How to be aligned with our emotions?

Let me see. Sierra said the nerds aren't attractive in the slightest. I've tried so hard. Some of them are. Girl, all you gotta do is like take them to the hairdresser, put them in a nice top.

Put those contacts in. Girl, I like glasses myself, but you'd be surprised what a little makeover might do. Yeah, but here's the thing. Most people are, are so. And this is, I think, especially the case for women of color because maybe we haven't been able to fully step into our emotions and, and really be aligned with them, that we will hyper focus and over index in intellectual connection and physical connection. And so a lot of people will be like, he needs to be fine, fine, fine, fine, fine. Because the emotional side of ourselves is pretty sentient. So my work is to help us, like, mature the emotional side of us so that we can make those deeper emotional connections. I know when that happens, that chemistry and physical attraction can actually definitely grow with time.