A short YouTube monologue by Anwar White offering dating advice—especially aimed at nurses—arguing that rather than actively searching for men, women should center themselves, set clear boundaries, and use positive reinforcement (expressing gratitude, allowing men to solve problems) to 'raise' a man's testosterone and increase his investment. The speaker emphasizes self-improvement, clear communication of boundaries, and strategically reinforcing desirable behaviors.
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Someone said, I'm a nurse. How do I find a man? Girl, in. In the emergency room, girl, right when they wake up, that's when you need to snatch them up. They might be coming out of a coma, girl. That's when you let them know, oh, I'm your wife.
No, the T is nurses. Your. This is the thing. I'm not going to tell you how to find a man. That's not the focus. I don't care. We don't care about men. We care about ourselves. And what we need to figure out is how can I level up as myself, okay? And what I know about nurses is that what happens is because in your everyday life, you are literally centering other people. That is your job, that you will start to center your partners, right? In relationships, romantic or otherwise. And so your job is to learn how to take up space and center yourself. Because when you do that, you're gonna find, you're gonna find the right man, the man's gonna find you. You don't have to find a man. See how you always try to find a man. You're doing too much already. You gotta focus on yourself, center yourself, take up space.
And they will come to you. You know those girls that are like always like, they're just really selfish. They're really self centered. They're really focused on themselves. They're just doing them and they just expect a lot of that, everybody to do everything for them.
No shade. They always have a man.
And everybody's like, oh my God, I don't understand why she has a man. She's such a bitch. No, she has really clear boundaries. She communicates them and she attracts men that want to please and satisfy her. When I say stress a man out, that's what I'm talking about.
That will actually be attractive to the right man because he wants to please you. And men like challenges. When they overcome a challenge, they are literally like their testosterone is going to grow. And your job is just like, no shade, girl. Fuck these dudes. Your job is to just raise their testosterone, right? If you raise a man's testosterone, he's going to fall in love with you.
That's the tea that no one's really talking about, right? So what raises testosterone? When he does something for you, when he solves a problem, when he pleases you, when you show gratitude. If you are nagging or complaining or Criticizing a man, minus two points, minus five points, you always want to be plus five plus 10 points. And any guy that you're talking to that you like, yeah, in terms of his testosterone. Oh, my gosh. Thank you so much for calling me. I feel so valued and. And cherished. Thank you so much for planning this date. This was amazing. You really know how to make a girl feel really special.
Testosterone plus two points.
Y' all hear me here? Y' all hear me? Because I'm giving you t, girl. A lot of y' all are not raising the man's testosterone. Why do I know? I know. I know. Some of y' all are like, why do I gotta do that for a guy? What's that? Tea for the church girls and also the sinners. When you give in, when you give a little bit of that, you're gonna get tenfold back. Now, this is a. This. This. That's. That's black talk. Yeah. Give and it shall be given unto you, pressed down, shaken together.
The girls who know.
Yeah. Tenfold. It comes back to you tenfold. That's why you do it. But you have to initiate it.
