A short monologue (YouTube/speaker transcript) advising women on setting boundaries during courtship: prefer scheduled calls and avoid being constantly available. The speaker links hyper-availability to parental conditioning (picking up immediately for parents) and cites the Cassie–Diddy texting pattern as an example of inappropriate, coercive calling behavior.
How can we become a bad girl after being a good girl with a man? Lots of boundaries.
Okay? So if you let a man just call you whenever, whenever. This is in the courtship. This is not in a relationship. The way that you become a bad girl is letting him know. Actually, I would prefer scheduled calls.
I'm available at 7 tonight or 12 tomorrow.
See how I'm telling this man what to do instead of just being.
You don't want to be a 24. 7. 7 11.
Yeah.
Yeah. Don't be 7:11.
Someone said that's me. Yeah. You know why? Because a lot of us are 24. Seven. You know, seven elevens for our parents. If your mom calls you and you drop everything that you're doing for her, even if you have things to do. And some of you are gonna hate me for saying this, but I'm gonna tell you that's a problem. It's a problem when you drop everything for someone. If you have a mother that calls you incessantly two, three, four, five times until she. Until you pick up, no shade. But that's a problem. And she's programming you to drop everything that you're doing.
To see her.
Girl, if you read the transcripts of the Cassie and Diddy situation.
That'S exactly what he would do to her. He would call her 3, 4, 8, 9, 11 times until she picked up.
So please understand that if that is a normal interaction between you and your parents, it's a wrong one.
