Anwar White and a co-host argue that self-actualized men want partners who are selfish and self-centered. Men who ask for peace need emotional labor and will drain you; men who've done inner work can actually give because they already provide for themselves.
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Girl, if a man tells you that.
He wants you to be his peace.
Please run the other way. I need you to Sha' Carri Richardson Usain Bolt the other way because it means that he has a war inside and probably outside of his life as well and you don't want to be a part of that. Men are not looking for peace, they're looking to be self actualized. And the best way to to actually attract a self actualized man is to be selfish and self centered. Why do I say this? Well first let me just say you know that girl who's like kind of a bitch but she gets her guy, it's because she's self centered and she's selfish. Why does this work? It works because the guys that are self actualized have done all of their work so they don't need you to be giving to them. They're in their giving and provider era because they're able to already give to themselves because they already did the work. The guys that aren't able to do this aren't self actualized. So that's those are the guys that need all the love and the support and the motivation and inspiration and all of that. And if you're a giver, an over giver, a people pleaser, you're going to.
Attract these guys who need, need, need.
From you and you won't be able to attract the self actualized guys. So ladies, be selfish, be self centered, share with these men what you want, what you need, what your feelings are and the self actualized guys will actually deliver it and the guys that aren't won't. Now if you want help being in your selfish and self centered era, definitely book a call with me, but let me know in the comments. Is this something that you've experienced in your own dating journey? Let me know.
