This content was created by Anwar White. This content was uploaded by Anwar White. This is a YouTube video titled "How can you tell if a guy is into you?" created on September 9, 2024. It features a monologue by a speaker providing advice on dating, specifically discussing how to interpret a man's interest and the importance of actions over words in relationships.
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Okay. Alexis said, I went on a date with a guy, and he didn't compliment me or show physical attraction. And I combo with surface level. Any tips on getting to deeper conversations, knowing if he's into me? If he is asking you out on another date, he's into you.
So.
I need you to know that the gag is, and I have to tell this to my clients all the time, men that are actually very serious about you oftentimes won't make a move on you.
Until, like, date two or three or even four. So I say that because I think a lot of women are like, oh, my God, he's not into me, girl. If he's asking you out once a week, he's in it. He's in it enough to continue to date you, and that's all that you can really ask for at this point.
Okay.
But it's up to you to get into deeper conversation. We cannot wait for men to dictate the emotional depth of conversations. That's your job, unfortunately, however archaic it sounds as the woman, to initiate that vulnerability. So if y' all are not going deep enough, I want to say that there's maybe some opportunity for you to start to, you know, bring up or approach certain subjects.
And here's the thing. A compliment doesn't mean a damn thing when you're saying this. It lets me know that you are valuing words over actions. We oftentimes need to value actions over words.
A lot of players, a lot of narcissists will compliment you and over compliment you. It doesn't mean anything.
Now, what I would want to be an observation of is, is there a transact? Like, is. Is the. Is the trajectory increasing? He might be really nervous, girl.
A lot of times what's happening is that, you know, if you've ever. Okay, let me. Let's talk. Let's talk about it, Ladies. Have you ever been dating a guy or you've liked a guy, and then you find out like, hella long later, and he tells you, oh, my God, I've been liking you since sophomore year. And you're. You're a senior now. Graduation is tomorrow.
Right? A lot of these guys won't show you that they like you, compliment you, because some of them are shy, some of them are nervous. Some of them are what have you.
A compliment doesn't mean as much as you think it does.
In the scheme of all things. Now, what I will tell you, though, it might mean something to you, and it might mean something to you because you might be one of those girls. That grew up in a household where she was never told that she was pretty, and she was only told that she was smart. And so now what you desire from these men is for them to tell you that you're pretty.
If that is your history, if that is your lived experience variance, then we need to heal some inner child wounds, and it's not about that guy.
