A short YouTube monologue (personal-development advice) in which the speaker encourages single women to focus on internal self-work rather than cosmetic changes. Key advice includes keeping promises to oneself, setting boundaries, stopping self-deprecating behavior, prioritizing personal needs (including financial autonomy), and adopting a ‘main character’ stance in life.
Gloria said, being single is a great opportunity to work on yourself 100%. And here's the thing, y' all are. When I say work on yourself, I'm not talking about, oh my God, let's get this, let's get this waist down. Let's get the cheek fillers, right? I mean, you can do that if you want to. What I'm talking about is.
Learning how to be a woman of your word. When you say you're gonna do something, do it. Get those boundaries in place. Stop apologizing for things that are not your fault. Right? Stop that self deprecating humor. That is not cute. That's what I'm talking about. I'm talking about learning how to be the main character in your life. Some of y' all know shade are serving chubby, funny best friend in a Hallmark movie. And y' all gotta be given protagonists, honey. Yeah.
So. And I say all of that with love. I hope you all know I'm not coming for anybody because I literally 15 years ago, I had, I had to have the same conversation with myself. There were. I used to hang out with all of these white gay boys that would literally take my personality and make it their own and then become the main character of our friend group. And it was crazy. It was insanity. And I was like, this is bizarre. Like, I've got to be the main character. I've got to do things for me. I have to book that flight, right? I have to stop giving people money and doing things for people. Y' all need to do the same thing. All, all that money that you're giving to your family and your friends, keep it for yourself and treat yourself with that money. Many of us, especially if you're smart and successful and one of the only people in your family will do this because you have this success guilt and you feel guilty about doing well for yourself when you keep on giving money to those people, you are literally staying in your masculine energy. And it's going to be even that much more difficult for you to accept the love and the caring from man. And your future husband is going to want to do that for you. Okay? So no more money to family and friends. And when they come to you saying, oh my God, can you give me $200? I really need it for XYZ. I'm so sorry, I'm not able to do that right now. Is there anyone else I can help you? Oh, there isn't. Oh my God, that really sucks. I'm so sorry to hear that. I have to go, but I'M I'm rooting for you. And I'm praying for you.
