Anwar White argues the problem isn't the man, it's the feelings you tied to him. The fix: figure out what you actually miss, then find those feelings elsewhere through new people and experiences.
Someone said, how do you get over a man? Well, it. Well.
I think the question is flawed.
It's really not. What you experience is oftentimes not about the man.
You're centering him.
But you have to center is yourself. And what you experience, what you allow to be experienced, what feelings you experience while you are with this person. This could be a completely different person. But if you experience the same things and the same feelings, then this is about you.
So I think you're already giving this man, like, who you didn't work out with so much power.
What I want you to understand is what you experienced, why you experienced it. Because for many of us.
We split our memories when we break up with someone. We either go, it's all positive or it's all negative, right? Without actually understanding.
How to realistically look at the reality of the situation.
Okay? So you're gonna have to look at it honestly, looking at the good and the bad. But you're gonna have to focus on the feelings.
If you feel like you miss the man, you don't miss the man. You miss the feeling that you had when you were with the man. And your job is to find that feeling in other.
New people and new events or experiences.
Okay?
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Dating Pitfalls of the Smart and Successful Woman - Get Your Guy Podcast S1 E2
