Anwar White argues that men stress when they can't solve problems or be providers. Boundaries, vulnerability, and challenges actually help them grow, even though they claim to want peace.
Kai said, how do you stress a man out? As you often say, you do this in a variety of different ways. And when I say this, I don't say this as like being, don't be a bitch, don't nag. You stress a man out by having boundaries. You stress a man out by being vulnerable and him having to hold that space for you. You also stress a man out by giving him problems that he can solve so that he self actualizes. Oftentimes men will say that they want peace. They don't want peace, they actually want to. They want self actualization, which means that they become the man that they've always envisioned themselves to be. And so if a guy is saying, I want peace, it means that there's a war inside of him.
Men want to feel like they are the best versions of themselves. And one of the ways that you can do that is to allow men to do things for you and to show up as the hero that they want to be. Right? A man wants to solve problems. Problems are stressful, right? When I say give him problems, it means, hey, can you help me solve this? Hey, can you do this for me? Hey, can you take my car to the dealership? Hey, can you do this? Things that he can solve. That's how he has to do things for you, to bond with you and to actually fall in love with you.
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Dating Pitfalls of the Smart and Successful Woman - Get Your Guy Podcast S1 E2
