Anwar White explains why the urge to confront a toxic guy often comes from childhood, especially for Black and Brown women who weren't heard. Instead of retaliation, he suggests stating your boundary clearly: "that isn't going to work for me," then stepping away to heal rather than seek revenge.
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Sabina said how to put a toxic guy in his place.
Why do you want to. Why do you want to fight fire?
That's toxic, girl. And that's not me coming for you.
This is about your. And I think this is such an important.
Point, especially if you are into. If you're a black or brown woman. Oftentimes you may have grown up not being able to express yourself, not being able to talk back, not being able to be heard. You were seen, but you were not heard. So what happens is that when you're an adult, you want to tell everybody about themselves and you want to get your lick back and you want to tell, you know, you want to, you know, put somebody in their place, as my sister said. Right. That's not it.
This is your little girl trying to gain control of the situation.
One of the ways that you can stop yourself from being in toxic situation with toxic guys is by your boundaries and by your vulnerability. Okay, so the boundaries is when he messes up. I just. I say, this isn't going to work for me, and I step away.
