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How Should We Raise Our Daughters to set Them Up for a Healthy Dating Life?

Name: How Should We Raise Our Daughters to set Them Up for a Healthy Dating Life?
Uploaded: 2024-01-17T15:03:26+00:00
Duration: 39 s
Channel: Anwar White
Description: A brief monologue advising caregivers — especially in Black and Brown households — to balance emphasis on education with explicit affirmations of girls’…

17 Jan 2024 · 1 min

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A brief monologue advising caregivers — especially in Black and Brown households — to balance emphasis on education with explicit affirmations of girls’ beauty and worth. The speaker argues that over-emphasizing grades without affirming physical/relational value can leave even high-achieving women unprepared for attention in dating, making them vulnerable to praise from predatory partners.

Safa said, how should we, how should we raise our daughters? Best to set them up for best. Set them up best for a healthy dating life. One thing that I've seen a lot of that I think is really important, especially for in black and brown households, is that there's so much. There's a hyper.
Hyper focus on education, which is great. Don't forget to tell these girls that they're beautiful.
I know that sounds really weird, but what I've learned is.
In doing this work for 13 years is that some of the smartest women, like women that you see on TV that I work with all the time.
Were never told that they were beautiful and only got attention based on their grades and what they did. So that what happened was when a guy said that she was beautiful, she would just smell like butter because she wasn't used to hearing that. And the guys that are going to be hyper focused on the physicality of a woman are the lowest of the low.
So it actually like does them a disservice when you don't, like, give them life when it comes to their looks. So you gotta. I think we gotta balance that. That would be kind of a really big thing that I've seen over the years that I've been doing this work.