Anwar White argues you shouldn't ask men for gifts. Instead, practice visible self-love like buying yourself flowers and talking about it. That inspires partners to give. Asking directly or complaining backfires.
User227 said, how do I ask for gifts? You don't.
You don't ask for gifts.
What is this, Christmas?
What is he supposed to be, Santa Claus?
The way that you will receive gifts, gifts is by being fully obsessed with yourself.
Why?
Because when you, like, can't get enough of yourself and you actually treat yourself, he will be. If he is your to be your man, he will be so inspired that he will want to give to you.
You want him to give you flowers.
Like these that I get every two weeks.
The way that that starts is by having flowers around your house and starting to get them for yourself. And when you're texting him and you're like. And he's saying. He's saying things. Oh, what did you do today? Oh, I went to the farmer's market and I got myself some flowers because they always make me feel really good and I love the scent that they bring to my kitchen.
Do you see how you're obsessed with yourself? And now he's going to be inspired and he's want. He. He is going to want you to feel those same ways, but he wants to be able to provide those feelings for you.
See how that works, ladies?
See how sometimes one plus one can equal three.
That's what I'm talking about, girl.
And this is why I say dating is a skill.
It's a skill, honey. Some of y' all just asking men for flowers, asking men for gifts, girl. Don't ask a man for much of anything. Don't definitely don't tell a man.
To get you these things. Don't have that expectant.
Energy. Don't have that entitled energy, girl. That is a repellent.
When you say things like, oh, I thought you would have gotten me flowers or something. You never getting flowers from that man again.
That's not how it goes, honey.
And that's the thing, right? That like many of us actually don't understand or know men.
Because we're not, like, engaging with them. We don't hang out with them often. We don't have close male relationships. So many of us do. They don't know how to navigate and be with men and understand.
Like, what satisfies them.
What they want, what they want to do.
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