A short YouTube talk (by Anwar White) about overcoming the fear of judgment by identifying and reinforcing your support network or "tribe." The speaker contrasts ancestral fear of banishment with modern reality (we won't die) and recommends grounding yourself in people who know and love you (e.g., family, best friends) as a foundation to care less about external judgment. Includes a personal anecdote about bullying and relying on his mother's love.
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User 551 how do you get past the fear of judgment? First, you have to figure out who your tribe is. So many of us are scared of judgment because we think that it's like, you know, caveman, cave woman days. We're going to get banished from the tribe, and when that happens, we're going to die. And it's the same kind of feelings that we have now, but the gag is we're not going to die. So it's, like, important for you to reinforce your tribe. One of the things that helped me when I was growing up and getting bullied and all this stuff, and a lot of people did not like me for x, y and z reasons. I've always had a mouth on me, and it's been. I've always been quite sharp and smart. I always realized, well, here's the thing. My mama loves me. That's it. So I. So you got to figure out who loves you and use that as a foundation to realize I don't really care. I got my best friend. I got my mom. I got this person. Those are my people. They got me. They're holding me down. And that's all I need because those people know you. Most of the people that are judging you only know a certain percentage of you.