Anwar White grades how women should respond to compliments from men. He ranks replies from A to C, favoring responses like "Oh, I'm sure you say that to all the beautiful women" that keep him pursuing, and warns against giving too much with a simple "Thanks."
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Okay, so maybe what might be helpful is if I give examples and then in the chat you can share what you would say in that situation. Or why don't you put some examples of, like, different, like, things that guys say when you're out and about. And then we can figure out, like, what potential, like, responses we can have. If someone.
If someone says.
Oh, hey, you looking beautiful today, what are you gonna say? Let me see. In the chat.
If a. If a guy like, you know, you're walking down the street and he says, oh, you look really beautiful today, what are you saying? Thanks. Thanks. Thanks. Thanks. C. That's a C. You. No. Nope, nope, nope. That's no shade. That's mediocre. Mediocre. Mediocre. Thanks is not enough.
You hear me?
Thanks is not enough. Someone said, smile and say nothing. D.
Just because you say thank you so much does not make it better. You're. That's a C. C response. Someone said just for you. A minus. That's how you banter, honey. You got to let them know I'm here. I'm letting. I'm letting y' all have it. Someone said, do we think he's cute? It doesn't matter. Y' all are trying to marry and y' all need to just banter and flirt and connect and have fun.
That mentality of, is this person going to be my husband is going to kill you every time. Right? You're looking very beautiful today.
Oh, I'm sure you say that to all the beautiful women out there. Now he. Now we've challenged him. Now he has to prove that he doesn't. And he's just doing it for me. That's the A response, right? And now he has. Now he has to give me another compliment. Right? And ladies, just FYI, I'm not. I'm not saying this to shade you all, but I want you to know where you are and where you might need to be.
You hear me?
Someone said, could I be like, do you compliment every woman you see? No. No, you didn't hear what I said. Do you compliment all the beautiful women? Because you still. He needs to know that you already believe that you're beautiful. So in his mind, you're. He's already know. Oh, she gets this a lot. She's not. She's not phase by me just calling her beautiful. Now he has to come even harder with a compliment.
Yeah. Yeah.
Do you see what we're doing here, ladies?
Do you see how we gotta level up here?
Yeah. Okay. Someone said, I'm glad you agree so that's a. That's a little bit like, oh, I'm. I'm. I'm full of myself. Right? And when I give this feedback, it's. I'm not shading, but I'm just going to give you the perspective of. Okay. She. Now she thinks she. All that. Right? The way that you say, I'm glad that you agree is everything right? Because some of y' all have a very, like, over it tone. But if you're, like, warm, then you might be able to make it work. Okay.
Okay.
What about saying I know F, F, F, F, F, F. Yeah, don't do that.
Don't do that. Don't do that.
Girl. Then dead. You deaded the conversation. Why? Because you haven't inspired him.
You haven't inspired him. Men want to be inspired.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah. Someone said just for you.
Bomb, bomb, bomb. Yes. Someone said, thank you, handsome. So that's like a B, B minus response. And the reason why I say that is because when you are giving him a compliment, after he's given you a compliment, you step down from your pedestal.
And like I was just saying, you got to stay on your pedestal, girl.
He's got to continue to prove himself and you need to continue to challenge him.
Right? But if you already given him the compliments, we're on the same page. We're giving. It's giving separate but equal.
Someone said his B is good, though. Yeah, but girl, I'm on a roll. I'm an AP girl. Honey, I'm valedictorian.
I'm not here for you all to be good. I'm here for you all to be great. I believe I'm the best out there, and I want you all to be the best as well.
That's why I. I'm expensive.
I'm not Walmart. So B is not good enough. I want great for myself and all of you out there. That's why we're having this conversation.
Okay?
I mean, do you have anyone else that's giving you this tea?
Yeah.
That'S what I thought. Okay, if he says you look like big money, then you do this.
And you walk the hell on. That's not an. That's not an example. We're not engaging in that.
Okay?
If he says you that you're big money, then he has a small D and a small chance with you.
