you're gagging. But here's the tea, girl.
When you're 65 and he's 60, you're retired, girl. And he's still working.
As you grow older, that age difference doesn't matter now. It mattered a lot when you were 10 and he was 5, but, girl, it's not going to matter as much anymore.
Fairy Charm said advice on Japanese men. I'm in Japan.
