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How do you assess emotional intelligence?

Name: How do you assess emotional intelligence?
Uploaded: 2025-12-07T18:43:38.460191
Duration: 1 min 7 s
Channel: Anwar White
Description: Speaker (Anwar White) answers the question: how to assess emotional intelligence in relationships. He advises observing how a person responds when you…

7 Dec 2025 · 1 min

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Speaker (Anwar White) answers the question: how to assess emotional intelligence in relationships. He advises observing how a person responds when you are vulnerable and when you set boundaries — specifically whether they prioritize your needs, respond with empathy and curious follow-up questions, or dismiss/deflect by calling you "sensitive" or "dramatic" or shifting focus to themselves.

Okay. Someone said, how do you assess for emotional intelligence?
Great question. So.
What I'm looking for is, what does he do when you're vulnerable with him?
What does he do when you set boundaries with him?
Yeah.
Is he putting your needs above or before his own?
That's the question that I have for you. That's what we're looking for here.
If he is. If you're vulnerable with him and he says you're being sensitive.
You'Re being dramatic, or he starts talking about himself.
We're looking for empathy. We're looking for sympathy. We're looking for curious follow up questions.
Okay.
Yeah. There's much more where that comes from. I share that all in my program with my clients. Yeah. When he says, just joking, run.