How can you avoid disappointments?

Alexis said, how do I let my guard down, Let down my guard when dating after dealing with a lot of disappointment in the past from men.

By understanding that you will never deeply connect with a man unless you are vulnerable. Right. So there are a lot of.90% of the guys out there are not ready for a relationship. So now that you know that, now that you know that 90% of the guys that you meet will be a disappointment, what now?

What now? I always say that disappointment is the difference between your expectations and reality. So the way to get over disappointment is actually to not have any expectations. I always tell my clients, like, girl, these guys are not real till they get to a physical third date.

So a lot of people and no shade. Cause I was this girl as well, where like, I'd be on a first date with some really pretty light skinned boy and I'd be like, oh my God, we're gonna have an amazing wedding and our babies are gonna be so cute, you know, and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And girl, then girl, guess what? Three days later.

Puff the Magic Dragon, Casper, Ghost. Yeah, we gotta lower the expectation. These guys, they're like, you got to pretend like they're AI, they're nothing, they're nobody, right? Until they are somebody. And if that doesn't help you, I want you to think about this. Like, sometimes we will trick ourselves and think like we know these guys and that they're the one. But I always say, like, if you're talking to a guy, you will only know like 3% of a guy every week. So if you're talking to a guy for two weeks, please understand that you only know about like 6% of him. Yeah, that will help to ground you because many of us think that. Oh my God, I know all of him. He's everything. He's my man. No, he's not. You know 6% of him now. What? And you get to love the 6% that you know, but your job is to know the majority of him before we make the bigger determination of whether this guy has the boyfriend skills. Yeah.