Dating coach Anwar White breaks down three flirting styles: physical touch and eye contact, intellectual banter, and emotional compliments. He explains why Black and Brown women often struggle to flirt due to aggression they've faced, and argues that playfulness actually strengthens relationships.
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Okay, Someone said, how do I flirt? Okay, so there are different ways to flirt. You can flirt, you can give va, va, voom. Which is more physical. You can flirt more intellectually. You can flirt more emotionally. Emotional is more like compliments, gratitude. Intellectual is like banter. Physical is like touch, eye, life, smile. So those are, like, initial ways to flirt. But the thing about flirting. And you know what's really interesting? You know, I've been a dating coach for black and brown women for a very long time. And one of the things that I've learned is that a lot of. Because in life, a lot of women of color, black women, experience so many micro and macro aggressions that being serious because you want to be respected is your way of life. But in dating, that's not relatable.
That you're gonna have to learn how to banter and flirt, and it feels wrong to do because you always want to be taken seriously because of your lived experience. And so. But you're gonna have to learn how to flirt and banter. And because you flirt and banter, it doesn't mean that these guys are not going to take you seriously. They're going to actually take you more seriously when you're able to do that, because that's actually how they connect with their guy friends. And I was just talking about this, but the formula to be a wife is homie, lover, friend. If you can't be the homie and you just can be the friend, it's going to be a problem.
