A short YouTube monologue advising women how to answer men who ask, 'What are you looking for?' The speaker recommends giving broad, non-specific answers early in dating to avoid teaching a man's behavior, staying observational to assess his natural tendencies, and revealing specific preferences later once the relationship reaches a more serious phase.
So Wesley says, how do you answer? What are you looking for? Girl, when a man asks you what you're looking for, he doesn't really care about the answer because he knows that you're looking for marriage or you wouldn't be dating, because that's what most women are looking for.
He's looking. He's trying to assess how you answer the question. Do you get defensive? Right. Do you come up with some bullshit answer? Do you have a caked answer? Right. That is, like, very, like, robotic. That's not gonna work, right? Don't get triggered when he asks you that. Some of the girls get triggered, and then the guys know, oh, she's crazy. I don't need to mess with her. Just be like, you know, be very broad. Don't be specific. Girl. Girl, if you give him. If you give him the answers to the test, he's going to just write the answers to the test, and then when he has you, he's going to do whatever he wants with you. So you want to be broad. You want to just give him, you know, I'm really just looking to make a connection and see what's out there, you know, and meet as many people as possible and hopefully in the long term, have a relationship. But right now, I'm just staying in the present.
Girl, I said a lot, but I also said nothing at the same time. Catch it. Yeah, that's. That's what you want to give because you're in observation mode. You want to see what he's going to do on his own, right? Because here's the thing. Whatever he does on his own, that's his homeostasis. Men either have home training or they don't. Right. When you're telling him, you know, I really like flowers, and I love when guys plan, like, two dates a week. He. If he wants to hook up with you, he's going to get you flowers, and he's going to, you know, take you out twice a week. But that's not his homeostasis. That's not what he would naturally do. That's why I'm saying don't tell him nothing. Don't tell him nothing until you get later on in the courtship, where there's a kind of a threshold and inflection point, and it gets a little bit more serious. That's when you want to start to tell him. You know, these things are great, but I need a little bit more here or a little bit less here. But early on in the courtship, not a Prada.
