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How do you understand a guy's behavior after the dates?

Name: How do you understand a guy's behavior after the dates?
Uploaded: 2025-12-07T18:43:46.046209
Duration: 45 s
Channel: Anwar White
Description: A YouTube monologue by Anwar White responding to a viewer question about why men seem to express strong future-oriented promises on first dates but later…

7 Dec 2025 · 1 min

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A YouTube monologue by Anwar White responding to a viewer question about why men seem to express strong future-oriented promises on first dates but later pull back. The speaker argues men genuinely feel high emotions in the moment (present-focused), which often decline after the date, whereas women’s feelings tend to grow after reflecting away from the date.

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Crab said, why do boys lie about the future to me on the first date? I need to break from them. I need a break from them.
They don't lie. They actually really, truly feel that way in the moment because they're just happy and guys are just like very much in their present. So like if they're happy, they're gonna say a lot of really great things. But like those feelings are going to like go to zero after the date, right? Whereas, and this is the difference between men and women, for women the feelings will grow even afterward, right? You have a great date, you're actually going to have more feelings after the date when he's not in front of you, his feelings are going to go down. And so he's like, what? He was that high he was feeling on the date, he's going to feel maybe half of that if that after the date.