A speaker advises accepting coffee or drinks date offers as a way to evaluate compatibility, warns against men who overspend on first dates (labeling extravagant displays as potentially narcissistic or ‘investment-poor’), and contrasts wealthy individuals who favor modest spending with non-wealthy showiness (claiming, e.g., "60% of millionaires drive a Toyota, a Honda"). The speaker also recommends small appearance cues (fingernails, teeth) to assess financial/character signals.
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Jesse said, how do I respond to coffee drinks, first aid offers? Take them. One of the things that you have to realize is that don't go for the guys that try to go extravagant with you on the first date because they don't even know you. So if they're doing this with you, they're doing it with a lot of different people. And you might think that, oh, my God, he thinks I'm special. He doesn't. And toxic and narcissistic guys will want to do this more because they're trying to get you into their web.
Why would I pull out all the stops for someone or something that I know nothing about? It makes me question your due diligence and the way that you think about how to invest in something or someone. Rich and wealthier people, men won't do this. They will go for the coffee or the drink dates to evaluate whether they want to invest in you or not.
Something to think about. It's the same as, like, you know, all of these, like, kind of these poor guys, they'll. They're the ones that will, like, be driving the Mercedes Benz and the BMWs and the Porsches and having these twelve hundred dollar, you know, payments per month. And 60% of millionaires drive a Toyota, a Honda or afford.
These millionaires. They're not shopping at luxury goods stores. They're shopping at Marshalls and Ross and winners because.
Clothes don't make them money.
They don't care about that. Their money makes them money.
Sasha said, yes, Prince Harry lived at TJ Maxx. Something to think about, because I think a lot of us are looking like, oh, my God, does he look rich? If he looks rich, he's poor. He's probably investment poor.
Not all of the time, but most of the time.
Okay.
What if he looks poor? Well, I don't know, girl. He might. He's. He might be poor or he might be wealthy.
Look at his fingernails. His fingernails and teeth will tell you everything.
