How do you get out of the desperate energy?

Someone said, how do you get out of the desperate girl energy? You have to start how you finish. You will get into a desperate girl category. If you are texting him, if you are calling him, initiating all of that communication, if you are freaking out every time he doesn't text you immediately, you're going to be put into that desperate girl category. Your emotional state has to be even the entire time. You have to be able to take or leave these guys.

Yeah.

So you have to treat every guy as if he's one of many. A lot. What's happening for a lot of the quote unquote, desperate girls is.

He'S my one and only. And so you put a lot of pressure on him that he has to be everything for you. And he feels that pressure, he feels that weight, and it makes him want to run away.

That level of energy does not inspire a man. And men ultimately want to be inspired.

Right.

You have to create space for men to pursue you or they lose interest.

I talk about the, the possum and opossum often. It is a one of the fewer pouched animals, mammals in North America. And they were able to survive because when, when animals are hunting them, they play dead.

And when they play dead, the animal loses interest in trying to kill and eat it. So I'm sharing this with you because what happens is when you do too much, you are playing dead and it becomes not fun to engage with you.

In dating, we want to have fun, we want to banter, we want to flirt. Men want to pursue you. Some men want to chase you. Right.

But if you're chasing them, anytime anybody chases you, you're gonna run away. Even in the game, attack.

Yeah.

So that's why I say you have to start how you finish. We can't chase anyone.

Chase your dreams.

Chase your goals.