A short conversational transcript (YouTube) where the speaker discusses when it’s appropriate to bring up marriage in dating—arguing that marriage is usually the result of multiple conversations of varying depth over time rather than a single surprise proposal, and that early, general discussions (interest, values, openness) are fine while overly detailed plans too early feel like love-bombing.
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Someone asked how soon is too soon for a guy to bring up marriage? I mean, I think the thing about engagement proposals, marriage is that I think a lot of people might think that, oh my God, he's just going to pop the question one day.
This is actually like a six to eight part conversation that can happen, right? And so it can come up before exclusivity, it can come up early when you're in a relationship at the six month, the one year mark, so forth and so on. So I don't know if there's, if it's too soon, because there are different depths that one can talk about as it pertains to marriage, right? You can talk about what you're looking for, what a, what a great marriage looks like to you, right? That you're open to it, that you're looking for, that you want it. If you start going into details about how you and I are going to get married and we're on day two, that's giving me love bomber tea. You don't want that.