Anwar White argues you need to know your own sexual needs and boundaries before committing to celibacy. He warns against using the label as a substitute for actual boundaries and expresses concern about Black women unfamiliar with their own sensuality entering celibacy without that self-knowledge.
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It's naturally Crystal said how to approach dating while you're on your celibacy journey.
Celibacy?
What's that?
I think it has a cell in it. Is it like a jail or a prison?
We got the punani in a prison, girl. Is that what we're giving?
Bail it out, girl. Bail it out.
We're all family hair, girl. We're all, you know, we're just teasing, honey.
We're just, you know.
Chastity belt realness, honey.
Yes, honey. In the club, we're all famous.
How do you navigate your dating journey when you are abstinent or you are celibate? I guess I will answer this question.
Even though I don't want to. And the reason I say this, by the way, I know it's everyone's specific journey, but I will tell you this. There are a lot of black women out there, on a more serious note, who don't. It's giving Charlotte and Sex and the City who have not even looked at their own punani, who don't know what pleases them, who don't are not completely comfortable with their own sensuality and sexuality. So I'm always a little bit, like, hesitant, because if you know all of that stuff already and then you've made a decision around that, great. If you don't know what gets you off and you're doing and you have that girl.
And you want to be on that journey, I worry about it.
I do.
You got to know what gets you off.
Yeah. The other thing is, and this is no shade that a lot of girls are labeling themselves this because they just don't have boundaries.
So if they tell men, oh, yeah, I'm this, then it actually prevents them then to having to set boundaries while they're dating with men. No, girl, let's just strengthen our real boundaries.
Meow.
So something to think about and consider.
Because there are some girls that are out there like that.
