After a breakup, women feel it immediately while men often don't realize what they've lost until their ex moves on or dates someone better. Block your ex, delete their number, and live like you're already in a relationship to make room for someone new.
Curry golden said, how do you win the breakup? Well, first of all, breakups are not to be won or lost. The fact that you're asking this question lets me know that.
You'Re not doing well with the breakup. Here's what I want you to understand about how men.
Like when the breakup happens. What happens? Right. Because men and women will actually be affected differently. Women will be affected immediately.
They'll be affected immediately because they're actually like, more in touch with their emotions and feelings. And so you may feel like you're losing the breakup because he is completely not affected at all. But that's because it hasn't hit him yet.
It hasn't hit him that he's actually broken up with you. Because here's the thing that many of you all may not know. When men break up with you in their. In their heads.
It. They don't feel like they've broken up with you. They feel like there's always a chance. They feel like they can always get back with you even if they don't have a chance in hell. That's why you always have random men coming back in your life. Because they always felt, I'll just come back in her life. Like, they don't actually internalize that. It is like a breakup.
The only moment when they understand that it is a breakup is when you have significantly leveled up or when you're with another man.
Then it hits them. Then they are devastated.
So just because they're not suffering a week after you break up, I don't want you to feel like you've lost the breakup.
You're winning because you're actually working through the feelings and you're going to be moving through it faster. Because here's the thing.
You don't need a man.
Men need you. You're their gasoline. They don't go without you.
So when you go off and you level up or you find another person, that's when he realizes that I'm literally on E and there's not a gas station in sight. I can't access. I can't get that gas immediately.
Yeah, honey, though. These men, they'll pop up at a holiday, on a birthday, even when the weather is warm, they'll grow. June 1st.
They'Ll pop up.
That's why you've got to actually block them when. When you're not engaging with them anymore. You as a woman have to block them. And you're not mean if you do that.
For the people pleasers out there that may have some boundary issues.
Blocking is a very very important, necessary and required skill in dating.
Yeah.
What if he blocks you? Good.
Block them all.
You have to understand this though. You have to be living your life as if you want a relationship, ladies.
You have to be living your life as if you are already in a relationship.
That like, you're going to need to create this space for your person to come in.
So.
Your person is not going to have space base.
If you still have 20 or 30 randos in your phone that you haven't blocked that can come into your life at any time.
Just think, you.
On a date with the love of your life and some random man messages you on your phone when you're on a date with your future husband. Do you know how much drama that's going to create?
Clear it out now. Go in your phone this weekend and all of the guys that you haven't talked to in the last month or two, X them out.
You'll be surprised how clear you will feel, how lighter you will feel, and that you are going to be opening up your. Your heart space. Your heart real estate. Yes, honey, block party.
It is so important.
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Dating Pitfalls of the Smart and Successful Woman - Get Your Guy Podcast S1 E2
