Anwar White explains how to spot the difference between genuine interest and fetishization from white men. Watch for obsessive comments about your skin, lips, or nose, remarks about "contrast," and invasive behavior like saying your skin smells different. An anecdote from Berlin shows how far this can go.
Hey, Kai says, how to tell if a white guy is interested in you versus fantasizing about you? Good question. Well, first of all, if he is, I always say a lot of white guys are actually quite interested in women of color. Black women specifically. I would say, like a third of them are. Yeah. And so.
One of the things that I think is really important to figure out, am I just a fetish or if I'm serious, a guy who is, like, into, like, fetishizing. You will talk a lot about your physicality. He'll talk about your skin. He'll talk about your bigger lips or your bigger nose. He'll talk about. He'll do that weird thing where they're like, oh, my gosh, look at the contrast. As someone who's dated many white guys, once that happens, girl, you gotta run the other way, girl. That's the. Give us a. Give us a free moment and you gotta go the other way. Yeah. I lived in Germany many, many years ago, and a lot of the guys are like that, right? He. That some one guy was even like, your skin smells different.
Girl. I thought I was in Silence of the Lambs. Girl. I thought I was a goner, girl. I had to.
The other way, girl.
Yeah, they were kinky out there. But I.
I lived and I died in Berlin, Germany. That's all I gotta say. Yeah, but, girl, never let a white man smell your skin. Moral of the story.
