Anwar White argues women can juggle multiple dating prospects by splitting attention equally and scheduling texts at set times instead of replying instantly. He traces the urge to respond immediately to family and cultural patterns, citing Caribbean and West African examples, and says it's a habit worth breaking.
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Someone said, I can't handle a roster. Yes, you can.
Yes, you can. You can handle it. You. The reason why a lot of women think that they can't handle a roster or Olympic dating is because you're used to giving 100% to these guys. So when you have three guys, you think that you're gonna have to give a hundred percent of yourself to them. What I'm offering to you is that you need to give each one of these guys 33%.
That's what it looks like.
That's what it looks like. Because.
One of them will drop every week. It's like.
I don't know, American Idol girl.
Every guy gets 33%. The other thing is, when a guy texts you, you don't need to answer him right away. When you're texting, you need to have specific times where you're texting your dudes. I was just telling this to my clients, and I'll tell it to you, too, even though you haven't paid me.
Half time. Breakfast, lunch, dinner. Treat these men like meals and just eat them up. Breakfast, you chatting with all your dudes. Lunch, you chatting with all your dudes. Dinner, you chatting with all your dudes.
That's it.
That's it.
What's freaking you out and tripping you out is every time a guy texts you, you feel like, oh, I gotta text him back.
Don't be that girl. Yes, honey. Devour these men. The reason why you do that is because you have a bonding pattern.
And let me know if this is true. For many of you.
You were taught, probably from your mother, maybe from your dad, that if someone texts me or calls me, I have to. I have to respond immediately. And if you don't believe me, miss a call from your mother. She'll probably call you right back two or three times.
So you're taught that I have to drop everything for someone that I like and love?
Yeah.
Also.
Wait, someone said. You're right, sir. Oh, my God. Yes. Yeah.
Honey, said the Caribbean mom. Squirrel. If you are from Caribbean, Nigerian, Ghanaian. I pray for you every night.
Every night.
Now, I vogue when I cross, but I'm still praying.
I vogue it down, but I still pray for you. Okay.
We have to unlearn it, ladies. We have to unlearn it.
