Anwar White and a co-host tackle people-pleasing by centering yourself through boundaries, especially with parents. In dating, they recommend a reciprocity rule: don't do things for men first. Make them show they're invested before you invest.
Mika said hi amwar. How do I stop people pleasing tendencies? In dating, you're gonna have to learn.
How to center yourself.
Which means that you're going to have to set boundaries with your parents.
If you can't set them with your.
Parents, you won't be able to set them with men. And you will man please in dating. And when you please a man first, they have no incentive to please you.
This is why everything that you do in dating has to be in reciprocation of.
So these men have to do a.
Lot for you for you to do anything for them.
That's the gag here that I think a lot of people are not telling you.
I want you to know something because.
A lot of our mothers and grandmothers.
Are teaching us that like we do everything for everyone and then we become.
The person that everybody loves.
That doesn't, it doesn't work like that.
A man falls in love with you based on what he does for you.
Not for, not what you do for him.
In 2024, 2025, if you're doing things for him, he has no incentive to do anything for you. You're already g.
So don't do anything for these men.
It's such a great strategy.
It's such a great strategy because the.
Men that are.
Who really want you.
They'Ll keep on doing things for you and won't want anything in return.
Will feel offended if you try to do things for them.
That's what it looks like.
You gotta know something about this though. It means that you're not gonna get life from 95% of these men, but you gotta hold out.
You're gonna have to have 150, 200.
Conversations with men before you find a couple that are going to be doing exactly what needs to be done.
#datingtips #datingadvice #datingadviceforwomen #singleblackfemale #singleblackfemale #blackfeminini
Dating Pitfalls of the Smart and Successful Woman - Get Your Guy Podcast S1 E2
